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Tannersmom · Tannersmom

After my meeting with my AS 2 Saturdays ago, I felt strong and confident in my boundaries and my feelings toward him. It only took 1 week for me to start worrying and longing for him. Sadness is creeping back into my heart. I am finding myself consumed with him again. I can't stand this stupid disease. I ne...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how some children of alcoholics, ratheir than getting drunk on alcohol, get lost in emotional binges- unable to handle feelings, mood swings from euphoria to depression. The writer points out that the first step is a helpful tool in remembering tha...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Regarding behavior, a sponsor once told a member that once is a fluke, twice a coincidence, but three times is a pattern. Today's page suggests that if I am still suffering because of the same behavior that I have seen more than three times, than it is time to make an adjustment in my expectations, minds...

El · El

Although I haven't posted in a bit, I read the posts every single day. I have been very busy preparing for surgery tomorrow. It is in-patient biopsy of a possible cancer. I have had scans, and tests of every sort and tomorrow we will know for sure. With all the doctor visits and consultations, I made a req...

Helpangel · Helpangel

hi everyone. I have been trying to follow the steps and take care of me but sometimes I feel like my energy is completly taken from me. I can barely get motivated to do anything. I'll get up to do what I have to do but the rest of the time I just want to watch tv. It's weird but I have noticed that it is pattern w...

el-cee · el-cee

I woke up often last night with something relating to my son going round and round in my mind. I woke up with seething anger, i wanted to react, wake everyone up, tell them what was what, kick them all out, the whole dramatics, the urge was intense. I didnt, i sat with the anger, kind of allowed it to be, neve...

Mike B · Mike B

Met a women in the program(AA) and starting dating. Nothing to romantic- just got together once a week or so. Went to dinner, movies and took her son to a hockey game. Moving really slow, felt really healthy to both of us. We never pushed or forced anything on one another. We liked each other uncond...

Jerry F · Jerry F

We all have been here before ourselves. And we put it in print on the board. The anger and rage and blame and resentments and more..."our insanities". It happens in the meetings also and recently here at home in Hilo. Each time it happens we earn more experience with it and the woman who brings it....

Scarlet Begonias · Scarlet Begonias

How do I stop being so angry at my spouse? I am so full of rage not just anger when he is drinking. I cannot even stand to be around him. I am currently tapering off of the antidepressant I have been taking for the past 2 years and I can feel a difference right now in how I am dealing with him. I cannot tolerate it...

John · John

This morning at 9 AM I am meeting with my Hospice worker for first time. It will be an in-home visit. Yes, my health condition is really so bad that its now time to start putting a solid treatment team together so my transition from flesh, to spirit can go forward with some level of dignity in caring hands....

ValentineB · ValentineB

My husband destroyed our friendships, his career, his body (he looks like a skeleton with skin), and, his brain, our relationship when he relapsed while I was pregnant near 4 years ago now. When I discovered what was really going on with him, I kicked him out of the house. I was 7 months pregnant and we ha...

TessaB · TessaB

I posted before about my son obviously being high when he would stop by my house,and how I felt the need to call him out on it,to know the truth.After that,I did my best to just mind my own business,not accuse him of being high,not ask if he was,I basically just ignored it. Things really got worse though.I...

Kellie28 · Kellie28

Hello this is my very first time being on this al-anon group chatting website. I have a really bad alcoholic father who overly drinks on the weekends. I'm his only daughter who is going to be 28 in May. I don't know where to begin.... My dad is a hard working man he treats me alright Monday-Thursday but Fri...

Mary328 · Mary328

Hi, I'm new here. I feel a little strange asking people I don't know for support around this, but I think people here probably understand what I'm going through more than anyone else. In mid-June I broke up with my alcoholic boyfriend of two and a half years due to his drinking (he had stopped for three we...

LouiseR · LouiseR

I am struggling to deal with my husband's drinking especially since my Mother has recently placed in a convalescent care facility. I am needing support to get through this ordeal, however instead of that I have a belligerent drunk man to cope with when I get home from visiting her. Both his parent's...

Westport3124 · Westport3124

Hi all, Im in a 4 year relationship with an alcoholic who has been in active recovery over the past 2 years (has a sponsor, 5-6 meetings a week). He has had several relapses. What should I do if I see subtle signs (speech pattern and personality changes) that indicate to me, he may have been drinking?...

r3tr3v3d · r3tr3v3d

I am finally realizing that my husband has a drinking problem. I used to drink with him, before kids, and now only find time for a glass of wine maybe twice a week. He, however, drinks 2 beers nightly in front of me, and hides more on his way home from work. I found a full unopened beer under the bed (he wor...

