Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My life is a hot mess. I married a man that never accepted my youngest daughter and although he was aware we are a package deal, since we both had 2 kids from a previous marriage coming together as a family. I have allowed him to scapegoat my youngest daughter and at this point I can't leave the house withou...

allsmiles228 · allsmiles228

I first posted here 2 years ago - when at the beginning of covid, I started to wonder if my husband had a drinking problem. At one point, he drank so much he couldn't stand and had left his throw up all over the floor. It also came out around that time that he had 30k in credit card debt. We had only been married...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor shares the lessons learned in Alanon about boundaries: their flexibility allows customized settings of accepted behavior from ourselves and others, based upon situation and desired exposure level. This encourages a preset perspective that allows us to say 'no' with love r...

DM2021 · DM2021

Interesting topic today, from the C2C, about how the congenial atmosphere of an Al-Anon meeting is dependent on allparticipants to be able to place "principles above personalities." I can see that is also true about membership and MIP as well.The author goes on to say that it is not expected that we...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is going to be very short as I don't want to reveal too much at this time. More will be revealed as I take another step towards recovery. I am going through the roughest time of my entire life. Remember the decision I had to make before? It is coming closer to that ill-fated day. I was hospitalized when...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading speaks of letting go and letting your HP. It talks about the faulty belief that if someone won't take care of themselves, we have to take care of them to ensure their survival, and how letting go of that belief allows people the dignity to experience their own life and learn their own les...

allsmiles228 · allsmiles228

Hi, I just discovered this group and so appreciate it. I have been to al anon and ACA in the past and am going to start again. I need to get some feedback right now. So, I grew up with alcoholics - which is why I've been to Al anon and Aca. I'm 42 now. After years of dating, I finally met a great guy. Though all m...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer talks about coming to alanon with hopes that if we work better and faster, we can speed up our process of recovery. But alanon is a long-term process in order to achieve growth and change. It is suggested that we try "Easy Does It," and our work can be accomplished if we stop pushing. The pro...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of taking care of ourselves with boundaries. The writer learned to set a boundary with others when it came to use of sarcasm. Someone was being sarcastic while the two were trying to reach an agreeable solution to a conflict. The writer r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Even though I know that guilt & shame get you basically nowhere, I can see now that it is also a healing process. I have made some really bad decisions lately. It stems from not being able to see that it is in the past. God continually shows me that I am not alone & that he shows me his love through oth...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading is such a good reminder that success in Al-Anon, for each of us working the program,has no "stopwatch" or timeframe. Everyone is different because of the so many varied circumstanceswe each have dealt or are dealing with in our lives. So learning and listening to each other is theco...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

Ok. so my kids came home from college for summer. my younger son asked to speak with me and verbalized he was upset how I was interacting by not interacting with my AH. I explained to him about detachment and that I want so much for his father to stop drinking and to engage with the family, but that was h...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author asks: how many days of my life have I wasted? The author reflects on missed opportunities from years past including the joys of their childrens early years and overtures of friendship from coworkers and others. The author was so consu...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer ponders other words that would convey Step 1 in other effective ways. Some considered: * If I'm powerless, why do I try to control another's drinking? * Let go and Let the Higher Power work... * If powerless, it makes sense only to Live and Let Live: live my life fully, let others live theirs...

Lyne · Lyne

This author comments about inappropriate ways of dealing with anger: denying it, stuffing it, going off in a fury, and/or directing the anger outward. One can also avoid any and all conflict, and turn into a doormat! Alanon encourages us to acknowledge our feelings, but to be responsible for di...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

What would you do if a single decision changed your life forever?

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to be open in our involvement with other people, and learning to detach from the behaviors of others in order to give acceptance, respect and consideration. The writer describes how because of how invested in alanon he/she is, participatin...

mamamary1964 · mamamary1964

Good morning - what do you do when you're addicted loved ones are in trouble - real trouble, like threatening to kill themselves trouble - but you have boundaries, healthy boundaries that they refuse to acknowledge? My 22 year old daughter has decided that selling prescription drugs is more lucrat...

