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Jerry F · Jerry F

I don't usually have these mostly I've suffered from nightmare directly from being born and raised in the disease. But my HP is gentle and kind now in my elder years so I either get the random nightmare or no dreams at all. Last night it was none to start with and I couldn't sleep soooo I went to the kitc...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about how we make the decision that we belong in Alanon. The reading is written by someone whose daughter attends AA meetings for a few years and then makes the decision that her problem isn't truly alcoholism. The parent feels a little bit lost as to whether...

Prissykitty · Prissykitty

After getting a sponsor yesterday my husband came home and put a fentanyl patch in his mouth. No trigger, nothing. He just went downstairs to do laundry and never came up. Three year old was asleep so I couldn't go looking for him. Heard sirens and saw them stop outside our building. Finally a neighbor c...

serenity47 · serenity47

I remember not so long ago when that question tormented me. Why did this happen to our family, why was I being punished ? After all, I had done all of the hard work of responsible parenting, I had survived growing up with an alcoholic and had come out unscathed (lol) so I thought. Why, why , why would ro...

themoonandthestars · themoonandthestars

My son told me that he had been suffering from HPPD. Basically he can start hallucinating at any time. It's scary and triggers his anxiety or it can be triggered by his anxiety, chicken and egg kind of thing. He has reached out to me for help, but I'm at a loss. I'm guessing that nothing but time and abstin...

Mcat54 · Mcat54

So, the weed smell is back in H's car and he's enjoying the liquor his son gave him for his birthday last week. Working my program but feeling suspicious and watchful just the same. Left for work this a.m. and temporarily entertained the thought of looking in his console for his stash before leaving the...

megoreilly · megoreilly

I laid awake most of the night wondering who I could speak to confidentially. I then remembered this wonderful program and am so happy there is an online resource. My live in boyfriend, of 8 years, is spinning out of control. He is an admitted alcoholic, but has recently taken up with his old love, Vod...

sarahGee · sarahGee

My ex has been trying to convince me he's doing better, but he is still smoking weed all day, every day. Living on government assistance, taking money from people who are trying to help him. Now I know well enough to know his bad decisions, I don't want to touch with a 10 foot pole. With all the recent hyp...

tortuga · tortuga

Helo family, it has been long since i last checked in. I am in recovery since I separated from my ABF 3 years ago, an intense but beautiful journey. So many things changed since then, and I'm still and always grateful for this group and movement. But you know, you can never escape some unpleasant facts, a...

Veronica12345 · Veronica12345

My husband is an alcoholic. He tries to hide it from me but I know when he's drinking. I know him so well I swear I can even tell by his text messages. It makes me furious. I know this won't help anything but I feel like if I ignore it things will only get worse. I'm sick of having the same argument over and ove...

joker · joker

I was just reading al-anon literature this morning and I had to share my insight... Dont focus on the problem but instead focus on the solution... A couple things came into mind for me, Solution for alcoholism, !. Focus on self and what is best intrest for me 2. Walk away from the craziness, be it talking...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page addresses our tendency to put the blame for our pain onto someone else. We may resist this truth, but the reality is that we are partly responsible when we take offense or feel hurt from the actions of another.The good news is this means that our mental wellbeing is not completely subject t...

MissM · MissM

I posted a couple of weeks ago that daughter and I had decided to make the most of our surroundings and treat out home as an art project of sorts rather than moan about how much we dislike it, since we are stuck here for another year at least. Here's our first project; please note I realise it is not a thing of...

Prissykitty · Prissykitty

Well. After a relapse last week my dry husband woke up this morning with our three year old so I could sleep in. After about an hour he was rummaging around our bedroom so I got up. He was walking into the wall, shaking, and speaking incoherently. Immediately I knew he had taken something. He cried and sai...

LinSC · LinSC

Have they worked for your qualifier and family?

unbroken13 · unbroken13

Hey all, Just venting a little...since it is my not so favorite time of year again...and I am sure it is the same for a lot of people. Al Anon has helped me live reasonably well with an Active A. However and you know there has to be a however in there.....

the horrible last 6 weeks of the year is still a s...