MissM · MissM

Deep breath...find serenity... Last night my dog killed a snake in the backyard. Or, at least I think it was a snake; it was dark and the security light switched itself off while I was trying to see what was going on. Which was really handy because to make it turn back on I would have had to walk past wh...

joker · joker

I had a ohh moment. I was reading on line here and read about focusing on myself. I have been so much in physical pain lately, not sure, doctors are running tests, that focusing on the alcoholic has not even been an option for me. I am seeing the pain as my friend right now. It has been helping me to not to focu...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm greatful that John f.is still with us and has recently posted.i always get a lot out of his posts. and I'm greatful the sun is fully out and shining bright, on this cold wintry day,last week we had 70s weather,this morning I wake up to it being 7 degrees. we so need it to stay in the freezing temps for at l...

jitsuka · jitsuka

(http://alanon.activeboard.com/t63080803/hello-checking-in-partner-has-been-sober-since-christmas-eve/),

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for January 8 speaks about the time when the alcoholic finally finds sobriety. It suggests that we, as Al-Anon members need to overcome the fear and anxiety that maybe this sobriety will not last. The reading suggests that we try to maintain our confidence and trust in the proces...

MovieGal · MovieGal

Two things occurred last night while my husband was doing his usual 2 hour rant after coming home at 1:00 AM from drinking that have set me back. One, when he finally came to bed, he accidentally threw a pillow on top of me and I startled and said, "What are you doing?" He then said he was sorry and then qui...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Hi everyone The A in my life is my partner, she's been drinking for years - I have no idea about her early life but has been using it as a crutch for social anxiety (she's also recently been clinically diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome). I know for sure that she's been drinking a lot (vodka) 'secretly' i...

MissM · MissM

Today's c2c focuses on the "just for today" suggestion that "Just for today, I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax". It suggests that at first this is very difficult for many of us and so we might try 5 minutes, then 10 and so on until we are able to comfortably take 30 minutes to relax however...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

A friend of mine told me I should go to a co-dependents meeting because those most affected by drinking are co-dependent. She explained that those traits cause all the pain because they don't live their lives and everything the alcoholic is doing affects every aspect of their lives. It made sense to...

joker · joker

I am grateful this week is coming to an end. Its been insanely busy for me. My mind has been all over the place and my to do list just keeps growing, but I was able to get what had to be done this week accomplished. Its a great feeling. Wednesday I thought I would die. My body hurt all over so bad no amount of any p...

lard · lard

I am looking for a list of ways to verify sobriety/mental stability for a parenting plan. What are the sober parents asking for to keep the kids safe if/when there is a relapse? I am in California For example: monthly random drug test psychiatrist signing off to report on medication noncompliance...

See · See

My daughter in law has a severe drinking problem and other psychological issues. Her behavior toward me is on again and off. One minute she is nicey nice to me + then will completely shut me out. I feel like I need to walk around on egg shells with her + be careful what I say. What's a mom to do when she is ju...

a4l · a4l

Got my ct scan results back today. Bulging disc with nerve compression, plus degenerating facet joints and slight scoliosis. I am grateful to know its not all in my head which is a quite ridiculous fear considering that hello! You couldn't move. Lol. So there's an unexpected gratitude for a tang...

Fedora · Fedora

Hello and Happy New Year! I just wanted to say hi and thank you to everyone for sharing your thoughts. In the past year that I've been on this board, it has been a lifesaver for me. So much experience (which I am sorry that all of you have) and wisdom (which I am grateful that you have). Two things I am cautio...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading in our C2C literature discusses the importance of fellowship and support from other members in our program. Reaching out to others between meetings is a great tool to use - it helps us as well as the other person - our ability to share, get/give ESH, reason things out - fellowship is a g...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

A few days ago, my AH relapsed. All the old feelings of anger, resentment, sadness, fear and frustration came up. I know I shouldn't talk to a person who is has been drinking but I did and it didn't have a good outcome. I know better. The next day we talked a little and I also sent him an E-mail to express...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's daily in Courage to Change talks about enabling, compassion and motives....So many of us came to the program believing we were helping with compassion by covering for the alcoholic - making excuses, cleaning up financial messes, etc. The program shows us that when we did/do this, we were e...

oceanpine · oceanpine

The truly "baffle"ng part of my AH's behavior, for me, is that I just really have no idea when he has been drinking, or hasn't. I see behavior that I correlate with his drinking, but, I am not sure... maybe he is acting that way anyhow. The only reason it matters, is that in the course of human relationshi...