DM2021 · DM2021

This days C2C reading starts off with the author talking about a childhood memory of climbing a tree and watching nesting birdsand lying of their back wondering what it would be like to "fall into the sky full of clouds". The lesson Al-Anon suggests we see is that we can all learn from nature because th...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of being released from the need to prove ourselves right by assigning blame during conflicts. So often, when we live in constant conflict, we become score-keepers and prosecution lawyers, determined to prove that someone else is at fault so that we can feel secure that we are not t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! In today's reading the author shares that when many of us came to Al-Anon we felt that we got in a raw deal from life. We might say that it isn't fair or we might say that we deserve better after all we've been through. In the just for today pamphlet it suggested that instead of questioning what l...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer notes that 'detachment' can be misunderstood, but for them it means freedom - ownership of their own, and others: theirs. Seeing this as a freedom allows them to hold onto their humanity as measured by ability to recognize another's pain and joy, to still identify, love and care about th...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer discusses two aspects of Tradition 3 that they cherish--they can go to a meeting anywhere in the world and know what to expect. The group will not be promoting anything else, but should that happen, they can take what they like and leave the rest. Secondly, the requirements for the meeting...

Bending2101 · Bending2101

Hello everyone. First time posting here but I am needing help. My father is in his mid 60s and has been in my mind a mild alcoholic for a while. He had prostate cancer 2 years ago and also had a hip replaced 3 weeks ago. He is currently at the beginning of a pretty nasty divorce and it's not looking like it will...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the importance of meetings and the impact they have on our recovery. The writer describes finding a meeting early on where members focused on problems rather than seek solutions. After some time, the writer realized that dwelling on the problems ea...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of todays Courage to Change suggests that some of us readers have spent too much time feeling "critical of ourselves",mainly/possibly because of the critical environment we have been exposed to for so long.Al-Anon suggests that at the end of each day we (mentally or physically) list our...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading the author shares that Al-Anon is a spiritual program but that it is based on no religion and that no religious belief is required. However no particular religion is required. we might understand the higher power as God, good orderly direction, Allah, the universe or something el...

DM2021 · DM2021

If I am not mistaken, Saturday is open, if someone would like to post a daily. Let us know!!

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer felt the drinker's behavior reflected poorly on them, worried about what others thought. Elated when the drinker got sober, devastated a day later, and many times thereafter. Lesson learned in Alanon: Wellbeing does not depend on another's behavior, but on mine; what is it tellin...

Lyne · Lyne

As we know the 8th tradition focuses on keeping alanon non-professional, keeping a spiritual focus, and keeping the program available to others. However the writer also speaks about that the love shared between members cannot be bought, it's not a gift, nor a commodity. We give it away freely with...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the phenomenon many of us live with, when in spite of all things pointing to a happy, contented and fulfilling life, we worry and wait for something negative to happen, a sense of impending doom as a foundation to each day. The writer quotes a question fr...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on the MIP Board, I would like to share of how I feel about living with my effects of Alcoholism. I don't live with active Alcoholism anymore, not that I don't see the effects that have gone through my Family Members, as I know it is well and truly still alive. I find it hard to work my program with no...

Lyne · Lyne

This month is my 9 yr anniversary with my home group. Four people have been on this journey with me--they were there before me. I've been on MIP for 11 years. And I text each morning with an alanon friend. The sum total of all this help, contact, and fellowship, has profoundly changed my life in a posit...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2c is about having the courage to be honest with ourselves; about our circumstances, our lack of control over them, and about our shortcomings. I think what strikes me most about this is the extraordinary amount of effort I used to put (and, lets face it, still do if I am not vigilant) into kee...