Fooled · Fooled

So my 24 year old son made an official announcement that he has relapsed. At first he told me by text message and then decided to tell it to my face while I was in the kitchen. He started to talking to me in that very slurred way from across the kitchen but when I said "Whaaaat are you even saying?" over the...

justanotherlostangel · justanotherlostangel

Glad I found this board. I hope to find a meeting at a good time where I live in New York, but thank goodness for the Internet! I have nobody to talk to about my boyfriend. I've unfortunately dated an alcoholic before, and have been to Al-Anon, which has me realizing how many issues I have with whom I pick...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t62998049/alanon...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for December 11 talks about our fantasies, which often includes having a great deal of money. The reading asks the question will all our problems go away if we had all the money in the world? Would money resolve the effects of alcoholism on our families, or make the drinker stop drinking...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

WHAT A WAY TO SPEND DEC. RESULTS OF MRI OF BACK INDICATES ARTHRITIS, VERY NARROWED DISC AND SPOND SOMETHING. i GET TO TRY SOME WACKY PAIN MED AND ENDURE A SPINE INJECTION ON THE 20TH WHICH IS MY GUY AND i'S 1YR ANNIVERSARY OF MEETING. i GET TO BE IN PAIN DURING THE HOLIDAYS BAH HUMBUG!!!!!!!!!!!! LOOKING...

SDB · SDB

So I've gone through the wringer with my husband the last 2 years. There have been multiple emergency hospitalizations and detoxes, the last being in the middle of October. His last relapse was a two-day bender last Thursday and Friday. He hasn't worked for more than a few weeks in the last 2 years and h...

andromeda · andromeda

Quick email here folks! I could use some positive encouragement: I am studying for my series 7 exams, which basically license me to trade securities, sell annuities and finance products. The amount of information that I am having to take in is overwhelming and I'm stumbling over concepts that I kn...

MissM · MissM

Todays c2c discusses our ability to determine acceptable from unacceptable behavior. How can we possibly determine what is acceptable and what isn't when we have been living in insanity and we have no idea what we ourselves need? A 4th step inventory can help us identify our own traits that we like, t...

Mcat54 · Mcat54

Today is the doctor appointment with my husband about his memory issues. He agreed that I can fill in for the doctor if he leaves anything out (30-year pot habit abandoned two months ago, recent interruption in daily alcohol consumption). I'm praying and giving this to HP. With the help of the program...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I don't know when this became my biggest hot button, but I cannot stand being talked down to (or perceiving it or being spoken to in a dismissive disrespectful tone. If I actually HAD been with or around a "rageaholic" qualifier, it would make sense to have this be such and issue, but that wasn't my cas...

El · El

Thank goodness for Alanon, because it is getting really ugly in my neck of the woods. My MIL has been diagnosed with advanced cancer and has maybe 3 months left. As would be expected, this brings up a lot of emotion, history, anxiety and dread. As my AH and sibs were brought up in an A home, the dysfunctio...

Juliexx70 · Juliexx70

I am new to this. My husband is an alcoholic. He is crazy when he drinks. He drives drunk. I want to leave but I can't financially. How on earth do I learn to just stop caring and allow him to hit rock bottom and stay sane.

Jayla · Jayla

This is my first contact with Al Anon. I know I could go to meetings in my town but I don't want to because my town is so small--there can't be any anonymity for me. I may try to go to some meetings in bigger towns when I visit my family. But will have to think of something to tell them I am doing because they don'...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading in C2C is about Tradition Eleven, which suggests Al-Anon's public relations policy is described as being based on attraction rather than promotion. The writer suggests that their first responsibility in Al-Anon is to learn to keep the focus on self and to do the best possible to li...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Hi this is kadri liisa recovering acoa and also al anon....i have been in both fellowships about 7 years and now i sometimes keep doors of al anon and acoa open in my town as groups are small here. I am 32 years old single lady. Currently my flatmate is social alcoholic and i am following and thinking what...

Aerin · Aerin

I wrote a post last Friday that I could tell ABF had been drinking a little and trying to hide it. (he started AA almost 90 days ago) Soooo obvious to me but he thinks I don't notice. Sooooo badly wanted to call him out (as he WAS getting closer to 90 days sober) but I didn't. I stuck to my lessons and said nada....

sarahGee · sarahGee

Last week in my meeting a girl mentioned focusing on drinking water each day. At the time it kind of rolled off my brain, but on the ride home I started thinking about how I don't drink enough water, or any. That eventually lead to me thinking about how little I care for myself. Simple acts, like drinking w...

el-cee · el-cee

When I think of the way I used to live while living within the insanity of the disease it makes me so grateful for Alanon. I was thinking about the things I thought were 'normal' or okay or at the very least I thought just passing phases. I must have known they weren't normal because I kept it all a secret so i...