MomInMo · MomInMo

I just got divorced a month ago (after being separated for a long time). I didn't think of myself as being married to an addict, but he was (food, porn, all kinds of things that popped up). I didn't realize it, but I had used codependent skills in that marriage. I recently met a great guy. He's an "on the wag...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63082686/alanon-step-10-1-5-2017/

Helpangel · Helpangel

Hi all! I was wondering how people focus on themselves when the attitude and defensiveness is really shoved in your face with a dry drunk. I really do try and take that focus off of it but man it is hard when they constantly complain that their sick or tired or exhausted or blah, blah, blah.. I mean I am gett...

joker · joker

I went to a face to face meeting on Monday night and found myself a sponsor. She too lives with an active alcoholic and it was great to hear the tools she is using to manage. I shared with her what had happened during Christmas and my reflections and what my part was in the insanity. Oh my goodness, I had a hug...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

How does AlAnon work? That's what today's writer wondered upon arriving as many do: desperate and alone. These are the things that were done by those who had found serenity: * Attend AlAnon meetings, share if you can * Work the Steps (To overachievers: ONE at a time

* Get a sponsor * Read from AlAnon...

Crau · Crau

My ex (in recovery ) is working on his fourth step and tonight , almost proudly told me I made his list of resentments , specifically for being a part of the intervention. i guess I know his intent wasn't to make me feel bad and that my reaction internally is mine to own, but it still threw me off. All I sai...

Voodoo · Voodoo

thank you in advance for taking the time to read this and share-these boards bring me a lot of peace and insight. i have shared my current experience before-my boyfriend had been sober for almost ten years, we had been together for four when he started to drink again. He is a completely different person...

Bethany66 · Bethany66

I have been "in the program" of Al-Anon for over a year (it will be 2 years in March). I know I need a sponsor, I know it will aid in my recovery, but it paralyzes me with fear to ask someone to do that for me. Why is it so difficult? I keep thinking the right person hasn't come along and I am not sure if I want to...

Tannersmom · Tannersmom

We received an email from our AS; he wants to come home. He was apologetic for all the nasty things he said. He said those things because we had made him so mad. His girlfriends life was horrible and he just wanted to take care of her. He wanted to move back home with his girlfriend. My ex and I told him w...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I'd appreciate any suggestions about how to approach the following FTF meeting issues \ problems I'm encountering - I intend to bring the issues up in a Group Conscience, but any suggestions about how to do that effectively are welcome. 1 - sharings at meetings about problems completely unrelated t...

MomInMo · MomInMo

So, I'm new to all this. Very new. But at a meeting last night a lady did her share. Then the next lady took a turn - and spent it telling the last lady what she should do about her situation and how she should feel. I mean, it was good and kind advice, but it bothered me because I thought we weren't supposed to d...

Cutty1105 · Cutty1105

I met him in june 2015. He was just starting probation for a year for what i thought was 2 DUI's. (Turned out to be 4, 2 as a minor, 2 as an adult) All before i met him. He stole my heart. The following June he cleared probation with no mess ups. He was so strong and amazing. It started one weekend at a time before...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Even after we begin our recovery, we may find that still feel resentful at times when we don't get the support or affection we want/need from our qualifier. Today's page highlights the role our misplaced expectations play in this, similar to expecting to find bread in a hardware store. There are many...

KT2015 · KT2015

When I first came to Al Anon I used to say the Serenity prayer wrong I would say it like this "God, Grant me the Serenity to change the things I cannot change.." It still makes me laugh because I think it was just a little too representative of my mindset when I first stepped into the rooms. Acceptance is s...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- and Happy New Year! Today's reading is a reminder that although we may have suffered the effects of the family disease of alcoholism, it is not our fault nor the alcoholic's fault in regard to the disease. The program helps us to navigate the effects of this disease with the tool...

hiraeth · hiraeth

My mother is in another drinking binge and I saw her tonight for the first time in a while. She doesn't even look like herself. She is so, so swollen, particularly her face and abdomen. Her face is almost unrecognizable because the swelling has distorted her features. We had a really nice talk together...

joker · joker

Happy news years everyone. I am so grateful for a new year. I had a very nice evening last night-no drinking by the ABF. I went out and went for a steam bath and visited with my daughter and it was wonderful. I came home and the ABF had the fire place burning wood and candles lit up all over the living room. It w...