DM2021 · DM2021

A great story/comparison in todays reading about a farmer who thought if he played his flute all day for his hens thatthey would lay more eggs for him. Well we all know how that one turned out and when asked he replied that the hensdid not produce anymore eggs but that it was a great day for music! This f...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about how working with a sponsor helped them to learn how to take responsibility for their emotions, and express themselves in a more straightforward way. This started by being careful with words chosen for self-talk and communicating intentiona...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on MIP Board, I have been in a really dark place in my life of late, I felt that I lost me, and my faith and trust in my HP. I know I haven't posted anything for awhile, but I have been reading the sharings, and believe me, they have helped me so much. Just reading them, brought me an awful lot of peace, w...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

In answer, today's page reveals Alanon's use as 'thinking thoughtfully' in the sense of allowing us to identify our higher power's guidance in our life. Quiet meditation in the calmness of inaction allows us to develop healthier instincts that get stronger over time. Reminder - Take time to clear t...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Having had a number of years where my alcoholic son overlooked \ forgot any type of Father's Day greeting, I wanted to offer a "Happy Fathers Day" to those Fathers that are experiencing some distance from their addicted adult child - and, if you're drifting into any thinking that involves "what's my p...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that the fear learned from the experience of alcoholism, in a way became a habit. For example, when confronted, they kept silent. The silence was not a choice but reacting, giving up self-respect out of fear and out of habit. The writer has learned alternatives: recognize fear, sa...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. The writer describes hearing others share about this step, and resolving to make peace with the idea that his/her parents did the best they could, and lett...

DM2021 · DM2021

Todays reading speaks to us about worry and how Al-Anon shows us that when we lean on our HP and the fellowship that we can,with time, find peace. We may continue to worry about how our troubles may return and what the future holds for us, but we learnthat there is no sense living under those negative ass...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C talks of detaching with love, allowing others to experience the consequences of their own actions, and at the same time not robbing them of the opportunity to learn and celebrate their own achievements. Another person's consequences and lessons, basically, are not about me! This read...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page asks if we would take medication with this description: Changes your life for the better Delivers a state of relation, serenity Dissolves guilt over past transgressions Provides fresh insight into your spiritual self, value Lends courage, confidence to face challenges In fact, th...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step one and how it can be applied to situations that do not necessarily involve alcohol: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol- that our lives had become unmanageable. The writer describes her attempt to skip over step one since she no longer l...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of this page offers insights as to how one can find their higher power. Step 11 suggests we improve our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. The writer says how one finds their HP is up to the individual, but makes some suggestions: you can look for guidance from peop...

DM2021 · DM2021

We are reminded by the author of todays reading that, in the process of making amends (Working Step Eight) that it is not somethingthat must be done perfectly. Like most of the Steps and Tools in Al-Anon, it is not perfection but progress that is what we are encouragedto strive for. I learned that it i...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Bit late today folks, sorry. I can see tomorrow is already on the board! I'm about to talk about shortcomings; let's put "chronically late' at the top of my list. Today's C2C talks of the very important distinction between humility and humiliation, and how many of us baulk at the thought of seeking hum...

DM2021 · DM2021

In today reading the author speaks to us about our reactions to the alcoholic rhetoric that is described as provocations that we tend to tryand defend ourselves from. But what we do need to see, instead of reacting, is the big picture in the midst of this chaos. When we useStep One and admit our power...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author speaks about step 6: being entirely ready to have our HP remove our defects of character. The author shares that they sometimes cling to their character defects because they do get a certain amount of pleasure from them, for example revenge upon those who have cau...