mauigirl · mauigirl

My husband has been in recovery since May but yet he continues to act like the alcoholic he was while on the drink. He has been reaching out to his family who constantly reject him. He has been consumed with sadness and frustration because of this. I know that in Al-Anon the focus is NOT on the alcoholi...

justjenna · justjenna

Hi, first time here. Haven't talked to anyone yet about this. DH is 75 yo, grew up with functioning alcoholics. Drank heavily when we were first married - but socially. Didn't drink for years and years. Our social set was mostly church folk and we really weren't around drinkers. This summer he s...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Having recently been through a tough period of growth and out pouring of inner poison that had been stuck inside me festering and rotting. Stinking! I wanted to share that now a few days later a great feeling of lightness, cleanliness has settled in. Like I have scrubbed out the muck and dirt inside me....

MegV · MegV

So I am a spouse of an alcoholic who in July spent 10 days in the ICU with an esophageal varices and found out he also has cirrhosis of the liver. He almost died! He spent 5 days in rehab then left remained sober for about 6 weeks. Unfortunately one of his doctors told him he was looking great "like nothing...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Our daily reading today is about taking care of self and allowing the alcoholic to do as they need to for their own journey. I love the quote ---- "The suffering you are trying to ease....may be the very thing needed to bring the alcoholic to a realization of the seriousness of the situation -- literall...

Kim C · Kim C

I wanted to share a positive experience I had recently. My 15 year old son exhibits all of the signs of being an alcoholic....without drinking. He recently had a really bad morning during which he was upset to the point of ridiculous over a very minor issue. The skills I have learned in Al-Anon and fr...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

It's double value day in ODAT: two outstanding quotes to choose from. Both point the way to a peaceful day through patience, warmth, and respect.The first is in the poetic style of Max Ehrmann:"Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible wit...

Fooled · Fooled

I made some big steps in detachment lately. My AS and drug user kept asking me to borrow my car and my daughters car. I was really uncomfortable with it because he is on record as a drug addict and is on probation. How he has a valid license is beyond me but he did show me the paperwork reinstating him wh...

tealfighter · tealfighter

Writing is my solace. I wrote this to "him" this morning. I don't want to react to his behaviour. I want to maintain my sanity and most of all I want to learn to respond rather than reacting. I hate you today. It is the day after my birthday. You didn't think of me. You did not call me. You did not message m...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

I need some advice. My single adult daughter recently told me she has returned to her old habits of drinking and smoking weed. She has gone to rehab 4 times For alcoholism and drug abuse. She said the sober life wasn't her thing. She had been doing really well for the past 2 years. She was gointg to AA but la...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Why do I constantly try and change these drama addicts? Like I tried to change the alcoholic.....I was doing so well for about 2.5 years...(yay!) living peacefully, in a good place, maintaining boundaries, making friends, staying active... then I started getting closer to an individual who is ver...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello Everyone- Today's reading is about decisions, trying to understand our HPs will for us, and paying attention to inward signs about whether we are making choices which are good and healthy for us. In the reading the following statement is quoted: 'Without God, man cannot; without man, God wil...

thekentuckygent · thekentuckygent

Long time lurker, first time poster, but I wanted to start off by saying THANK YOU to all of you for helping me feel not quite SO crazy and alone in all of this. But on to the matter at hand, long story short is that I have a friend of 8+ years that my alcoholic (ex at this point) partner has never been a fan of. I...

Haysinger · Haysinger

Newbie here. Glad I found this board. My wife is binge drinker who recently has become violent. She is in trouble with the law. I'm planning on attending my first meeting tomorrow. Any advice for a first timer? Thanks in advance!

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Hey all Haven't posted for a while. Been working my program and growing. Just wanted to kind of say out loud that as I move forward I am finding AHs drinking behaviours far harder to cope with. I obviously practice 'detach with love,' I move away, don't engage etc but wow, whereas in the past in my numb sta...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reflects the experience of one who, looking back, recalled the great care taken at the supermarket to pick out the small but more flavorful carrots for her children's snacks. As a teen, however, her son lamented how he received the "scrawny" carrots. Ah, perspective... The writer cons...

Emma123 · Emma123

I split with my ah after he turned violent. I had to move out of our shared home. I'm finding the loss incredibly painful. Even though the breakup is for the best I miss him. We had some good times, especially early on in the relationship. I went on a couple of dates with a new man. I felt huge attraction to hi...

