Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C talks of the power of attending al-anon meetings, especially when we are in a funk and don't want to go. The reading suggests those are the times a meeting can benefit us most, and when we are most likely to hear exactly what we needed to hear. I can't tell you how often al-anon, in one way or ano...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page reminds us that it is our point of focus that determines our level of anger and the negative impact to ourselves and others. Though unnecessary, it is often easier to fixate on the perceived wrong until our anger spills over and our attempts to punish the 'wrongdoer' consumes our though...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the words of the suggested closing: "...let there be no gossip or criticism of one another." The author realized that, although they try to leave their judgmental attitude at the door, they pick it up promptly after meetings and carry it with them, judgment...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading speaks about how the author, before Al-Anon, had resentments that took up much of the writers days/years. They noticed, over time, that after getting involved in the Al-Anon program, that their need to justify how they felt; constantlyhashing over the grievances, blame and/or da...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I may just be passing through or I may stay a little while. I had been working at the recovery house. Then, the pandemic hit. We all know how that story went. Eventually, I retired in April of last year, but just when ya thinks youre out, they pulls ya back in again. I think thats from one of the godfather mov...

Lyne · Lyne

Today's writer is preparing for change, tremendous change, when working Step 6. There can be great fear about if shedding too many characteristics; what will be left? The unknown can be terrifying, yet change is desired. HP is there for guidance, and yet in Step 6, one does not have to change anyth...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Todays reading is about how the tools and practices within alanon help us to find our rights and personal growth. The writer describes being affected by his/her fathers alcoholism by experiencing depression, overeating and low self-esteem. After attending several alanon meetings, the write...

Youknowme · Youknowme

I have just submitted the last assignment for my degree. I already know that I have passed. I'm telling you guys about it because man, it's been a crazy long road but I truly don't believe I could have pulled myself together well enough to finally get here without al-anon. In truth, there's a pretty good...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Hello everyone

Today's C2C speaks of developing the ability to accept and grow from constructive criticism because we are, at the same time, learning not to judge our personal value and worth on how we think others perceive us. It mentions being able to "risk disapproval" and having the courage t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares about their past. They initially insisted that alcoholism didn't exist in their family, and that everything was fine. They were totally normal. When the author began to accept that alcoholism was a disease that impacted the whole family, t...

Lyne · Lyne

The member discusses letting people take advantage of them. That caused an enormous amount of anger, resentment, and guilt. The member wondered why they denied their own feelings to gain someone else's approval. They realized they lacked courage. Would they be willing to accept that not ever...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

If only able to put Alanon slogans into practice, we could almost be spiritually perfect thought today's writer. Using Live and Let Live as an example, these four words encourage us to experience the rich joy and happiness that is possible when we are living at our best. Often more difficult, we are...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I walked through my fears w/ some anxiety. My friend from al anon helped immensely. She was there through the whole thing. I am far less afraid than I was. Today I am back on track & feel like I want to hang out w/ y'all again. It didn't take as long as I thought it would. I am grateful that I can return &...

Lyne · Lyne

I'm going to copy this paragraph: I came to alanon to discover how to get a loved one to stop drinking, hoping that my life would then return to normal. In alanon I came to understand that I did not cause alcoholism, I can't control it, and I can't cure it [the 3 C's]. But I can apply the Twelve Steps to my o...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the power and role our minds play in recovery. The writer describes learning that the power of his/her own mind can help or hurt, but its a choice which way that will go. The writer then goes on to examine both steps 3 and 11 more thoroughly. In 3 (Made a d...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C reading is a reminder that even though we might invest ourselves in recovery and seemingly see no results for long periods of time, moments of clarity, serenity and detachment can come seemingly out of the blue if we persist. They aren't "out of the blue" but in fact the culmination of fait...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays reading writes about the spiritual aspect of Al-Anon (Step Two) and how the whole program is based on the ability of themembers to experience, the wonder of knowing that there is a "Power greater than ourselves, that which we can rely".The author is very clear, that there is "no pa...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers the depth of the illusions we can carry. The writer noted how they became determined to stop controlling others, only to realize that the thought they could control others was in fact, an illusion... Illusion is also the source of the perception they lack something internall...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about our interpretation of God as we understood Him. (Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.). The writer describes having some trouble with this phrase after a short time in al-anon. While some strug...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My life is a hot mess. I married a man that never accepted my youngest daughter and although he was aware we are a package deal, since we both had 2 kids from a previous marriage coming together as a family. I have allowed him to scapegoat my youngest daughter and at this point I can't leave the house withou...