Em1234 · Em1234

Hi my husband has been going to aa and sober now for 4 months. He has taken to it like a duck to water and I am quite confident that he will stay sober. That is all great for him and should mean that it is great for us as a family (4children), but AA has totally taken over his life. It is like a secret club that I am n...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page proposes contemplation of Courtesy as a greater offering than politeness, that involves pleasantries but does not require love. The former is outlined here as an expression of love, warm concern for someone's 'comfort, peace of mind, and well-being'. We may have the opportunity t...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer takes a look at justifying our own behavior, as though being provoked gives us no choice. We might pretend our wrongs don't count, but step 4 breaks through our denial. With our fearless and moral inventory, we list what is wrong and right about our own conduct. This takes courage and se...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to turn over control and will to God/our HP. The writer describes a certain progression of letting go of trying to control all the situations in her life. At first, the writer did not feel any problems of hers would merit Gods time. After some yea...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of how when we let go and let God/HP enough times we end up with a catalogue of reminders of times when it worked. Even the hardest of times can become memories of lessons learned as well as a reminder that if we don't try to control outcomes the results are often far better than we could h...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is one of my favorites. The author shares a saying they have heard in Alanon a lot: "An expectation is a premeditated resentment" The author suggests that when we notice a resentment, we can investigate our expectations for a probable source. The author's example involv...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Stories and legends often tell of a hero's journey of great challenges that result in lessons learned, character built, strengths discovered and treasure found at the end. Today's page compares this to our spiritual journey guided by the principles and truths of alanon and our higher power. The sp...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer comments that sometimes in an alanon meeting, a casual comment or phrase can get stuck in your consciousness and takes hold. It comes to mind over and over again as it gives you a new way of looking at things. It can be a commonplace phrase or even a worn-out cliche, that springs into life a...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Todays c2c speaks of trying to avoid repeating mistakes by making inflexible rules for ourselves and then trying to stick to them forever. In doing so, we're essentially depriving ourselves for opportunities for growth and only allowing ourselves to experience life through the lens of our past ex...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might accept (or choose to ignore) Gods will in our lives. The writer describes someone at a meeting who shared the belief that although God offers to reveal His will and what is best, she does not have to accept that. She can choose to keep going on h...

