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Drunk Talk
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I'm sure everyone here knows what I mean. My AH and I have been fighting a lot lately about him staying out drinking. I'm not giving him heck about drinking bc I know he won't quit that until he's ready. I'm asking him to come drink at home instead of staying at his workplace all the time with his friends. He...
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To those struggling through the holidays
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I just want to wish you peace and serenity. The majority of this year was awful between me and my qualifier AH but I truly credit this program with helping me obtain peace and regain my sense of self. Definitely a work in progress for sure but it ended mostly better than it began and for that I am grateful. L...
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2016 - My Gratitude List
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2016... What a year!!! I figured I would start listing things that I am grateful for: 1. My dear AH. I almost lost him in July from the horrid affects of alcoholism. He went into rehab after the health crisis and has been sober ever since (Drank for +45 years). His health has definitely improved. Our rel...
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Courage to Change 31/12
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Today's C2C suggests taking a moment, now that we have arrived at the end of another year, to contemplate what progress we have made in the last 12 months, and to thank our HP for that progress. The reading asks us to consider how we have reached out to others this year, progressed in step work, or had the f...
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Courage to Change (C2C) 12/29/16
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Today's reading discusses all those times when the actions of the alcoholic are so very irritating. It points that even the alcoholic can not pour the cereal correctly! While our recovery program shows us how to protect ourselves from unacceptable behavior, that's not always what is going on aro...
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Years of recovery and years of drinking
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I haven't posted in a long time. Feeling alone and sad. My husband of many years has been in recovery, attends meetings,talks to his sponsor once a day but slips and starts to drink again. As far as I know, he hasn't had anything in several months. He is not a binge drinker but drinks for awhile and then...
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wifeofalcoholic
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Maybe I'm cutting off my nose to spite my face. Idk.
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Im going to paraphrase a recent conversation between (x?)abf and I. Im sharing this because, basically, he's saying everything I have wanted to hear for a long, long time and I don't know how I feel about it. I think they're the words a lot of us want to hear at some point from our partners/x partners. I do...
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MissM
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First time on here
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I'm not sure how this chatroom works. I've never been part of one. I just need someone to talk to honestly, someone I can be honest with. I am so tired of trying to be "normal". I don't talk with my kids or sisters about his drinking, they've heard it all before, and wonder why I stay. If I had the money to live...
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Fife
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It's 1am and I need advice about what to do in the morning
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It's 1am and I need advice about what to do in the morning. About a year and a half ago my husband went out with friends. I was approaching my due date with our 2nd child. After he didn't come home and stopped answering his phone I spent the whole night calling hospitals and jails. As it turned out he was wast...
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lovecake
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To my MIP Family
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unbroken13
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I left him but should I still try to help him
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Well, the day finally came yesterday where i had enough and broke if off with my alcoholic boyfriend of 2.5 years. He had always been drinking a lot through our relationship but I didn't know how bad it was (lots of sneaking). Anyway, he had a stretch of a few clean days this month, was going to AA, being o...
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Kate311
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Went to my first AA meeting tonight.
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I have been sliding again and making a lot of mistakes. Seems like 1 step forward, 10 Steps back these days. Just when I think I'm moving along, I will fall back on old bad habits. When I do this, I feel more out of control than I ever have, I think it's because I know better now & I am way harder on myself fo...
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sarahGee
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Don't Know What To Do
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My Husband is an alcoholic, not everytime but more often here lately when he is drunk, calls me everything in the book, accuses me of cheating, says he is leaving, got physical the other night, and I finally said I had taken all I was going to, I want a divorce, not going to take it anymore, he said he will qu...
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Alaska Jayne
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highs & lows happy new year
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Now I am getting ahead of myself. This is not a very good day. I am reflecting on 2016. I am hoping for a better year in 2017. I had a lot of good memories but some things really bothered me. I know that I should be grateful but today I feel sad. The holidays haven't been good to me. I had too high of expectations...