allsmiles228 · allsmiles228

I first posted here 2 years ago - when at the beginning of covid, I started to wonder if my husband had a drinking problem. At one point, he drank so much he couldn't stand and had left his throw up all over the floor. It also came out around that time that he had 30k in credit card debt. We had only been married...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor shares the lessons learned in Alanon about boundaries: their flexibility allows customized settings of accepted behavior from ourselves and others, based upon situation and desired exposure level. This encourages a preset perspective that allows us to say 'no' with love r...

DM2021 · DM2021

Interesting topic today, from the C2C, about how the congenial atmosphere of an Al-Anon meeting is dependent on allparticipants to be able to place "principles above personalities." I can see that is also true about membership and MIP as well.The author goes on to say that it is not expected that we...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is going to be very short as I don't want to reveal too much at this time. More will be revealed as I take another step towards recovery. I am going through the roughest time of my entire life. Remember the decision I had to make before? It is coming closer to that ill-fated day. I was hospitalized when...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading speaks of letting go and letting your HP. It talks about the faulty belief that if someone won't take care of themselves, we have to take care of them to ensure their survival, and how letting go of that belief allows people the dignity to experience their own life and learn their own les...

allsmiles228 · allsmiles228

Hi, I just discovered this group and so appreciate it. I have been to al anon and ACA in the past and am going to start again. I need to get some feedback right now. So, I grew up with alcoholics - which is why I've been to Al anon and Aca. I'm 42 now. After years of dating, I finally met a great guy. Though all m...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer talks about coming to alanon with hopes that if we work better and faster, we can speed up our process of recovery. But alanon is a long-term process in order to achieve growth and change. It is suggested that we try "Easy Does It," and our work can be accomplished if we stop pushing. The pro...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of taking care of ourselves with boundaries. The writer learned to set a boundary with others when it came to use of sarcasm. Someone was being sarcastic while the two were trying to reach an agreeable solution to a conflict. The writer r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Even though I know that guilt & shame get you basically nowhere, I can see now that it is also a healing process. I have made some really bad decisions lately. It stems from not being able to see that it is in the past. God continually shows me that I am not alone & that he shows me his love through oth...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading is such a good reminder that success in Al-Anon, for each of us working the program,has no "stopwatch" or timeframe. Everyone is different because of the so many varied circumstanceswe each have dealt or are dealing with in our lives. So learning and listening to each other is theco...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

Ok. so my kids came home from college for summer. my younger son asked to speak with me and verbalized he was upset how I was interacting by not interacting with my AH. I explained to him about detachment and that I want so much for his father to stop drinking and to engage with the family, but that was h...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author asks: how many days of my life have I wasted? The author reflects on missed opportunities from years past including the joys of their childrens early years and overtures of friendship from coworkers and others. The author was so consu...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer ponders other words that would convey Step 1 in other effective ways. Some considered: * If I'm powerless, why do I try to control another's drinking? * Let go and Let the Higher Power work... * If powerless, it makes sense only to Live and Let Live: live my life fully, let others live theirs...

Lyne · Lyne

This author comments about inappropriate ways of dealing with anger: denying it, stuffing it, going off in a fury, and/or directing the anger outward. One can also avoid any and all conflict, and turn into a doormat! Alanon encourages us to acknowledge our feelings, but to be responsible for di...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

What would you do if a single decision changed your life forever?

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to be open in our involvement with other people, and learning to detach from the behaviors of others in order to give acceptance, respect and consideration. The writer describes how because of how invested in alanon he/she is, participatin...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

Good morning - what do you do when you're addicted loved ones are in trouble - real trouble, like threatening to kill themselves trouble - but you have boundaries, healthy boundaries that they refuse to acknowledge? My 22 year old daughter has decided that selling prescription drugs is more lucrat...