See · See

Trying to talk to me like I'm her therapist

Maggie91 · Maggie91

My relationship with a guy that i thought was the love of my life ended 4 months ago, but i still can't seem to let go of it. I still want him back, the background story is very long and it hurts my heart to talk about it, but long story short i want to get back with this man but everyone is telling me to let go of hi...

MissM · MissM

Thanks for the ESH on my lengthy post (re conversations with X). I'll start a new thread rather than resurrecting that transcript over and over, because it probably doesn't benefit anyone other than me to read it, really. It's amazing; no matter what I expect when I share something here, the perspect...

Jerry F · Jerry F

That of course translates to Happy New Year. There is no more loving group of people I could wish that to than my MIP Ohana my MIP family...I wish that for you all each day that comes at you and finds you serene. (((((hugs))))

andromeda · andromeda

2 years ago on New Year's Day I was busy celebrating that the last miserable holiday season with my XAH was coming to a close. I had found a new home to rent, I was packing like crazy, and I was ignoring my XAH's drunken barbs and passive aggressive attempts to engage me. I remember thinking that I would...

ilovelucy · ilovelucy

I've been in al anon a little over six years and have worked with my sponsor for five of those. Working with her has been incredible. I trust her implicitly. My life has changed through al anon. But it's been very difficult, and very slow--as it is for many of us. Throughout this time I've been wholly inco...

atheos · atheos

I don't think things are going to work with Al-Anon. I tried, I wanted it to work so bad, my life passed "unmanageable" several miles back and I was really hoping I was going to find help... but I'm an atheist. At first I thought I could make it work... get through step two calling the group my hi...

a4l · a4l

Ok. So im a bit more mobile today and took great pleasure hobbling my crutches out the door. Still can't bend or lift anything including the babies which i really miss. Pain is constant but manageable and the spasms have dialled down to twitces. I think i can handle a chiropractor now and definitel...