Prissykitty · Prissykitty

I'm struggling. I feel that as of late I've been very good at disengaging with love. We have a toddler to co-parent and so when I'm working my program I'm great at ignoring husbands mood swings. I keep my life peaceful and kind of ignore his moaning and whining. He is an insomniac and typically looks exha...

Prissykitty · Prissykitty

He's so broken. He relapsed Friday night. He hates himself. He hates his life even though he has so much he knows he should be grateful for. It breaks my heart to watch him sobbing and talking about what a horrible person he is. His dad died ten years ago tomorrow and he sobs that he misses him. He dabbled in...

Rwisdom08 · Rwisdom08

I grew up with alcoholics and married one. I am at a breaking point and have no one to turn to.

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

I have just returned to Al anon after a 20 year absence. I am so glad and grateful to have found a forum as it really helps me when I write things down. I promise I won't make a habit of venting my every issue but I will get this one off my chest if you don't mind. It's been building for a while. it regards yet anot...

LinSC · LinSC

"We Came, We Ate, We Left" Great One .... Thanks Tiredtonite

MissM · MissM

I know this is kind of whingy but it's making me miserable lately and seems to be my ever present woe so, maybe if I share it, it will get smaller. Sometimes it works that way. Seems like many people have walked the same path as me and separated and then moved on with someone new and things are wonderful..in...

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

I feel that I have been quite good about setting boundaries within the family. I know my limits and I usually instinctively know when I've been sucked in too far. But this time it's the health professional who has sucked me in like a blackhole! To explain briefly, my sister died last summer from cancer ....

Fooled · Fooled

I am not sure what it was today that kept pushing me off kilter but there was something. Nothing really concrete but a state of restless anxiety slowly burning under the surface all day. I really found myself fed up, ready to give up, hopeless, tired and weak. Like the armor I have been putting on is...

Confused16 · Confused16

My ABF has been struggling with addiction since he was a kid. We come from VERY DIFFERENT backgrounds. So needless to say, it was hard for us to understand each others way of living. My ABF struggles a lot with boundaries. He would use the excuse of seeing his kids to disappear for days on end. He would end...