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	I have found that I forgot I need al-anon again! (Preview) My life is a hot mess. I married a man that never accepted my youngest daughter and although he was aware we are a package deal, since we both had 2 kids from a previous marriage coming together as a family. I have allowed him to scapegoat my youngest daughter and at this point I can't leave the house withou...	Breakingfree	3	2688	Jul 23, 2022 by Youknowme
	Leaving My Husband - Still Can't Believe he is Really an Alcoholic? (Preview) I first posted here 2 years ago - when at the beginning of covid, I started to wonder if my husband had a drinking problem. At one point, he drank so much he couldn't stand and had left his throw up all over the floor. It also came out around that time that he had 30k in credit card debt. We had only been married...	allsmiles228	5	890	Jul 23, 2022 by Breakingfree
	7/19/22 C2C Boundaries…Why? (Preview) Today's contributor shares the lessons learned in Alanon about boundaries: their flexibility allows customized settings of accepted behavior from ourselves and others, based upon situation and desired exposure level. This encourages a preset perspective that allows us to say 'no' with love r...	Enigmatic	4	2948	Jul 23, 2022 by Breakingfree
	Placing Principles above Personalities – C2C – July 22, 2022 (Preview) Interesting topic today, from the C2C, about how the congenial atmosphere of an Al-Anon meeting is dependent on allparticipants to be able to place "principles above personalities." I can see that is also true about membership and MIP as well.The author goes on to say that it is not expected that we...	DM2021	2	1969	Jul 22, 2022 by Lyne
	short & to the point(saying goodbye for now)... (Preview) This is going to be very short as I don't want to reveal too much at this time. More will be revealed as I take another step towards recovery. I am going through the roughest time of my entire life. Remember the decision I had to make before? It is coming closer to that ill-fated day. I was hospitalized when...	Hoot Nanny	3	2061	Jul 22, 2022 by Lyne
	C2c 21/7 (Preview) Today's reading speaks of letting go and letting your HP. It talks about the faulty belief that if someone won't take care of themselves, we have to take care of them to ensure their survival, and how letting go of that belief allows people the dignity to experience their own life and learn their own les...	Youknowme	2	2914	Jul 21, 2022 by DM2021
	Newly Married and discovered Husband is Alcoholic (Preview) Hi, I just discovered this group and so appreciate it. I have been to al anon and ACA in the past and am going to start again. I need to get some feedback right now. So, I grew up with alcoholics - which is why I've been to Al anon and Aca. I'm 42 now. After years of dating, I finally met a great guy. Though all m...	allsmiles228	14	3229	Jul 19, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 7/18, Easy Does It (Preview) The writer talks about coming to alanon with hopes that if we work better and faster, we can speed up our process of recovery. But alanon is a long-term process in order to achieve growth and change. It is suggested that we try "Easy Does It," and our work can be accomplished if we stop pushing. The pro...	Lyne	2	1924	Jul 18, 2022 by DM2021
	July 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of taking care of ourselves with boundaries. The writer learned to set a boundary with others when it came to use of sarcasm. Someone was being sarcastic while the two were trying to reach an agreeable solution to a conflict. The writer r...	yanksfan51	1	2018	Jul 17, 2022 by DM2021
	Some guilt and shame (Preview) Even though I know that guilt & shame get you basically nowhere, I can see now that it is also a healing process. I have made some really bad decisions lately. It stems from not being able to see that it is in the past. God continually shows me that I am not alone & that he shows me his love through oth...	Hoot Nanny	3	2071	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	We All Have Our Own Timeframe – C2C – July 15, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading is such a good reminder that success in Al-Anon, for each of us working the program,has no "stopwatch" or timeframe. Everyone is different because of the so many varied circumstanceswe each have dealt or are dealing with in our lives. So learning and listening to each other is theco...	DM2021	4	1974	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Need support/suggestions (Preview) Ok. so my kids came home from college for summer. my younger son asked to speak with me and verbalized he was upset how I was interacting by not interacting with my AH. I explained to him about detachment and that I want so much for his father to stop drinking and to engage with the family, but that was h...	Dancer66	3	1195	Jul 16, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change July 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author asks: how many days of my life have I wasted? The author reflects on missed opportunities from years past including the joys of their childrens early years and overtures of friendship from coworkers and others. The author was so consu...	Skorpi	3	2032	Jul 13, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	7/12/22 ODAT - Live and Let Live…MMOB (Preview) This writer ponders other words that would convey Step 1 in other effective ways. Some considered: * If I'm powerless, why do I try to control another's drinking? * Let go and Let the Higher Power work... * If powerless, it makes sense only to Live and Let Live: live my life fully, let others live theirs...	Enigmatic	2	2627	Jul 12, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 7/11, dealing with anger (Preview) This author comments about inappropriate ways of dealing with anger: denying it, stuffing it, going off in a fury, and/or directing the anger outward. One can also avoid any and all conflict, and turn into a doormat! Alanon encourages us to acknowledge our feelings, but to be responsible for di...	Lyne	2	1101	Jul 11, 2022 by DM2021