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Hoot Nanny
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just got home from hospital
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Last night was no joke. Yesterday i injuredy back picking something up: i think i did the damage months ago and my body went "nuh im done" yesterday. Ambulance, morphine, night nurse from hell and no diagnosis. The paramedic thought sciatica, the junior physio urged me to get a ct scan To check for d...
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a4l
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Courage to Change (C2C) 12/30/16
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Today's reading is about martyrdom and self-pity....many of us come to Al-Anon and often don't realize that we're as ill as the alcoholic. We give power to other people's words and actions and often take it personally or react in unhealthy ways. Often we discover that we played the martyr role for a...
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Iamhere
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How do you cope with living with a ghost?
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Hi, I haven't posted in a long time. Caught up with life and kids....AH gave me a lot of empty promises and I went into my hopeful place only to be let down again. I think I am finally at acceptance. Acceptance that I cannot do one blessed thing to change any of this or fix it. I am handing him over to God an...
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newleaf66
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He is going part 2them
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my as went to the annual cousins night last night. He hasn't seen them in about 9 months. He brought his girlfriend; they have a very toxic relationship. I truly believe she is part of the reason he left. I do understand he had a choice but he also takes in strays. she being the stray. With that being said,...
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Tannersmom
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Snooping AW
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Hi, Been on the forum for approximately 12 hours and my wife has been on and snooped at the new posts i have put on. I cant really believe that she has done this as i wanted this to be something for just me to share my thoughts and feelings with people who would understand what i was going through. She says tha...
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Lost and not found
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The Whole Adult Thing
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I'm just saying I don't like it and I want to fight it every step of the way .. it feels uncomfortable. It means I have to do things I don't like, be places I don't want to be, look at things a different way because it means I'm growing .. what a bunch of hogwash. Phhffttt. So I left my house for Christmas whi...
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SerenityRUS
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Holiday blues
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Ever since my 32 year old daughter relapsed after 3 years of sobriety I have been in panic mode. She told me she relapsed right before she came home for Xmas with her boyfriend. Apparently she had a meltdown at her boyfriend's parents house before coming here. She gets really short and crabby when she dr...
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Buckeye Girl
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hellish holiday
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I made a huge mistake and took my abf home with me-9 hour drive to my hometown. The last trip I will ever, ever take with him. We made the drive over two days there and back. He was drunk and it was hell...I mean hell. I just about got into a car accident on the highway as he went ballistic on me, and I was driving...
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joker
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He's going!!
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Every year after Christmas my nieces and nephews get together for a cousins night. There are 15 in all ranging in ages from 13-30. Tonight my AS will connect with his family, He hasn't seen his cousins in almost 9 months! My niece is picking him up and he is going to attend. No pressure she told him. I...
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opinions please!
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This is the first time that i have told anyone this and need to get it off my chest to have some opinions on the situation as it is weighing on my mind more and more. My AW went on a "wine night" as she used to call them, which consisted of her, her sister and friends basically getting drunk on a girls night in wh...
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Newby
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Hi Everyone, Im new to the forum and just joined today. I have been married to my AW for 10 years and been together for 14 years total. She has been drinking to various levels for at least the past 20 years with the only time that she stopped drinking for longer than a week, whilst she was pregnant with our so...
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Drama with progress
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Hope everyone had a lovely day. My day was gifted to me by my hp with a stark reminder of the power of this disease. Before 12pm in my home there were tears and tantrums. What did I do? Did what I planned and made the soup. Lol. The power of alanon won though. Family reacted but here's the best bit calm was res...
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el-cee
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Hi everyone: first post
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Hi all this is my first time here and was looking for some input. i have been with my girlfriend for over two years, living together the whole time. She's in her 40's and I'm in my 30's. We moved in together as roomates and shortly after realized that we had feelings for each other. Before I knew she had a dri...
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Brett
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Parents
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So Christmas day, my AS called my mom and dad but hung up on them before words were exchanged (I am getting this information from my sister, who was told in confidence).... (My sister is a whole other story). They haven't seen or talked with my AS since last Easter. They are hurting so much and would go t...