DM2021 · DM2021

This days C2C reading starts off with the author talking about a childhood memory of climbing a tree and watching nesting birdsand lying of their back wondering what it would be like to "fall into the sky full of clouds". The lesson Al-Anon suggests we see is that we can all learn from nature because th...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of being released from the need to prove ourselves right by assigning blame during conflicts. So often, when we live in constant conflict, we become score-keepers and prosecution lawyers, determined to prove that someone else is at fault so that we can feel secure that we are not t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! In today's reading the author shares that when many of us came to Al-Anon we felt that we got in a raw deal from life. We might say that it isn't fair or we might say that we deserve better after all we've been through. In the just for today pamphlet it suggested that instead of questioning what l...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer notes that 'detachment' can be misunderstood, but for them it means freedom - ownership of their own, and others: theirs. Seeing this as a freedom allows them to hold onto their humanity as measured by ability to recognize another's pain and joy, to still identify, love and care about th...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses two aspects of Tradition 3 that they cherish--they can go to a meeting anywhere in the world and know what to expect. The group will not be promoting anything else, but should that happen, they can take what they like and leave the rest. Secondly, the requirements for the meeting...

Bending2101 · Bending2101

Hello everyone. First time posting here but I am needing help. My father is in his mid 60s and has been in my mind a mild alcoholic for a while. He had prostate cancer 2 years ago and also had a hip replaced 3 weeks ago. He is currently at the beginning of a pretty nasty divorce and it's not looking like it will...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the importance of meetings and the impact they have on our recovery. The writer describes finding a meeting early on where members focused on problems rather than seek solutions. After some time, the writer realized that dwelling on the problems ea...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays Courage to Change suggests that some of us readers have spent too much time feeling "critical of ourselves",mainly/possibly because of the critical environment we have been exposed to for so long.Al-Anon suggests that at the end of each day we (mentally or physically) list our...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading the author shares that Al-Anon is a spiritual program but that it is based on no religion and that no religious belief is required. However no particular religion is required. we might understand the higher power as God, good orderly direction, Allah, the universe or something el...

DM2021 · DM2021

If I am not mistaken, Saturday is open, if someone would like to post a daily. Let us know!!

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer felt the drinker's behavior reflected poorly on them, worried about what others thought. Elated when the drinker got sober, devastated a day later, and many times thereafter. Lesson learned in Alanon: Wellbeing does not depend on another's behavior, but on mine; what is it tellin...

Lyne · Lyne

As we know the 8th tradition focuses on keeping alanon non-professional, keeping a spiritual focus, and keeping the program available to others. However the writer also speaks about that the love shared between members cannot be bought, it's not a gift, nor a commodity. We give it away freely with...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the phenomenon many of us live with, when in spite of all things pointing to a happy, contented and fulfilling life, we worry and wait for something negative to happen, a sense of impending doom as a foundation to each day. The writer quotes a question fr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on the MIP Board, I would like to share of how I feel about living with my effects of Alcoholism. I don't live with active Alcoholism anymore, not that I don't see the effects that have gone through my Family Members, as I know it is well and truly still alive. I find it hard to work my program with no...

Lyne · Lyne

This month is my 9 yr anniversary with my home group. Four people have been on this journey with me--they were there before me. I've been on MIP for 11 years. And I text each morning with an alanon friend. The sum total of all this help, contact, and fellowship, has profoundly changed my life in a posit...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2c is about having the courage to be honest with ourselves; about our circumstances, our lack of control over them, and about our shortcomings. I think what strikes me most about this is the extraordinary amount of effort I used to put (and, lets face it, still do if I am not vigilant) into kee...