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	Slipping (Preview) After my meeting with my AS 2 Saturdays ago, I felt strong and confident in my boundaries and my feelings toward him. It only took 1 week for me to start worrying and longing for him. Sadness is creeping back into my heart. I am finding myself consumed with him again. I can't stand this stupid disease. I ne...	Tannersmom	5	615	Jan 10, 2017 by el-cee
	Hope for Today Jan 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how some children of alcoholics, ratheir than getting drunk on alcohol, get lost in emotional binges- unable to handle feelings, mood swings from euphoria to depression. The writer points out that the first step is a helpful tool in remembering tha...	yanksfan51	3	626	Jan 10, 2017 by Iamhere
	1/9/17 Hope for Today (Preview) Regarding behavior, a sponsor once told a member that once is a fluke, twice a coincidence, but three times is a pattern. Today's page suggests that if I am still suffering because of the same behavior that I have seen more than three times, than it is time to make an adjustment in my expectations, minds...	Enigmatic	8	3274	Jan 10, 2017 by Enigmatic
	The bottom line... (Preview) Although I haven't posted in a bit, I read the posts every single day. I have been very busy preparing for surgery tomorrow. It is in-patient biopsy of a possible cancer. I have had scans, and tests of every sort and tomorrow we will know for sure. With all the doctor visits and consultations, I made a req...	El	5	639	Jan 9, 2017 by Jen61
	Depression- I feel like it's a cycle and that I just run out of energy.. (Preview) hi everyone. I have been trying to follow the steps and take care of me but sometimes I feel like my energy is completly taken from me. I can barely get motivated to do anything. I'll get up to do what I have to do but the rest of the time I just want to watch tv. It's weird but I have noticed that it is pattern w...	Helpangel	4	791	Jan 9, 2017 by a4l
	Oh another higher power happening (Preview) I woke up often last night with something relating to my son going round and round in my mind. I woke up with seething anger, i wanted to react, wake everyone up, tell them what was what, kick them all out, the whole dramatics, the urge was intense. I didnt, i sat with the anger, kind of allowed it to be, neve...	el-cee	2	632	Jan 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	Struggling- Need Help (Preview) Met a women in the program(AA) and starting dating. Nothing to romantic- just got together once a week or so. Went to dinner, movies and took her son to a hockey game. Moving really slow, felt really healthy to both of us. We never pushed or forced anything on one another. We liked each other uncond...	Mike B	12	1018	Jan 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	Watching a miracle happen and in support. (Preview) We all have been here before ourselves. And we put it in print on the board. The anger and rage and blame and resentments and more..."our insanities". It happens in the meetings also and recently here at home in Hilo. Each time it happens we earn more experience with it and the woman who brings it....	Jerry F	2	628	Jan 9, 2017 by Iamhere
	So angry (Preview) How do I stop being so angry at my spouse? I am so full of rage not just anger when he is drinking. I cannot even stand to be around him. I am currently tapering off of the antidepressant I have been taking for the past 2 years and I can feel a difference right now in how I am dealing with him. I cannot tolerate it...	Scarlet Begonias	6	3227	Jan 9, 2017 by SDB
	Hospice - (edited) (Preview) This morning at 9 AM I am meeting with my Hospice worker for first time. It will be an in-home visit. Yes, my health condition is really so bad that its now time to start putting a solid treatment team together so my transition from flesh, to spirit can go forward with some level of dignity in caring hands....	John	25	3060	Jan 9, 2017 by tryingtoheal
	I think I hate my husband Anger relapse drugs suboxone (Preview) My husband destroyed our friendships, his career, his body (he looks like a skeleton with skin), and, his brain, our relationship when he relapsed while I was pregnant near 4 years ago now. When I discovered what was really going on with him, I kicked him out of the house. I was 7 months pregnant and we ha...	ValentineB	10	8763	Jan 9, 2017 by KT2015
	Enough Is Enough (Preview) I posted before about my son obviously being high when he would stop by my house,and how I felt the need to call him out on it,to know the truth.After that,I did my best to just mind my own business,not accuse him of being high,not ask if he was,I basically just ignored it. Things really got worse though.I...	TessaB	15	963	Jan 9, 2017 by el-cee
	Having a rough life need help or advice? (Preview) Hello this is my very first time being on this al-anon group chatting website. I have a really bad alcoholic father who overly drinks on the weekends. I'm his only daughter who is going to be 28 in May. I don't know where to begin.... My dad is a hard working man he treats me alright Monday-Thursday but Fri...	Kellie28	1	520	Jan 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	Heartbroken after break up with alcoholic boyfriend (Preview) Hi, I'm new here. I feel a little strange asking people I don't know for support around this, but I think people here probably understand what I'm going through more than anyone else. In mid-June I broke up with my alcoholic boyfriend of two and a half years due to his drinking (he had stopped for three we...	Mary328	19	2833	Jan 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	how to cope (Preview) I am struggling to deal with my husband's drinking especially since my Mother has recently placed in a convalescent care facility. I am needing support to get through this ordeal, however instead of that I have a belligerent drunk man to cope with when I get home from visiting her. Both his parent's...	LouiseR	3	597	Jan 8, 2017 by Freetime