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Tannersmom
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I was doing so good and then...
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I just want to kick myself. So many of you advised me not to tell him what I had found out here, but the past few days were killing me and I just couldn't sleep without getting it off my chest. The last 3 nights have been horrible. He has drank to the point of staggering and slurring and snoring so loud, we ca...
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Jage1991
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12/28/16 One Day at a Time
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Today's page considers what we may do when our outcomes are not matching up with our intentions. If we find this happening, it is time to examine what our intentions truly are and how we are going about achieving them. "Let me first be sure what I intend and the reasons for my choice; this will guide my th...
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Free from dysfunction
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I got free from an abusive dysfunctional relationship through alanon. By saying things like 'you might be right' and actually believing that yes from your point of view you might be. Saying ' I'm sorry you feel that way' again, meaning it. I was sorry my alcoholic feels angry and hostile but I was not ta...
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WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING, 9:00 A.M. EST
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Al-Anon meeting in the chat room in approximately 45 minutes (9:00 a.m. EST). Come on in and join us! Link to the chat room: https://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html If you come into the room without selecting a nickname for yourself, you would need to type /nick space followed by the nickna...
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shimo
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Merry Christmas Betty!
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I know I speak for lots of us here when I say, Betty, AKA: Ms. Hotrod, you are one special lady. I wanted to send you extra special Merry Christmas wishes, because you have been this beautiful mother energy and more , to me and many others As a mother, I am inspired by your choice to continue to nurtu...
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a4l
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Coping With the Death of Alcoholic Spouse
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My husband of 27 years died at the age of 58 due to acute alcoholism. I left the year before his death because is drinking had become so extreme that I had reached my breaking point. It was either him or me. We had been down this road before and I had really hoped he would return to AA and get it together. Inste...
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AnitaJean
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Hope for Today Dec 27
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Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how many of us affected by alcoholsim are quick to take on as many responsibilities as possible-- if something needs to be done- we do it! One of the aspects of the program which is pointed out is that meetings, for example, are about shared responsibil...
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yanksfan51
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need assistance
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Could someone give me a link that getsr back to the mobile site or whatever it is? I used to have but somehow lost it.
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Hoot Nanny
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Hope
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Well, Christmas is over; I am ever so thankful for the wonderful time with family. I am also thankful that it is over. I held it together most of the time except church; but I made it through without having to walk out.Hope came to me on Christmas morning when I found out that my AS contacted his cousins to s...
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Tannersmom
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Happy Birthday
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CathyinAz.... Have a great one
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LinSC
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Step 9 Posted on Step Board
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http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63049668/alanon-step-9-12-26-2016/
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hotrod
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Decisions
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pinkchip
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Thanks to all of you!
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Happy Holidays to all my dear MIP friends! I only get to the board about once a week, but I know you guys are here for me, have helped me tremendously in the past, I see you as part of my recovery, and I know if I am having a rough time (which is less often now because I have changed), I can count of someone on the...
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Lyne
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I'm all alone but at least I smell good.
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So yesterday (Christmas Eve) I was charged with taking daughter to her fathers so that she could spend Christmas there. My mother and I cooked up a plan where we would visit her first, and have dinner, and then we would drive to drop daughter off at her fathers and I'd catch the train home. All of my sibl...
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MissM
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Who would have thought?
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We figured out how to stop the problem we were having w our wood stove. It was kind of obvious but we had to get on the roof to clean out the pipe. I am so grateful that things turned out OK. So far no smoke. There is a solution to every problem. The snow was deep but we were determined to get the job done.
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Hoot Nanny
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Sponsors
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Is it normal for a sponsee to be so dependant upon a Sponsor? The reason why I ask is because my gf keeps saying that her sponsor keeps her sober. Although I am thankful for this I do wonder how healthy it is to rely on someone else for your sobriety. I often feel that the relationship between my gf and her spo...
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Celie7191
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12-26-16 Courage to Change
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One AlAnon member shared this lesson as one of the most important to be learned in the program: The words, thoughts, and actions of others are not in my control, but by my choices I can control my life. Real life application: if I am feeling like I am being walked on by others, I can make the choice to get off...