DM2021 · DM2021

A great story/comparison in todays reading about a farmer who thought if he played his flute all day for his hens thatthey would lay more eggs for him. Well we all know how that one turned out and when asked he replied that the hensdid not produce anymore eggs but that it was a great day for music! This f...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about how working with a sponsor helped them to learn how to take responsibility for their emotions, and express themselves in a more straightforward way. This started by being careful with words chosen for self-talk and communicating intentiona...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on MIP Board, I have been in a really dark place in my life of late, I felt that I lost me, and my faith and trust in my HP. I know I haven't posted anything for awhile, but I have been reading the sharings, and believe me, they have helped me so much. Just reading them, brought me an awful lot of peace, w...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

In answer, today's page reveals Alanon's use as 'thinking thoughtfully' in the sense of allowing us to identify our higher power's guidance in our life. Quiet meditation in the calmness of inaction allows us to develop healthier instincts that get stronger over time. Reminder - Take time to clear t...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Having had a number of years where my alcoholic son overlooked \ forgot any type of Father's Day greeting, I wanted to offer a "Happy Fathers Day" to those Fathers that are experiencing some distance from their addicted adult child - and, if you're drifting into any thinking that involves "what's my p...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that the fear learned from the experience of alcoholism, in a way became a habit. For example, when confronted, they kept silent. The silence was not a choice but reacting, giving up self-respect out of fear and out of habit. The writer has learned alternatives: recognize fear, sa...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. The writer describes hearing others share about this step, and resolving to make peace with the idea that his/her parents did the best they could, and lett...