	Alcoholic in recovery but question honesty (Preview) Hi all, Im in a 4 year relationship with an alcoholic who has been in active recovery over the past 2 years (has a sponsor, 5-6 meetings a week). He has had several relapses. What should I do if I see subtle signs (speech pattern and personality changes) that indicate to me, he may have been drinking?...	Westport3124	4	758	Jan 8, 2017 by wifeofalcoholic
	Telling family about problem drinking in spouse (Preview) I am finally realizing that my husband has a drinking problem. I used to drink with him, before kids, and now only find time for a glass of wine maybe twice a week. He, however, drinks 2 beers nightly in front of me, and hides more on his way home from work. I found a full unopened beer under the bed (he wor...	r3tr3v3d	9	1893	Jan 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	Nocturnal visitors. (Preview) Deep breath...find serenity... Last night my dog killed a snake in the backyard. Or, at least I think it was a snake; it was dark and the security light switched itself off while I was trying to see what was going on. Which was really handy because to make it turn back on I would have had to walk past wh...	MissM	5	671	Jan 8, 2017 by Jen61
	Focus on myself (Preview) I had a ohh moment. I was reading on line here and read about focusing on myself. I have been so much in physical pain lately, not sure, doctors are running tests, that focusing on the alcoholic has not even been an option for me. I am seeing the pain as my friend right now. It has been helping me to not to focu...	joker	3	596	Jan 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	G&a (Preview) I'm greatful that John f.is still with us and has recently posted.i always get a lot out of his posts. and I'm greatful the sun is fully out and shining bright, on this cold wintry day,last week we had 70s weather,this morning I wake up to it being 7 degrees. we so need it to stay in the freezing temps for at l...	lookingup	6	487	Jan 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	Partner dry since NYE, drinking again ... (Preview) (http://alanon.activeboard.com/t63080803/hello-checking-in-partner-has-been-sober-since-christmas-eve/),	jitsuka	4	560	Jan 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	ODAT readng 1-8-2017 (Preview) The ODA T reading for January 8 speaks about the time when the alcoholic finally finds sobriety. It suggests that we, as Al-Anon members need to overcome the fear and anxiety that maybe this sobriety will not last. The reading suggests that we try to maintain our confidence and trust in the proces...	hotrod	4	673	Jan 8, 2017 by Iamhere
	Do I Need to make amends to my Qualifier? (Preview) Two things occurred last night while my husband was doing his usual 2 hour rant after coming home at 1:00 AM from drinking that have set me back. One, when he finally came to bed, he accidentally threw a pillow on top of me and I startled and said, "What are you doing?" He then said he was sorry and then qui...	MovieGal	10	1019	Jan 8, 2017 by MovieGal
	Hello, checking in. Partner has been sober since Christmas Eve. (Preview) Hi everyone The A in my life is my partner, she's been drinking for years - I have no idea about her early life but has been using it as a crutch for social anxiety (she's also recently been clinically diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome). I know for sure that she's been drinking a lot (vodka) 'secretly' i...	jitsuka	7	683	Jan 7, 2017 by jitsuka
	Courage to Change 7/1 (Preview) Today's c2c focuses on the "just for today" suggestion that "Just for today, I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax". It suggests that at first this is very difficult for many of us and so we might try 5 minutes, then 10 and so on until we are able to comfortably take 30 minutes to relax however...	MissM	3	509	Jan 7, 2017 by MissM
	Are we co-dependents? (Preview) A friend of mine told me I should go to a co-dependents meeting because those most affected by drinking are co-dependent. She explained that those traits cause all the pain because they don't live their lives and everything the alcoholic is doing affects every aspect of their lives. It made sense to...	wifeofalcoholic	8	754	Jan 7, 2017 by Calm Lady
	continued progress (Preview) I am grateful this week is coming to an end. Its been insanely busy for me. My mind has been all over the place and my to do list just keeps growing, but I was able to get what had to be done this week accomplished. Its a great feeling. Wednesday I thought I would die. My body hurt all over so bad no amount of any p...	joker	2	547	Jan 6, 2017 by LinSC
	options to verify sobriety/mental stability for a parenting plan sobriety parenting plan drug testing (Preview) I am looking for a list of ways to verify sobriety/mental stability for a parenting plan. What are the sober parents asking for to keep the kids safe if/when there is a relapse? I am in California For example: monthly random drug test psychiatrist signing off to report on medication noncompliance...	lard	3	8729	Jan 6, 2017 by Mattie
	Alcoholic depressed daughter in law (Preview) My daughter in law has a severe drinking problem and other psychological issues. Her behavior toward me is on again and off. One minute she is nicey nice to me + then will completely shut me out. I feel like I need to walk around on egg shells with her + be careful what I say. What's a mom to do when she is ju...	See	3	641	Jan 6, 2017 by lgnutah
