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I always have something rolling around in my head and what better place to give it a voice than this message board? Isn't it weird how ideas just hit you out of the blue? Well, I didn't get to go to the morning meeting and I am sitting here irritated as hell as the double standards people have. I KNOW I have no power over other people and I KNOW that being 'xxxx' off because of others' behavior is futile. I screwed up today. I started down the road of acting rediculous because of someone else..but..I stopped. I made amends. That's all I can do. The problem comes in because I would like some acknowledgement that I said I'm sorry because if the tables were turned I would think about what the other person is being a brat and let it go without a sorry cause I know I am not gonna get one anyway..It sounds like I am whining. I'm not. Am I?
Danette
-- Edited by canadianguy on Wednesday 10th of August 2011 02:53:03 PM
Hi I am new here so please bare that in mind in my response. If I were in this situation, and I had the insight to question my response as you are... I would further question myself this, "Am I looking for approval in my apology? Did I apologise for the satisfaction of getting the praise for being good, or did I apologise because I was sorry?" I would also think, I don't know whats going on for that person at the moment, perhaps they are not equipped to say thankyou to me.
I agree, a thankyou is always nice, but is that why I apologised?
I think when I make amends, I can't expect any kind of out come because I set myself up for resentment. Let go and Let God... Take care of you :) Keep coming
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