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	Recovery Dreams (Preview) I don't usually have these mostly I've suffered from nightmare directly from being born and raised in the disease. But my HP is gentle and kind now in my elder years so I either get the random nightmare or no dreams at all. Last night it was none to start with and I couldn't sleep soooo I went to the kitc...	Jerry F	7	836	Dec 13, 2016 by Jerry F
	Hope for Today Dec 13 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is about how we make the decision that we belong in Alanon. The reading is written by someone whose daughter attends AA meetings for a few years and then makes the decision that her problem isn't truly alcoholism. The parent feels a little bit lost as to whether...	yanksfan51	6	628	Dec 13, 2016 by Maresie25
	He could be dead (Preview) After getting a sponsor yesterday my husband came home and put a fentanyl patch in his mouth. No trigger, nothing. He just went downstairs to do laundry and never came up. Three year old was asleep so I couldn't go looking for him. Heard sirens and saw them stop outside our building. Finally a neighbor c...	Prissykitty	11	658	Dec 13, 2016 by Jazzie18
	Why me? (Preview) I remember not so long ago when that question tormented me. Why did this happen to our family, why was I being punished ? After all, I had done all of the hard work of responsible parenting, I had survived growing up with an alcoholic and had come out unscathed (lol) so I thought. Why, why , why would ro...	serenity47	3	606	Dec 13, 2016 by Iamhere
	Anyone heard of HPPD? (Preview) My son told me that he had been suffering from HPPD. Basically he can start hallucinating at any time. It's scary and triggers his anxiety or it can be triggered by his anxiety, chicken and egg kind of thing. He has reached out to me for help, but I'm at a loss. I'm guessing that nothing but time and abstin...	themoonandthestars	2	680	Dec 13, 2016 by Iamhere
	Saved myself a very awkward moment (Preview) So, the weed smell is back in H's car and he's enjoying the liquor his son gave him for his birthday last week. Working my program but feeling suspicious and watchful just the same. Left for work this a.m. and temporarily entertained the thought of looking in his console for his stash before leaving the...	Mcat54	3	620	Dec 12, 2016 by Jen
	First Post, please, I need an ear. Live in boyfriend is becoming paranoid/delusional when and after drinking. (Preview) I laid awake most of the night wondering who I could speak to confidentially. I then remembered this wonderful program and am so happy there is an online resource. My live in boyfriend, of 8 years, is spinning out of control. He is an admitted alcoholic, but has recently taken up with his old love, Vod...	megoreilly	14	763	Dec 12, 2016 by Maresie25
	The alcoholic and marijuana (Preview) My ex has been trying to convince me he's doing better, but he is still smoking weed all day, every day. Living on government assistance, taking money from people who are trying to help him. Now I know well enough to know his bad decisions, I don't want to touch with a 10 foot pole. With all the recent hyp...	sarahGee	8	1323	Dec 12, 2016 by Maresie25
	how to deal with close people in denial? (Preview) Helo family, it has been long since i last checked in. I am in recovery since I separated from my ABF 3 years ago, an intense but beautiful journey. So many things changed since then, and I'm still and always grateful for this group and movement. But you know, you can never escape some unpleasant facts, a...	tortuga	6	688	Dec 12, 2016 by Maresie25
	Can't stop feeling angry about his drinking (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic. He tries to hide it from me but I know when he's drinking. I know him so well I swear I can even tell by his text messages. It makes me furious. I know this won't help anything but I feel like if I ignore it things will only get worse. I'm sick of having the same argument over and ove...	Veronica12345	8	721	Dec 12, 2016 by Maresie25
	Focus (Preview) I was just reading al-anon literature this morning and I had to share my insight... Dont focus on the problem but instead focus on the solution... A couple things came into mind for me, Solution for alcoholism, !. Focus on self and what is best intrest for me 2. Walk away from the craziness, be it talking...	joker	4	671	Dec 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	12/12/16 One Day at a Time in AlAnon (Preview) Today's page addresses our tendency to put the blame for our pain onto someone else. We may resist this truth, but the reality is that we are partly responsible when we take offense or feel hurt from the actions of another.The good news is this means that our mental wellbeing is not completely subject t...	Enigmatic	6	1465	Dec 12, 2016 by akk
	Garden project. (Preview) I posted a couple of weeks ago that daughter and I had decided to make the most of our surroundings and treat out home as an art project of sorts rather than moan about how much we dislike it, since we are stuck here for another year at least. Here's our first project; please note I realise it is not a thing of...	MissM	6	600	Dec 12, 2016 by KT2015
	He got a sponsor (Preview) Well. After a relapse last week my dry husband woke up this morning with our three year old so I could sleep in. After about an hour he was rummaging around our bedroom so I got up. He was walking into the wall, shaking, and speaking incoherently. Immediately I knew he had taken something. He cried and sai...	Prissykitty	9	679	Dec 12, 2016 by serenity47
	Your experience with interventions? (Preview) Have they worked for your qualifier and family?	LinSC	15	835	Dec 12, 2016 by Crau