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	C2C August 11th (Preview) Today's C2C talks of the power of attending al-anon meetings, especially when we are in a funk and don't want to go. The reading suggests those are the times a meeting can benefit us most, and when we are most likely to hear exactly what we needed to hear. I can't tell you how often al-anon, in one way or ano...	Youknowme	2	2175	Aug 11, 2022 by DM2021
	8/9/22 ODAT – Anger: Change our Focus, Change the Outcome (Preview) Today's page reminds us that it is our point of focus that determines our level of anger and the negative impact to ourselves and others. Though unnecessary, it is often easier to fixate on the perceived wrong until our anger spills over and our attempts to punish the 'wrongdoer' consumes our though...	Enigmatic	3	2217	Aug 9, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Courage to Change July 27 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the words of the suggested closing: "...let there be no gossip or criticism of one another." The author realized that, although they try to leave their judgmental attitude at the door, they pick it up promptly after meetings and carry it with them, judgment...	Skorpi	2	2996	Aug 9, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C – August 05, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading speaks about how the author, before Al-Anon, had resentments that took up much of the writers days/years. They noticed, over time, that after getting involved in the Al-Anon program, that their need to justify how they felt; constantlyhashing over the grievances, blame and/or da...	DM2021	5	1004	Aug 9, 2022 by DM2021
	The More Things Change...... (Preview) I may just be passing through or I may stay a little while. I had been working at the recovery house. Then, the pandemic hit. We all know how that story went. Eventually, I retired in April of last year, but just when ya thinks youre out, they pulls ya back in again. I think thats from one of the godfather mov...	Wolfie55	2	2082	Aug 9, 2022 by Enigmatic
	C2C, Monday, 8/8, preparing for change (Preview) Today's writer is preparing for change, tremendous change, when working Step 6. There can be great fear about if shedding too many characteristics; what will be left? The unknown can be terrifying, yet change is desired. HP is there for guidance, and yet in Step 6, one does not have to change anyth...	Lyne	1	2115	Aug 8, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Aug 7 (Preview) Todays reading is about how the tools and practices within alanon help us to find our rights and personal growth. The writer describes being affected by his/her fathers alcoholism by experiencing depression, overeating and low self-esteem. After attending several alanon meetings, the write...	yanksfan51	1	2156	Aug 7, 2022 by DM2021
	Woohoo! (Preview) I have just submitted the last assignment for my degree. I already know that I have passed. I'm telling you guys about it because man, it's been a crazy long road but I truly don't believe I could have pulled myself together well enough to finally get here without al-anon. In truth, there's a pretty good...	Youknowme	6	1672	Aug 6, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C August 4th (Preview) Hello everyone Today's C2C speaks of developing the ability to accept and grow from constructive criticism because we are, at the same time, learning not to judge our personal value and worth on how we think others perceive us. It mentions being able to "risk disapproval" and having the courage t...	Youknowme	4	844	Aug 6, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change August 3 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares about their past. They initially insisted that alcoholism didn't exist in their family, and that everything was fine. They were totally normal. When the author began to accept that alcoholism was a disease that impacted the whole family, t...	Skorpi	3	2008	Aug 4, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 7/25, saying yes when you mean no (Preview) The member discusses letting people take advantage of them. That caused an enormous amount of anger, resentment, and guilt. The member wondered why they denied their own feelings to gain someone else's approval. They realized they lacked courage. Would they be willing to accept that not ever...	Lyne	7	1636	Aug 3, 2022 by DM2021
	8/2/22 ODAT - Live and Let Live: Compact, Powerful Program Message (Preview) If only able to put Alanon slogans into practice, we could almost be spiritually perfect thought today's writer. Using Live and Let Live as an example, these four words encourage us to experience the rich joy and happiness that is possible when we are living at our best. Often more difficult, we are...	Enigmatic	2	1992	Aug 3, 2022 by Lyne
	I walked through my fears (Preview) I walked through my fears w/ some anxiety. My friend from al anon helped immensely. She was there through the whole thing. I am far less afraid than I was. Today I am back on track & feel like I want to hang out w/ y'all again. It didn't take as long as I thought it would. I am grateful that I can return &...	Hoot Nanny	2	2114	Aug 2, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 8/1, The essence of alanon (Preview) I'm going to copy this paragraph: I came to alanon to discover how to get a loved one to stop drinking, hoping that my life would then return to normal. In alanon I came to understand that I did not cause alcoholism, I can't control it, and I can't cure it [the 3 C's]. But I can apply the Twelve Steps to my o...	Lyne	1	2304	Aug 1, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 31 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the power and role our minds play in recovery. The writer describes learning that the power of his/her own mind can help or hurt, but its a choice which way that will go. The writer then goes on to examine both steps 3 and 11 more thoroughly. In 3 (Made a d...	yanksfan51	1	2443	Jul 31, 2022 by DM2021