	yay not nuts (not entirely) (Preview) Got my ct scan results back today. Bulging disc with nerve compression, plus degenerating facet joints and slight scoliosis. I am grateful to know its not all in my head which is a quite ridiculous fear considering that hello! You couldn't move. Lol. So there's an unexpected gratitude for a tang...	a4l	4	580	Jan 6, 2017 by el-cee
	Happy New Year (Preview) Hello and Happy New Year! I just wanted to say hi and thank you to everyone for sharing your thoughts. In the past year that I've been on this board, it has been a lifesaver for me. So much experience (which I am sorry that all of you have) and wisdom (which I am grateful that you have). Two things I am cautio...	Fedora	2	514	Jan 6, 2017 by Iamhere
	C2C (Courage to Change) for 1/6/17 (Preview) Today's reading in our C2C literature discusses the importance of fellowship and support from other members in our program. Reaching out to others between meetings is a great tool to use - it helps us as well as the other person - our ability to share, get/give ESH, reason things out - fellowship is a g...	Iamhere	2	528	Jan 6, 2017 by Iamhere
	Relapse (Preview) A few days ago, my AH relapsed. All the old feelings of anger, resentment, sadness, fear and frustration came up. I know I shouldn't talk to a person who is has been drinking but I did and it didn't have a good outcome. I know better. The next day we talked a little and I also sent him an E-mail to express...	wifeofalcoholic	3	609	Jan 6, 2017 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 1/5/17 (Preview) Today's daily in Courage to Change talks about enabling, compassion and motives....So many of us came to the program believing we were helping with compassion by covering for the alcoholic - making excuses, cleaning up financial messes, etc. The program shows us that when we did/do this, we were e...	Iamhere	8	3225	Jan 6, 2017 by Neroli
	a vent and asking for suggestions on how to share with an A about their behavior (Preview) The truly "baffle"ng part of my AH's behavior, for me, is that I just really have no idea when he has been drinking, or hasn't. I see behavior that I correlate with his drinking, but, I am not sure... maybe he is acting that way anyhow. The only reason it matters, is that in the course of human relationshi...	oceanpine	3	913	Jan 6, 2017 by Fedora
	Finding love again (Preview) I just got divorced a month ago (after being separated for a long time). I didn't think of myself as being married to an addict, but he was (food, porn, all kinds of things that popped up). I didn't realize it, but I had used codependent skills in that marriage. I recently met a great guy. He's an "on the wag...	MomInMo	14	837	Jan 5, 2017 by Mirandac
	Step 10 on Step Board (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63082686/alanon-step-10-1-5-2017/	hotrod	0	535	Jan 5, 2017 by hotrod
	Working on my recovery in spite of his continued dry drunk defensiveness (Preview) Hi all! I was wondering how people focus on themselves when the attitude and defensiveness is really shoved in your face with a dry drunk. I really do try and take that focus off of it but man it is hard when they constantly complain that their sick or tired or exhausted or blah, blah, blah.. I mean I am gett...	Helpangel	3	668	Jan 4, 2017 by Helpangel
	Making small steps forward (Preview) I went to a face to face meeting on Monday night and found myself a sponsor. She too lives with an active alcoholic and it was great to hear the tools she is using to manage. I shared with her what had happened during Christmas and my reflections and what my part was in the insanity. Oh my goodness, I had a hug...	joker	6	579	Jan 4, 2017 by Iamhere
	1/4/17 Courage to Change (Preview) How does AlAnon work? That's what today's writer wondered upon arriving as many do: desperate and alone. These are the things that were done by those who had found serenity: * Attend AlAnon meetings, share if you can * Work the Steps (To overachievers: ONE at a time * Get a sponsor * Read from AlAnon...	Enigmatic	3	3155	Jan 4, 2017 by Iamhere
	On the resentment list (Preview) My ex (in recovery ) is working on his fourth step and tonight , almost proudly told me I made his list of resentments , specifically for being a part of the intervention. i guess I know his intent wasn't to make me feel bad and that my reaction internally is mine to own, but it still threw me off. All I sai...	Crau	10	2782	Jan 4, 2017 by Iamhere
	How do I know what to do when my thoughts and feelings seem to constantly change? (Preview) thank you in advance for taking the time to read this and share-these boards bring me a lot of peace and insight. i have shared my current experience before-my boyfriend had been sober for almost ten years, we had been together for four when he started to drink again. He is a completely different person...	Voodoo	6	724	Jan 4, 2017 by Iamhere
	Why is it so hard for me to choose a sponsor? (Preview) I have been "in the program" of Al-Anon for over a year (it will be 2 years in March). I know I need a sponsor, I know it will aid in my recovery, but it paralyzes me with fear to ask someone to do that for me. Why is it so difficult? I keep thinking the right person hasn't come along and I am not sure if I want to...	Bethany66	9	918	Jan 4, 2017 by KT2015
	Our Meeting (Preview) We received an email from our AS; he wants to come home. He was apologetic for all the nasty things he said. He said those things because we had made him so mad. His girlfriends life was horrible and he just wanted to take care of her. He wanted to move back home with his girlfriend. My ex and I told him w...	Tannersmom	5	613	Jan 4, 2017 by Neroli