	That time of year again (Preview) Hey all, Just venting a little...since it is my not so favorite time of year again...and I am sure it is the same for a lot of people. Al Anon has helped me live reasonably well with an Active A. However and you know there has to be a however in there..... the horrible last 6 weeks of the year is still a s...	unbroken13	3	2722	Dec 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	Relapse of Son (Preview) So my 24 year old son made an official announcement that he has relapsed. At first he told me by text message and then decided to tell it to my face while I was in the kitchen. He started to talking to me in that very slurred way from across the kitchen but when I said "Whaaaat are you even saying?" over the...	Fooled	21	901	Dec 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	new member in Exhaustion Central feeling so alone. panic (Preview) Glad I found this board. I hope to find a meeting at a good time where I live in New York, but thank goodness for the Internet! I have nobody to talk to about my boyfriend. I've unfortunately dated an alcoholic before, and have been to Al-Anon, which has me realizing how many issues I have with whom I pick...	justanotherlostangel	3	660	Dec 11, 2016 by Jerry F
	Step 8 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t62998049/alanon...	hotrod	0	663	Dec 11, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage To Change Reading 12-11-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for December 11 talks about our fantasies, which often includes having a great deal of money. The reading asks the question will all our problems go away if we had all the money in the world? Would money resolve the effects of alcoholism on our families, or make the drinker stop drinking...	hotrod	4	868	Dec 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	OFF TOPIC-MY BACK (Preview) WHAT A WAY TO SPEND DEC. RESULTS OF MRI OF BACK INDICATES ARTHRITIS, VERY NARROWED DISC AND SPOND SOMETHING. i GET TO TRY SOME WACKY PAIN MED AND ENDURE A SPINE INJECTION ON THE 20TH WHICH IS MY GUY AND i'S 1YR ANNIVERSARY OF MEETING. i GET TO BE IN PAIN DURING THE HOLIDAYS BAH HUMBUG!!!!!!!!!!!! LOOKING...	YARNCRAZY	6	568	Dec 11, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	What's your process when LO is actively drinking? (Preview) So I've gone through the wringer with my husband the last 2 years. There have been multiple emergency hospitalizations and detoxes, the last being in the middle of October. His last relapse was a two-day bender last Thursday and Friday. He hasn't worked for more than a few weeks in the last 2 years and h...	SDB	8	747	Dec 11, 2016 by lookingup
	Encouragement and support (Preview) Quick email here folks! I could use some positive encouragement: I am studying for my series 7 exams, which basically license me to trade securities, sell annuities and finance products. The amount of information that I am having to take in is overwhelming and I'm stumbling over concepts that I kn...	andromeda	9	908	Dec 10, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 10/12 (Preview) Todays c2c discusses our ability to determine acceptable from unacceptable behavior. How can we possibly determine what is acceptable and what isn't when we have been living in insanity and we have no idea what we ourselves need? A 4th step inventory can help us identify our own traits that we like, t...	MissM	2	559	Dec 10, 2016 by Enigmatic
	Consult about memory issues (Preview) Today is the doctor appointment with my husband about his memory issues. He agreed that I can fill in for the doctor if he leaves anything out (30-year pot habit abandoned two months ago, recent interruption in daily alcohol consumption). I'm praying and giving this to HP. With the help of the program...	Mcat54	13	856	Dec 10, 2016 by Mcat54
	You can't talk to me like that! ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I don't know when this became my biggest hot button, but I cannot stand being talked down to (or perceiving it or being spoken to in a dismissive disrespectful tone. If I actually HAD been with or around a "rageaholic" qualifier, it would make sense to have this be such and issue, but that wasn't my cas...	pinkchip	50	1701	Dec 9, 2016 by LinSC
	Thank goodness, because.... (Preview) Thank goodness for Alanon, because it is getting really ugly in my neck of the woods. My MIL has been diagnosed with advanced cancer and has maybe 3 months left. As would be expected, this brings up a lot of emotion, history, anxiety and dread. As my AH and sibs were brought up in an A home, the dysfunctio...	El	6	614	Dec 9, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Help (Preview) I am new to this. My husband is an alcoholic. He is crazy when he drinks. He drives drunk. I want to leave but I can't financially. How on earth do I learn to just stop caring and allow him to hit rock bottom and stay sane.	Juliexx70	7	574	Dec 9, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Alcohol Before All (Preview) This is my first contact with Al Anon. I know I could go to meetings in my town but I don't want to because my town is so small--there can't be any anonymity for me. I may try to go to some meetings in bigger towns when I visit my family. But will have to think of something to tell them I am doing because they don'...	Jayla	29	985	Dec 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/9/16 (Preview) Today's reading in C2C is about Tradition Eleven, which suggests Al-Anon's public relations policy is described as being based on attraction rather than promotion. The writer suggests that their first responsibility in Al-Anon is to learn to keep the focus on self and to do the best possible to li...	Iamhere	1	508	Dec 9, 2016 by hotrod