	Question (Preview) What would you do if a single decision changed your life forever?	Hoot Nanny	1	1089	Jul 11, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for today July 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to be open in our involvement with other people, and learning to detach from the behaviors of others in order to give acceptance, respect and consideration. The writer describes how because of how invested in alanon he/she is, participatin...	yanksfan51	1	1089	Jul 10, 2022 by DM2021
	Boundaries (Preview) Good morning - what do you do when you're addicted loved ones are in trouble - real trouble, like threatening to kill themselves trouble - but you have boundaries, healthy boundaries that they refuse to acknowledge? My 22 year old daughter has decided that selling prescription drugs is more lucrat...	mamamary1964	6	2976	Jul 9, 2022 by Lyne
	Natures Lessons – C2C – July 08, 2022 (Preview) This days C2C reading starts off with the author talking about a childhood memory of climbing a tree and watching nesting birdsand lying of their back wondering what it would be like to "fall into the sky full of clouds". The lesson Al-Anon suggests we see is that we can all learn from nature because th...	DM2021	4	1673	Jul 8, 2022 by DM2021
	C2C July 7th (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of being released from the need to prove ourselves right by assigning blame during conflicts. So often, when we live in constant conflict, we become score-keepers and prosecution lawyers, determined to prove that someone else is at fault so that we can feel secure that we are not t...	Youknowme	2	1674	Jul 7, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change July 6th (Preview) Hello mip! In today's reading the author shares that when many of us came to Al-Anon we felt that we got in a raw deal from life. We might say that it isn't fair or we might say that we deserve better after all we've been through. In the just for today pamphlet it suggested that instead of questioning what l...	Skorpi	2	1290	Jul 6, 2022 by DM2021
	7/5/22 C2C – A View of Detachment as Freedom (Preview) This writer notes that 'detachment' can be misunderstood, but for them it means freedom - ownership of their own, and others: theirs. Seeing this as a freedom allows them to hold onto their humanity as measured by ability to recognize another's pain and joy, to still identify, love and care about th...	Enigmatic	2	1645	Jul 5, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 7/4, feeling accepted (Preview) The writer discusses two aspects of Tradition 3 that they cherish--they can go to a meeting anywhere in the world and know what to expect. The group will not be promoting anything else, but should that happen, they can take what they like and leave the rest. Secondly, the requirements for the meeting...	Lyne	1	1644	Jul 4, 2022 by DM2021
	Am I helping or hurting? (Preview) Hello everyone. First time posting here but I am needing help. My father is in his mid 60s and has been in my mind a mild alcoholic for a while. He had prostate cancer 2 years ago and also had a hip replaced 3 weeks ago. He is currently at the beginning of a pretty nasty divorce and it's not looking like it will...	Bending2101	5	857	Jul 3, 2022 by serenity47
	Hope for Today July 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the importance of meetings and the impact they have on our recovery. The writer describes finding a meeting early on where members focused on problems rather than seek solutions. After some time, the writer realized that dwelling on the problems ea...	yanksfan51	1	1604	Jul 3, 2022 by DM2021
	“Learning to feel good about ourselves” – C2C – July 01, 2022 (Preview) The author of todays Courage to Change suggests that some of us readers have spent too much time feeling "critical of ourselves",mainly/possibly because of the critical environment we have been exposed to for so long.Al-Anon suggests that at the end of each day we (mentally or physically) list our...	DM2021	3	1932	Jul 2, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to change June 29th (Preview) In today's reading the author shares that Al-Anon is a spiritual program but that it is based on no religion and that no religious belief is required. However no particular religion is required. we might understand the higher power as God, good orderly direction, Allah, the universe or something el...	Skorpi	3	2929	Jun 30, 2022 by WendyP
	Saturday Readings (Preview) If I am not mistaken, Saturday is open, if someone would like to post a daily. Let us know!!	DM2021	0	1777	Jun 30, 2022 by DM2021
	6/28/22 C2C – It Must Begin with Me (Preview) Today's writer felt the drinker's behavior reflected poorly on them, worried about what others thought. Elated when the drinker got sober, devastated a day later, and many times thereafter. Lesson learned in Alanon: Wellbeing does not depend on another's behavior, but on mine; what is it tellin...	Enigmatic	2	2173	Jun 28, 2022 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, Monday, 6/27, the beauty of tradition 8 (Preview) As we know the 8th tradition focuses on keeping alanon non-professional, keeping a spiritual focus, and keeping the program available to others. However the writer also speaks about that the love shared between members cannot be bought, it's not a gift, nor a commodity. We give it away freely with...	Lyne	4	2462	Jun 27, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today June 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the phenomenon many of us live with, when in spite of all things pointing to a happy, contented and fulfilling life, we worry and wait for something negative to happen, a sense of impending doom as a foundation to each day. The writer quotes a question fr...	yanksfan51	4	720	Jun 27, 2022 by Daffodils