	FTF meetings - giving everyone time to share (Preview) I'd appreciate any suggestions about how to approach the following FTF meeting issues \ problems I'm encountering - I intend to bring the issues up in a Group Conscience, but any suggestions about how to do that effectively are welcome. 1 - sharings at meetings about problems completely unrelated t...	texas yankee	4	754	Jan 4, 2017 by texas yankee
	Meeting cross talk (Preview) So, I'm new to all this. Very new. But at a meeting last night a lady did her share. Then the next lady took a turn - and spent it telling the last lady what she should do about her situation and how she should feel. I mean, it was good and kind advice, but it bothered me because I thought we weren't supposed to d...	MomInMo	4	1009	Jan 4, 2017 by MomInMo
	The decision to leave was hard. (Preview) I met him in june 2015. He was just starting probation for a year for what i thought was 2 DUI's. (Turned out to be 4, 2 as a minor, 2 as an adult) All before i met him. He stole my heart. The following June he cleared probation with no mess ups. He was so strong and amazing. It started one weekend at a time before...	Cutty1105	9	762	Jan 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	1/2/17 Courage to Change (Preview) Even after we begin our recovery, we may find that still feel resentful at times when we don't get the support or affection we want/need from our qualifier. Today's page highlights the role our misplaced expectations play in this, similar to expecting to find bread in a hardware store. There are many...	Enigmatic	4	923	Jan 3, 2017 by hotrod
	Acceptance (Preview) When I first came to Al Anon I used to say the Serenity prayer wrong I would say it like this "God, Grant me the Serenity to change the things I cannot change.." It still makes me laugh because I think it was just a little too representative of my mindset when I first stepped into the rooms. Acceptance is s...	KT2015	3	1548	Jan 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Jan 3 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- and Happy New Year! Today's reading is a reminder that although we may have suffered the effects of the family disease of alcoholism, it is not our fault nor the alcoholic's fault in regard to the disease. The program helps us to navigate the effects of this disease with the tool...	yanksfan51	3	634	Jan 3, 2017 by Iamhere
	did your loved alcoholic die? can you help me prepare? (Preview) My mother is in another drinking binge and I saw her tonight for the first time in a while. She doesn't even look like herself. She is so, so swollen, particularly her face and abdomen. Her face is almost unrecognizable because the swelling has distorted her features. We had a really nice talk together...	hiraeth	12	916	Jan 3, 2017 by Maresie25
	Grateful today (Preview) Happy news years everyone. I am so grateful for a new year. I had a very nice evening last night-no drinking by the ABF. I went out and went for a steam bath and visited with my daughter and it was wonderful. I came home and the ABF had the fire place burning wood and candles lit up all over the living room. It w...	joker	5	573	Jan 3, 2017 by andromeda
	Alcoholic daughter in law (Preview) Trying to talk to me like I'm her therapist	See	11	849	Jan 2, 2017 by hiraeth
	depression (I'm new, any advice is welcome) (Preview) My relationship with a guy that i thought was the love of my life ended 4 months ago, but i still can't seem to let go of it. I still want him back, the background story is very long and it hurts my heart to talk about it, but long story short i want to get back with this man but everyone is telling me to let go of hi...	Maggie91	9	752	Jan 2, 2017 by See
	On reflection... (Preview) Thanks for the ESH on my lengthy post (re conversations with X). I'll start a new thread rather than resurrecting that transcript over and over, because it probably doesn't benefit anyone other than me to read it, really. It's amazing; no matter what I expect when I share something here, the perspect...	MissM	6	733	Jan 2, 2017 by MomInMo
	Hauoli Makahiki ho (Preview) That of course translates to Happy New Year. There is no more loving group of people I could wish that to than my MIP Ohana my MIP family...I wish that for you all each day that comes at you and finds you serene. (((((hugs))))	Jerry F	10	682	Jan 2, 2017 by Iamhere
	2 short years ago..... (Preview) 2 years ago on New Year's Day I was busy celebrating that the last miserable holiday season with my XAH was coming to a close. I had found a new home to rent, I was packing like crazy, and I was ignoring my XAH's drunken barbs and passive aggressive attempts to engage me. I remember thinking that I would...	andromeda	6	669	Jan 2, 2017 by Iamhere
	Help learning how to become accountable with my sponsor (Preview) I've been in al anon a little over six years and have worked with my sponsor for five of those. Working with her has been incredible. I trust her implicitly. My life has changed through al anon. But it's been very difficult, and very slow--as it is for many of us. Throughout this time I've been wholly inco...	ilovelucy	12	792	Jan 1, 2017 by MomInMo
	Can Al-Anon work for non-spiritual atheists? (Preview) I don't think things are going to work with Al-Anon. I tried, I wanted it to work so bad, my life passed "unmanageable" several miles back and I was really hoping I was going to find help... but I'm an atheist. At first I thought I could make it work... get through step two calling the group my hi...	atheos	33	11254	Jan 1, 2017 by Jerry F
	a pre emptive sanity saving vent (Preview) Ok. So im a bit more mobile today and took great pleasure hobbling my crutches out the door. Still can't bend or lift anything including the babies which i really miss. Pain is constant but manageable and the spasms have dialled down to twitces. I think i can handle a chiropractor now and definitel...	a4l	4	669	Jan 1, 2017 by a4l
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