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My grandma is 93 years old. She's in a nursing home and has stopped eating. It seems like maybe this is it. It could be two days or it could be two weeks. My mom and I are both only children and I'm not around the corner from them. They have been living together for about 8 years now. This summer is the first time that they have been apart. My mom has struggled with the whole issue of guilt, she didn't do enough, the whole what if's. There have been stroke issues and a few other health things. Mom has finally come to the realization that she's done everything she can and it's time for grandma to be allowed to move on and go home to be with God.
Prayers for grandma that she will have peace and comfort as she makes this transition and for my mom for support during this time as well.
Thanks P
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Praying for peace and serenity now for all of you. Here's an affirmation for you from my prayer card this month: "In the silence, my heart and mind are centered in God".
I'm deeply sorrow for what you and your mother are experiencing right now. I'm glad to read that your mother has accepted that it might be time for your grandmother to pass over. Acceptance is key for her serenity, as you know.
I recently lost my mother a little over a month ago. When she went from an assisted-care facility to a nursing home, I knew that she was near her end. My brother was not in agreement (lack of acceptance). He had a much more difficult time than me during the last few days of her life.
I chose to not fight what is. I'm not certain if my mother could really register what I spoke to her during the last few days of her life. But I spoke to her as if she did. (She was semi-unconcsious & could not open her eyes) It was my hope that my talking to her gave her some sense of peace. It did me.
I hope your mother is doing whatever feels best for her.
Prayers to you and your mother.
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
(((Pushka))) May everyone`s HP be showing you, mom and grandma just where you all need to be. May you all find peace within accepting HP`s plans. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