	c2c 28/7 (Preview) Today's C2C reading is a reminder that even though we might invest ourselves in recovery and seemingly see no results for long periods of time, moments of clarity, serenity and detachment can come seemingly out of the blue if we persist. They aren't "out of the blue" but in fact the culmination of fait...	Youknowme	2	3265	Jul 30, 2022 by Lyne
	Spirituality – C2C – July 29, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays reading writes about the spiritual aspect of Al-Anon (Step Two) and how the whole program is based on the ability of themembers to experience, the wonder of knowing that there is a "Power greater than ourselves, that which we can rely".The author is very clear, that there is "no pa...	DM2021	1	3063	Jul 29, 2022 by Lyne
	7/26/22 C2C - Trading Illusion for Spiritual Reality (Preview) Today's page considers the depth of the illusions we can carry. The writer noted how they became determined to stop controlling others, only to realize that the thought they could control others was in fact, an illusion... Illusion is also the source of the perception they lack something internall...	Enigmatic	3	2880	Jul 27, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today July 24 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about our interpretation of God as we understood Him. (Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.). The writer describes having some trouble with this phrase after a short time in al-anon. While some strug...	yanksfan51	2	3234	Jul 26, 2022 by Enigmatic
	I have found that I forgot I need al-anon again! (Preview) My life is a hot mess. I married a man that never accepted my youngest daughter and although he was aware we are a package deal, since we both had 2 kids from a previous marriage coming together as a family. I have allowed him to scapegoat my youngest daughter and at this point I can't leave the house withou...	Breakingfree	3	3028	Jul 23, 2022 by Youknowme
	Leaving My Husband - Still Can't Believe he is Really an Alcoholic? (Preview) I first posted here 2 years ago - when at the beginning of covid, I started to wonder if my husband had a drinking problem. At one point, he drank so much he couldn't stand and had left his throw up all over the floor. It also came out around that time that he had 30k in credit card debt. We had only been married...	allsmiles228	5	1036	Jul 23, 2022 by Breakingfree
	7/19/22 C2C Boundaries…Why? (Preview) Today's contributor shares the lessons learned in Alanon about boundaries: their flexibility allows customized settings of accepted behavior from ourselves and others, based upon situation and desired exposure level. This encourages a preset perspective that allows us to say 'no' with love r...	Enigmatic	4	3447	Jul 23, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Placing Principles above Personalities – C2C – July 22, 2022 (Preview) Interesting topic today, from the C2C, about how the congenial atmosphere of an Al-Anon meeting is dependent on allparticipants to be able to place "principles above personalities." I can see that is also true about membership and MIP as well.The author goes on to say that it is not expected that we...	DM2021	2	2220	Jul 22, 2022 by Lyne
	short & to the point(saying goodbye for now)... (Preview) This is going to be very short as I don't want to reveal too much at this time. More will be revealed as I take another step towards recovery. I am going through the roughest time of my entire life. Remember the decision I had to make before? It is coming closer to that ill-fated day. I was hospitalized when...	Hoot Nanny	3	2335	Jul 22, 2022 by Lyne
	C2c 21/7 (Preview) Today's reading speaks of letting go and letting your HP. It talks about the faulty belief that if someone won't take care of themselves, we have to take care of them to ensure their survival, and how letting go of that belief allows people the dignity to experience their own life and learn their own les...	Youknowme	2	3411	Jul 21, 2022 by DM2021
	Newly Married and discovered Husband is Alcoholic (Preview) Hi, I just discovered this group and so appreciate it. I have been to al anon and ACA in the past and am going to start again. I need to get some feedback right now. So, I grew up with alcoholics - which is why I've been to Al anon and Aca. I'm 42 now. After years of dating, I finally met a great guy. Though all m...	allsmiles228	14	3561	Jul 19, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 7/18, Easy Does It (Preview) The writer talks about coming to alanon with hopes that if we work better and faster, we can speed up our process of recovery. But alanon is a long-term process in order to achieve growth and change. It is suggested that we try "Easy Does It," and our work can be accomplished if we stop pushing. The pro...	Lyne	2	2163	Jul 18, 2022 by DM2021
	July 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of taking care of ourselves with boundaries. The writer learned to set a boundary with others when it came to use of sarcasm. Someone was being sarcastic while the two were trying to reach an agreeable solution to a conflict. The writer r...	yanksfan51	1	2337	Jul 17, 2022 by DM2021