	flatmate of alcoholic and acoa (Preview) Hi this is kadri liisa recovering acoa and also al anon....i have been in both fellowships about 7 years and now i sometimes keep doors of al anon and acoa open in my town as groups are small here. I am 32 years old single lady. Currently my flatmate is social alcoholic and i am following and thinking what...	kadriliisa	8	807	Dec 9, 2016 by kadriliisa
	And the sneaking continues.. (Preview) I wrote a post last Friday that I could tell ABF had been drinking a little and trying to hide it. (he started AA almost 90 days ago) Soooo obvious to me but he thinks I don't notice. Sooooo badly wanted to call him out (as he WAS getting closer to 90 days sober) but I didn't. I stuck to my lessons and said nada....	Aerin	30	840	Dec 9, 2016 by Maresie25
	Self Care (Preview) Last week in my meeting a girl mentioned focusing on drinking water each day. At the time it kind of rolled off my brain, but on the ride home I started thinking about how I don't drink enough water, or any. That eventually lead to me thinking about how little I care for myself. Simple acts, like drinking w...	sarahGee	11	994	Dec 8, 2016 by kadriliisa
	The depths of my disease (Preview) When I think of the way I used to live while living within the insanity of the disease it makes me so grateful for Alanon. I was thinking about the things I thought were 'normal' or okay or at the very least I thought just passing phases. I must have known they weren't normal because I kept it all a secret so i...	el-cee	8	793	Dec 8, 2016 by Jill
	An alcoholic in recovery is the same as an alcoholic minus the drink (Preview) My husband has been in recovery since May but yet he continues to act like the alcoholic he was while on the drink. He has been reaching out to his family who constantly reject him. He has been consumed with sadness and frustration because of this. I know that in Al-Anon the focus is NOT on the alcoholi...	mauigirl	9	695	Dec 8, 2016 by sarahGee
	First time here (Preview) Hi, first time here. Haven't talked to anyone yet about this. DH is 75 yo, grew up with functioning alcoholics. Drank heavily when we were first married - but socially. Didn't drink for years and years. Our social set was mostly church folk and we really weren't around drinkers. This summer he s...	justjenna	11	595	Dec 8, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Very grateful (Preview) Having recently been through a tough period of growth and out pouring of inner poison that had been stuck inside me festering and rotting. Stinking! I wanted to share that now a few days later a great feeling of lightness, cleanliness has settled in. Like I have scrubbed out the muck and dirt inside me....	Calm Lady	3	529	Dec 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	Choosing Alcohol over everything.. (Preview) So I am a spouse of an alcoholic who in July spent 10 days in the ICU with an esophageal varices and found out he also has cirrhosis of the liver. He almost died! He spent 5 days in rehab then left remained sober for about 6 weeks. Unfortunately one of his doctors told him he was looking great "like nothing...	MegV	7	677	Dec 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/8/16 (Preview) Our daily reading today is about taking care of self and allowing the alcoholic to do as they need to for their own journey. I love the quote ---- "The suffering you are trying to ease....may be the very thing needed to bring the alcoholic to a realization of the seriousness of the situation -- literall...	Iamhere	1	475	Dec 8, 2016 by hotrod
	It works if you work it! Amazed! (Preview) I wanted to share a positive experience I had recently. My 15 year old son exhibits all of the signs of being an alcoholic....without drinking. He recently had a really bad morning during which he was upset to the point of ridiculous over a very minor issue. The skills I have learned in Al-Anon and fr...	Kim C	5	552	Dec 8, 2016 by Calm Lady
	12-7-16 One Day at a Time in AlAnon (Preview) It's double value day in ODAT: two outstanding quotes to choose from. Both point the way to a peaceful day through patience, warmth, and respect.The first is in the poetic style of Max Ehrmann:"Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible wit...	Enigmatic	4	706	Dec 7, 2016 by hotrod
	this and that and an omg (Preview) I made some big steps in detachment lately. My AS and drug user kept asking me to borrow my car and my daughters car. I was really uncomfortable with it because he is on record as a drug addict and is on probation. How he has a valid license is beyond me but he did show me the paperwork reinstating him wh...	Fooled	4	576	Dec 7, 2016 by Fooled
	Pain (Preview) Writing is my solace. I wrote this to "him" this morning. I don't want to react to his behaviour. I want to maintain my sanity and most of all I want to learn to respond rather than reacting. I hate you today. It is the day after my birthday. You didn't think of me. You did not call me. You did not message m...	tealfighter	7	551	Dec 7, 2016 by Jerry F
	Advice needed (Preview) I need some advice. My single adult daughter recently told me she has returned to her old habits of drinking and smoking weed. She has gone to rehab 4 times For alcoholism and drug abuse. She said the sober life wasn't her thing. She had been doing really well for the past 2 years. She was gointg to AA but la...	Buckeye Girl	6	555	Dec 6, 2016 by Jerry F
	Drama addicts (Preview) Why do I constantly try and change these drama addicts? Like I tried to change the alcoholic.....I was doing so well for about 2.5 years...(yay!) living peacefully, in a good place, maintaining boundaries, making friends, staying active... then I started getting closer to an individual who is ver...	slogan_jim	6	3452	Dec 6, 2016 by slogan_jim