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Enigmatic
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New here
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Hi. I have been in recovery rooms since 2006 in different fellowships. Lately, I have experience serious troubles in my relationships. My former partner of a year has assaulted me. I ended up in hospital. I decided to press charges with the police and he admitted assault to his son too in my home a month...
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Merkabah46
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Help
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Hi, I'm very new to this and need some guidance. Merry Christmas to all. My be of 7 months willingly went to rehab for alcoholism. He left after only 16 days. I thought he drank the first day back but he asked me not to visit as he was tired. I went over Friday and he seemed off but I found no alcohol anywh...
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Sparkle 9403
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smoke in the wood stove
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Today is Christmas day. We are experiencinga small crisis here. Our wood stove is setting off the smoke detector. I am very anxious just because of the holiday. So you can see that some things are harder when it is this day is not exactly the best day to get something fixed. Hopefully this problem goes aw...
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Hoot Nanny
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What is going on here?
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Family togetherness, sending letters to old friends, and visiting with my friends during the holiday season are things I enjoy. I look forward to each of my three adult (all unmarried)children coming home (my 2 sons live 1 and 9 hours away, my daughter 2 hours away). I enjoy cooking lots of food, wrap...
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lgnutah
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Merry Christmas, but feeling guilt
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Hello friends, So I'm staying in a motel as I told my husband that until he makes an appt for counseling at Kaiser to start a rehab program, I need to be away for a while. I know this is finally what I need to do...but I feel sooo guilty to leave him on Christmas Day.
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Worried Wife
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Losing your serenity looks like:
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Going from: To: Stay calm during the Holidays :)
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pinkchip
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C2C reading for 12-25-2016
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Merry Christmas to all my MIP FamilyThe C2C reading for December 25 speaks about the slogan. 'Think." The reading points out that before we react to angry outbursts and drunken accusations, we must learn to not react but to hold our tongue when we are tempted to react in anger or to interfere in somet...
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hotrod
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Asking for financial help. Not site relaied.
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I am trying to buy my 1989 BMW Convertible back. It will cost me 600.00. If you have a means by which you can help me, no matter how little or much you can spare, it would be appropriate it. If you have any pressure washing or painting i can do to earn from, I will likely accept the price you agree to pay to ha...
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John
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Merry Christmas to all
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My Alanon Family.May all your Wishes come true.
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lookingup
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Merry Christmas
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el-cee
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Accidental and compulsory road trips
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A few days after we had a convo about whether a Christmas show was at a theater on xyz road vs. xyz town, my husband got tickets without confirming. So today, we're driving 1.5 hours to xyz town to see the show. With dinner beforehand, the evening round trip will be close to 7 hours I hadn't planned to spen...
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Mcat54
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Happy Holidays + Acceptance
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hello, all - wishing you all happy holidays and happy new year. this has overall been a very difficult year for me, so i'm not sorry to see it come to a close. been feeling hectic and bedraggled but now all is done and i can relax. grateful for some quiet and calm. meanwhile, i usually spend christmas wi...
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Junenine
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happy holidays
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It is time for another holiday. I am in the spirit of the season. I hope that if you celebrate you all have s safe & healthy time. Thanks for being there for me in my successes & mistakes. I don't consider what I've done is a failure. I am still a work in progress.
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Hoot Nanny
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Found bottle in the garbage. Advice on what to say and do next
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So I was throwing something in the garbage can in our living room this morning before I went off to work and saw a vodka flask in the tiny can. I assumed my husband was out drinking last night (he took out $40 and disappeared for 2 1/2 hours after we got out of couples therapy - I think he may have been drinking...
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SDB
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I'm new
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My son is a drug addict. When I type those words my stomach just drops. I know this is Al-Anon but was told that drug addict families are welcome here. Christmas is coming and I am having a hard time believing that this will be the first Christmas in 21 years that I won't be with my son. I don't know where...
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Tannersmom
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