	Some guilt and shame (Preview) Even though I know that guilt & shame get you basically nowhere, I can see now that it is also a healing process. I have made some really bad decisions lately. It stems from not being able to see that it is in the past. God continually shows me that I am not alone & that he shows me his love through oth...	Hoot Nanny	3	2332	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	We All Have Our Own Timeframe – C2C – July 15, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading is such a good reminder that success in Al-Anon, for each of us working the program,has no "stopwatch" or timeframe. Everyone is different because of the so many varied circumstanceswe each have dealt or are dealing with in our lives. So learning and listening to each other is theco...	DM2021	4	2218	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Need support/suggestions (Preview) Ok. so my kids came home from college for summer. my younger son asked to speak with me and verbalized he was upset how I was interacting by not interacting with my AH. I explained to him about detachment and that I want so much for his father to stop drinking and to engage with the family, but that was h...	Dancer66	3	1418	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change July 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author asks: how many days of my life have I wasted? The author reflects on missed opportunities from years past including the joys of their childrens early years and overtures of friendship from coworkers and others. The author was so consu...	Skorpi	3	2279	Jul 13, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	7/12/22 ODAT - Live and Let Live…MMOB (Preview) This writer ponders other words that would convey Step 1 in other effective ways. Some considered: * If I'm powerless, why do I try to control another's drinking? * Let go and Let the Higher Power work... * If powerless, it makes sense only to Live and Let Live: live my life fully, let others live theirs...	Enigmatic	2	2968	Jul 12, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 7/11, dealing with anger (Preview) This author comments about inappropriate ways of dealing with anger: denying it, stuffing it, going off in a fury, and/or directing the anger outward. One can also avoid any and all conflict, and turn into a doormat! Alanon encourages us to acknowledge our feelings, but to be responsible for di...	Lyne	2	1256	Jul 11, 2022 by DM2021
	Question (Preview) What would you do if a single decision changed your life forever?	Hoot Nanny	1	1368	Jul 11, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for today July 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to be open in our involvement with other people, and learning to detach from the behaviors of others in order to give acceptance, respect and consideration. The writer describes how because of how invested in alanon he/she is, participatin...	yanksfan51	1	1237	Jul 10, 2022 by DM2021
	Boundaries (Preview) Good morning - what do you do when you're addicted loved ones are in trouble - real trouble, like threatening to kill themselves trouble - but you have boundaries, healthy boundaries that they refuse to acknowledge? My 22 year old daughter has decided that selling prescription drugs is more lucrat...	mamamary1964	6	3400	Jul 9, 2022 by Lyne
	Natures Lessons – C2C – July 08, 2022 (Preview) This days C2C reading starts off with the author talking about a childhood memory of climbing a tree and watching nesting birdsand lying of their back wondering what it would be like to "fall into the sky full of clouds". The lesson Al-Anon suggests we see is that we can all learn from nature because th...	DM2021	4	1921	Jul 8, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C July 7th (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of being released from the need to prove ourselves right by assigning blame during conflicts. So often, when we live in constant conflict, we become score-keepers and prosecution lawyers, determined to prove that someone else is at fault so that we can feel secure that we are not t...	Youknowme	2	1941	Jul 7, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change July 6th (Preview) Hello mip! In today's reading the author shares that when many of us came to Al-Anon we felt that we got in a raw deal from life. We might say that it isn't fair or we might say that we deserve better after all we've been through. In the just for today pamphlet it suggested that instead of questioning what l...	Skorpi	2	1501	Jul 6, 2022 by DM2021
	7/5/22 C2C – A View of Detachment as Freedom (Preview) This writer notes that 'detachment' can be misunderstood, but for them it means freedom - ownership of their own, and others: theirs. Seeing this as a freedom allows them to hold onto their humanity as measured by ability to recognize another's pain and joy, to still identify, love and care about th...	Enigmatic	2	1903	Jul 5, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 7/4, feeling accepted (Preview) The writer discusses two aspects of Tradition 3 that they cherish--they can go to a meeting anywhere in the world and know what to expect. The group will not be promoting anything else, but should that happen, they can take what they like and leave the rest. Secondly, the requirements for the meeting...	Lyne	1	1867	Jul 4, 2022 by DM2021
	Am I helping or hurting? (Preview) Hello everyone. First time posting here but I am needing help. My father is in his mid 60s and has been in my mind a mild alcoholic for a while. He had prostate cancer 2 years ago and also had a hip replaced 3 weeks ago. He is currently at the beginning of a pretty nasty divorce and it's not looking like it will...	Bending2101	5	996	Jul 3, 2022 by serenity47
	Hope for Today July 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the importance of meetings and the impact they have on our recovery. The writer describes finding a meeting early on where members focused on problems rather than seek solutions. After some time, the writer realized that dwelling on the problems ea...	yanksfan51	1	1842	Jul 3, 2022 by DM2021