	Hope for Today dec 6 (Preview) Hello Everyone- Today's reading is about decisions, trying to understand our HPs will for us, and paying attention to inward signs about whether we are making choices which are good and healthy for us. In the reading the following statement is quoted: 'Without God, man cannot; without man, God wil...	yanksfan51	5	550	Dec 6, 2016 by Jerry F
	Alcoholic Partner Telling Me Who To Be Friends With (Preview) Long time lurker, first time poster, but I wanted to start off by saying THANK YOU to all of you for helping me feel not quite SO crazy and alone in all of this. But on to the matter at hand, long story short is that I have a friend of 8+ years that my alcoholic (ex at this point) partner has never been a fan of. I...	thekentuckygent	8	562	Dec 6, 2016 by Jerry F
	First Post (Preview) Newbie here. Glad I found this board. My wife is binge drinker who recently has become violent. She is in trouble with the law. I'm planning on attending my first meeting tomorrow. Any advice for a first timer? Thanks in advance!	Haysinger	10	573	Dec 6, 2016 by maryjane
	Ramped up (Preview) Hey all Haven't posted for a while. Been working my program and growing. Just wanted to kind of say out loud that as I move forward I am finding AHs drinking behaviours far harder to cope with. I obviously practice 'detach with love,' I move away, don't engage etc but wow, whereas in the past in my numb sta...	Calm Lady	26	1088	Dec 6, 2016 by el-cee
	Hope for Today 12-5-16 (Preview) Today's page reflects the experience of one who, looking back, recalled the great care taken at the supermarket to pick out the small but more flavorful carrots for her children's snacks. As a teen, however, her son lamented how he received the "scrawny" carrots. Ah, perspective... The writer cons...	Enigmatic	5	689	Dec 5, 2016 by Enigmatic
	Loneliness after breakup (Preview) I split with my ah after he turned violent. I had to move out of our shared home. I'm finding the loss incredibly painful. Even though the breakup is for the best I miss him. We had some good times, especially early on in the relationship. I went on a couple of dates with a new man. I felt huge attraction to hi...	Emma123	3	3059	Dec 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	How to disengage with spouse? (Preview) I'm struggling. I feel that as of late I've been very good at disengaging with love. We have a toddler to co-parent and so when I'm working my program I'm great at ignoring husbands mood swings. I keep my life peaceful and kind of ignore his moaning and whining. He is an insomniac and typically looks exha...	Prissykitty	7	3038	Dec 5, 2016 by mauigirl
	So worried about my husband feeling hopeless (Preview) He's so broken. He relapsed Friday night. He hates himself. He hates his life even though he has so much he knows he should be grateful for. It breaks my heart to watch him sobbing and talking about what a horrible person he is. His dad died ten years ago tomorrow and he sobs that he misses him. He dabbled in...	Prissykitty	4	598	Dec 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	Where to begin (Preview) I grew up with alcoholics and married one. I am at a breaking point and have no one to turn to.	Rwisdom08	3	589	Dec 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	Partner blames me for everything when he's stressed (Preview) I have just returned to Al anon after a 20 year absence. I am so glad and grateful to have found a forum as it really helps me when I write things down. I promise I won't make a habit of venting my every issue but I will get this one off my chest if you don't mind. It's been building for a while. it regards yet anot...	Faintly Falling	12	3602	Dec 5, 2016 by KT2015
	Slogan for the Holidays (Preview) "We Came, We Ate, We Left" Great One .... Thanks Tiredtonite	LinSC	6	606	Dec 5, 2016 by el-cee
	Whinge whinge moan moan. (Preview) I know this is kind of whingy but it's making me miserable lately and seems to be my ever present woe so, maybe if I share it, it will get smaller. Sometimes it works that way. Seems like many people have walked the same path as me and separated and then moved on with someone new and things are wonderful..in...	MissM	5	899	Dec 5, 2016 by el-cee
	Dealing with family counsellor and totally exhausted! (Preview) I feel that I have been quite good about setting boundaries within the family. I know my limits and I usually instinctively know when I've been sucked in too far. But this time it's the health professional who has sucked me in like a blackhole! To explain briefly, my sister died last summer from cancer ....	Faintly Falling	7	703	Dec 4, 2016 by DrSheilaHerenow
	You can run but you cannot hide (Preview) I am not sure what it was today that kept pushing me off kilter but there was something. Nothing really concrete but a state of restless anxiety slowly burning under the surface all day. I really found myself fed up, ready to give up, hopeless, tired and weak. Like the armor I have been putting on is...	Fooled	6	631	Dec 4, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Confused, overwhelmed, hopeless, SAD ... (Preview) My ABF has been struggling with addiction since he was a kid. We come from VERY DIFFERENT backgrounds. So needless to say, it was hard for us to understand each others way of living. My ABF struggles a lot with boundaries. He would use the excuse of seeing his kids to disappear for days on end. He would end...	Confused16	5	655	Dec 4, 2016 by Iamhere
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