	living with my effects (Preview) Hi to all on the MIP Board, I would like to share of how I feel about living with my effects of Alcoholism. I don't live with active Alcoholism anymore, not that I don't see the effects that have gone through my Family Members, as I know it is well and truly still alive. I find it hard to work my program with no...	WendyP	2	2724	Jun 26, 2022 by Lyne
	My alanon anniversary (Preview) This month is my 9 yr anniversary with my home group. Four people have been on this journey with me--they were there before me. I've been on MIP for 11 years. And I text each morning with an alanon friend. The sum total of all this help, contact, and fellowship, has profoundly changed my life in a posit...	Lyne	6	2672	Jun 25, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	c2c June 23rd (Preview) Today's C2c is about having the courage to be honest with ourselves; about our circumstances, our lack of control over them, and about our shortcomings. I think what strikes me most about this is the extraordinary amount of effort I used to put (and, lets face it, still do if I am not vigilant) into kee...	Youknowme	2	2246	Jun 25, 2022 by Lyne
	A Matter of Perspective – C2C – June 24, 2022 (Preview) A great story/comparison in todays reading about a farmer who thought if he played his flute all day for his hens thatthey would lay more eggs for him. Well we all know how that one turned out and when asked he replied that the hensdid not produce anymore eggs but that it was a great day for music! This f...	DM2021	3	2339	Jun 25, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change June 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares about how working with a sponsor helped them to learn how to take responsibility for their emotions, and express themselves in a more straightforward way. This started by being careful with words chosen for self-talk and communicating intentiona...	Skorpi	2	1395	Jun 23, 2022 by DM2021
	Finding Serenity (Preview) Hi to all on MIP Board, I have been in a really dark place in my life of late, I felt that I lost me, and my faith and trust in my HP. I know I haven't posted anything for awhile, but I have been reading the sharings, and believe me, they have helped me so much. Just reading them, brought me an awful lot of peace, w...	WendyP	5	1363	Jun 21, 2022 by WendyP
	6/21/22 Courage to Change \| Meditation…What is It? (Preview) In answer, today's page reveals Alanon's use as 'thinking thoughtfully' in the sense of allowing us to identify our higher power's guidance in our life. Quiet meditation in the calmness of inaction allows us to develop healthier instincts that get stronger over time. Reminder - Take time to clear t...	Enigmatic	2	1251	Jun 21, 2022 by Youknowme
	Happy Father's Day ! (Preview) Having had a number of years where my alcoholic son overlooked \ forgot any type of Father's Day greeting, I wanted to offer a "Happy Fathers Day" to those Fathers that are experiencing some distance from their addicted adult child - and, if you're drifting into any thinking that involves "what's my p...	texas yankee	2	563	Jun 20, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, Monday, 6/20, the habit of fear (Preview) The writer says that the fear learned from the experience of alcoholism, in a way became a habit. For example, when confronted, they kept silent. The silence was not a choice but reacting, giving up self-respect out of fear and out of habit. The writer has learned alternatives: recognize fear, sa...	Lyne	1	1838	Jun 20, 2022 by DM2021
	Hope for Today June 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. The writer describes hearing others share about this step, and resolving to make peace with the idea that his/her parents did the best they could, and lett...	yanksfan51	1	1514	Jun 19, 2022 by DM2021
	Finding Peace – In The Midst Of Crisis – June 17, 2022 (Preview) Todays reading speaks to us about worry and how Al-Anon shows us that when we lean on our HP and the fellowship that we can,with time, find peace. We may continue to worry about how our troubles may return and what the future holds for us, but we learnthat there is no sense living under those negative ass...	DM2021	5	3544	Jun 18, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C June 16th (Preview) Today's C2C talks of detaching with love, allowing others to experience the consequences of their own actions, and at the same time not robbing them of the opportunity to learn and celebrate their own achievements. Another person's consequences and lessons, basically, are not about me! This read...	Youknowme	2	1624	Jun 16, 2022 by DM2021
	6/14/22 ODAT Alanon - Good for What Ails You (Preview) Today's page asks if we would take medication with this description: Changes your life for the better Delivers a state of relation, serenity Dissolves guilt over past transgressions Provides fresh insight into your spiritual self, value Lends courage, confidence to face challenges In fact, th...	Enigmatic	3	2212	Jun 16, 2022 by Youknowme
