The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Have any of you attended adult child of alcoholics meetings? There seems to be only one anywhere near my area, and it's a good 20-30 min drive away. I was hoping someone could recommend an online resource such as this one, or some reading material?
In reading about adult child characteristics, I have found that I identify with many of them. However, I've also realized that I have worked through some! At least, that I had done some good work prior to marrying my AH. Hopefully I can pick up where I left off. Regretting my decision to marry though, at the moment. I think I had a better chance of recovery before I got into this relationship - I have myself to thank for messing that one up. (Sigh).
Moving on....
Thanks!
KLotus
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"The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself."
Klotus...go to the face page (click off of this one) and select the ACoA forum...see what that does for you. I use to be a member of ACoA in early recovery when I was searching for "all I could get" to gain and maintain my sanity and serenity. I stayed with Al-Anon and use AA to keep my mind and behavior away from the sauce.
The daily reader is a good one too. Hope for Today, I read that one when I feel my past sneaking up on me. :)
Hugs :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Hi, KLotus. I'm an adult child, too, but there's only one ACoA meeting in my entire state that I've been able to find. I'm considering trying to start one in my area, but in the meantime, I come here to MIP (there's an ACoA message board, too). There's also another site called StepChat that has rooms for ACoAs (among others). When there's not a meeting going on, the rooms are open for chat 24/7.
Janet Woititz has written some great books about and for adult children. ACA (Adult Children Anonymous) World Service Office has also published what's commonly called the Big Red Book. I haven't gotten my hands on one yet, but I've heard plenty of good things about it from people who have it. I've got several daily readers, including Hope for Today which Pushka also recommended. My very favorite daily reader is Daily Affirmations for Adult Children of Alcoholics by Rokelle Lerner. That one is so vital to me that when I'm having a bad day, I just sit down with it and start reading.
Although not written specifically for adult children, The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner was a life-changer for me. And, since most of us ACoAs grow up to become codependent, Melody Beattie's books on that subject are also excellent resources. (There's also a CoDA board here at MIP, but sadly, it's not very active.)
Sometimes we have to look a little harder to find the help we need as adult children, but it IS out there. I hope this helps a little.
Red Hawk
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My heart is moved by all I cannot save: so much has been destroyed. I have to cast my lot with those who, age after age, perversely, with no extraordinary power, reconstitute the world. A passion to make, and make again, where such un-making reigns.
I hope I'm not cross talking (I probably am .. LOL), however Red Hawk The Dance of Anger is a really great book I haven't read that one for a LONG time and I'm going to have to pull it out of my pile and take a look at it. :) Thank you for the reminder :) P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Hi Klotus, go easy on yourself. I am reading The 12 Steps for Adult Children and it is helping my awareness and getting me more where I want to be. Don't beat yourself up, too mnay others will do it for you. Sending you love and support!
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Another book I just discovered tonight is From Survival to Recovery it's an alanon book as well. :)
I'm in a basics class and we use a number of books and this was the first time I've read out of that book. It was really powerful. :)
Thanks P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