	“Learning to feel good about ourselves” – C2C – July 01, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays Courage to Change suggests that some of us readers have spent too much time feeling "critical of ourselves",mainly/possibly because of the critical environment we have been exposed to for so long.Al-Anon suggests that at the end of each day we (mentally or physically) list our...	DM2021	3	2194	Jul 2, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to change June 29th (Preview) In today's reading the author shares that Al-Anon is a spiritual program but that it is based on no religion and that no religious belief is required. However no particular religion is required. we might understand the higher power as God, good orderly direction, Allah, the universe or something el...	Skorpi	3	3315	Jun 30, 2022 by WendyP
	Saturday Readings (Preview) If I am not mistaken, Saturday is open, if someone would like to post a daily. Let us know!!	DM2021	0	2068	Jun 30, 2022 by DM2021
	6/28/22 C2C – It Must Begin with Me (Preview) Today's writer felt the drinker's behavior reflected poorly on them, worried about what others thought. Elated when the drinker got sober, devastated a day later, and many times thereafter. Lesson learned in Alanon: Wellbeing does not depend on another's behavior, but on mine; what is it tellin...	Enigmatic	2	2445	Jun 28, 2022 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, Monday, 6/27, the beauty of tradition 8 (Preview) As we know the 8th tradition focuses on keeping alanon non-professional, keeping a spiritual focus, and keeping the program available to others. However the writer also speaks about that the love shared between members cannot be bought, it's not a gift, nor a commodity. We give it away freely with...	Lyne	4	2797	Jun 27, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today June 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the phenomenon many of us live with, when in spite of all things pointing to a happy, contented and fulfilling life, we worry and wait for something negative to happen, a sense of impending doom as a foundation to each day. The writer quotes a question fr...	yanksfan51	4	862	Jun 27, 2022 by Daffodils
	living with my effects (Preview) Hi to all on the MIP Board, I would like to share of how I feel about living with my effects of Alcoholism. I don't live with active Alcoholism anymore, not that I don't see the effects that have gone through my Family Members, as I know it is well and truly still alive. I find it hard to work my program with no...	WendyP	2	3075	Jun 26, 2022 by Lyne
	My alanon anniversary (Preview) This month is my 9 yr anniversary with my home group. Four people have been on this journey with me--they were there before me. I've been on MIP for 11 years. And I text each morning with an alanon friend. The sum total of all this help, contact, and fellowship, has profoundly changed my life in a posit...	Lyne	6	3029	Jun 25, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	c2c June 23rd (Preview) Today's C2c is about having the courage to be honest with ourselves; about our circumstances, our lack of control over them, and about our shortcomings. I think what strikes me most about this is the extraordinary amount of effort I used to put (and, lets face it, still do if I am not vigilant) into kee...	Youknowme	2	2572	Jun 25, 2022 by Lyne
	A Matter of Perspective – C2C – June 24, 2022 (Preview) A great story/comparison in todays reading about a farmer who thought if he played his flute all day for his hens thatthey would lay more eggs for him. Well we all know how that one turned out and when asked he replied that the hensdid not produce anymore eggs but that it was a great day for music! This f...	DM2021	3	2653	Jun 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change June 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about how working with a sponsor helped them to learn how to take responsibility for their emotions, and express themselves in a more straightforward way. This started by being careful with words chosen for self-talk and communicating intentiona...	Skorpi	2	1641	Jun 23, 2022 by DM2021
	Finding Serenity (Preview) Hi to all on MIP Board, I have been in a really dark place in my life of late, I felt that I lost me, and my faith and trust in my HP. I know I haven't posted anything for awhile, but I have been reading the sharings, and believe me, they have helped me so much. Just reading them, brought me an awful lot of peace, w...	WendyP	5	1603	Jun 21, 2022 by WendyP
	6/21/22 Courage to Change \| Meditation…What is It? (Preview) In answer, today's page reveals Alanon's use as 'thinking thoughtfully' in the sense of allowing us to identify our higher power's guidance in our life. Quiet meditation in the calmness of inaction allows us to develop healthier instincts that get stronger over time. Reminder - Take time to clear t...	Enigmatic	2	1447	Jun 21, 2022 by Youknowme
	Happy Father's Day ! (Preview) Having had a number of years where my alcoholic son overlooked \ forgot any type of Father's Day greeting, I wanted to offer a "Happy Fathers Day" to those Fathers that are experiencing some distance from their addicted adult child - and, if you're drifting into any thinking that involves "what's my p...	texas yankee	2	696	Jun 20, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, Monday, 6/20, the habit of fear (Preview) The writer says that the fear learned from the experience of alcoholism, in a way became a habit. For example, when confronted, they kept silent. The silence was not a choice but reacting, giving up self-respect out of fear and out of habit. The writer has learned alternatives: recognize fear, sa...	Lyne	1	2093	Jun 20, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. The writer describes hearing others share about this step, and resolving to make peace with the idea that his/her parents did the best they could, and lett...	yanksfan51	1	1722	Jun 19, 2022 by DM2021
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