	Hope for Today June 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step one and how it can be applied to situations that do not necessarily involve alcohol: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol- that our lives had become unmanageable. The writer describes her attempt to skip over step one since she no longer l...	yanksfan51	8	2227	Jun 14, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, Monday, 6/13, my higher power is... (Preview) The author of this page offers insights as to how one can find their higher power. Step 11 suggests we improve our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. The writer says how one finds their HP is up to the individual, but makes some suggestions: you can look for guidance from peop...	Lyne	4	2217	Jun 14, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Step Eight – Making Amends – June 10, 2022 (Preview) We are reminded by the author of todays reading that, in the process of making amends (Working Step Eight) that it is not somethingthat must be done perfectly. Like most of the Steps and Tools in Al-Anon, it is not perfection but progress that is what we are encouragedto strive for. I learned that it i...	DM2021	4	1156	Jun 12, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C June 9th (Preview) Bit late today folks, sorry. I can see tomorrow is already on the board! I'm about to talk about shortcomings; let's put "chronically late' at the top of my list. Today's C2C talks of the very important distinction between humility and humiliation, and how many of us baulk at the thought of seeking hum...	Youknowme	3	2188	Jun 11, 2022 by Daffodils
	We are Responsible For Our Reactions – June 3, 2022 (Preview) In today reading the author speaks to us about our reactions to the alcoholic rhetoric that is described as provocations that we tend to tryand defend ourselves from. But what we do need to see, instead of reacting, is the big picture in the midst of this chaos. When we useStep One and admit our power...	DM2021	5	4831	Jun 9, 2022 by DM2021
	Courage to Change June 8 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author speaks about step 6: being entirely ready to have our HP remove our defects of character. The author shares that they sometimes cling to their character defects because they do get a certain amount of pleasure from them, for example revenge upon those who have cau...	Skorpi	5	1164	Jun 9, 2022 by Daffodils
	Losing my husband to AA ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Hi my husband has been going to aa and sober now for 4 months. He has taken to it like a duck to water and I am quite confident that he will stay sober. That is all great for him and should mean that it is great for us as a family (4children), but AA has totally taken over his life. It is like a secret club that I am n...	Em1234	43	18867	Jun 8, 2022 by DM2021
	6/7/22 ODAT in Alanon – Courtesy > Politeness? (Preview) Today's page proposes contemplation of Courtesy as a greater offering than politeness, that involves pleasantries but does not require love. The former is outlined here as an expression of love, warm concern for someone's 'comfort, peace of mind, and well-being'. We may have the opportunity t...	Enigmatic	3	3057	Jun 7, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 6/6, our own behavior (Preview) This writer takes a look at justifying our own behavior, as though being provoked gives us no choice. We might pretend our wrongs don't count, but step 4 breaks through our denial. With our fearless and moral inventory, we list what is wrong and right about our own conduct. This takes courage and se...	Lyne	2	1928	Jun 6, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today June 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about learning to turn over control and will to God/our HP. The writer describes a certain progression of letting go of trying to control all the situations in her life. At first, the writer did not feel any problems of hers would merit Gods time. After some yea...	yanksfan51	2	1662	Jun 5, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C June 2nd (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of how when we let go and let God/HP enough times we end up with a catalogue of reminders of times when it worked. Even the hardest of times can become memories of lessons learned as well as a reminder that if we don't try to control outcomes the results are often far better than we could h...	Youknowme	3	1869	Jun 4, 2022 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change June 1 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is one of my favorites. The author shares a saying they have heard in Alanon a lot: "An expectation is a premeditated resentment" The author suggests that when we notice a resentment, we can investigate our expectations for a probable source. The author's example involv...	Skorpi	3	1832	Jun 2, 2022 by Daffodils
	5/31/22 C2C - The Hero's Journey (Preview) Stories and legends often tell of a hero's journey of great challenges that result in lessons learned, character built, strengths discovered and treasure found at the end. Today's page compares this to our spiritual journey guided by the principles and truths of alanon and our higher power. The sp...	Enigmatic	4	1728	Jun 1, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 5/30, words that stick in my brain (Preview) This writer comments that sometimes in an alanon meeting, a casual comment or phrase can get stuck in your consciousness and takes hold. It comes to mind over and over again as it gives you a new way of looking at things. It can be a commonplace phrase or even a worn-out cliche, that springs into life a...	Lyne	3	2783	Jun 1, 2022 by Enigmatic
	c2c May 26th (Preview) Todays c2c speaks of trying to avoid repeating mistakes by making inflexible rules for ourselves and then trying to stick to them forever. In doing so, we're essentially depriving ourselves for opportunities for growth and only allowing ourselves to experience life through the lens of our past ex...	Youknowme	2	2940	May 29, 2022 by Lyne
	Hope for Today May 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how we might accept (or choose to ignore) Gods will in our lives. The writer describes someone at a meeting who shared the belief that although God offers to reveal His will and what is best, she does not have to accept that. She can choose to keep going on h...	yanksfan51	1	2008	May 29, 2022 by DM2021
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