Today's writer arrived at Alanon as did many: hoping to find out how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking, thinking that was the problem. They learned, as many others have also: they didn't cause alcoholism, can't control it or cure it.
They kept coming back, however, because they discovered there was much healing needed in their own life as they had developed unhealthy habits around the alcoholism.
With the help of meetings, guidance from their higher power and consistent work they were able to regain their equilibrium.
Reminder I don't respond well when others try to control me, why would I try on others? I am responsible for myself and the only one responsible for the level of felt fulfillment.
"Today I will keep hands off and keep my focus where it belongs, on me." ...In All Our Affairs ------------- I find it helpful to recall my beliefs before Alanon as I map my spiritual course, and wonder at the immensity of my initial misperception. So focused upon triangulating on the straws on them, missed the beam I was swinging.
When I take 100% responsibility for me alone, I find serenity. When I am unhappy, the first thing I try to consider is what person, thing or situation I am wanting to be different. If I don't adjust my belief of the source, I will remain unhappy...
Grateful for the wisdom and reminders
Lyne said
Aug 1, 2023
Thank you Paul for your service and share. After 11 yrs of alanon, and learning to stop trying to force solutions, my spouse has gone to AA for 4 consecutive days. I will remain detached with love, have no expectations, and pray.
DM2021 said
Aug 1, 2023
Paul thank you for your service and agree with everyone's ESH that responsibility lies with myself and must always examine my motives.
Today's writer arrived at Alanon as did many: hoping to find out how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking, thinking that was the problem. They learned, as many others have also: they didn't cause alcoholism, can't control it or cure it.
They kept coming back, however, because they discovered there was much healing needed in their own life as they had developed unhealthy habits around the alcoholism.
With the help of meetings, guidance from their higher power and consistent work they were able to regain their equilibrium.
Reminder I don't respond well when others try to control me, why would I try on others? I am responsible for myself and the only one responsible for the level of felt fulfillment.
"Today I will keep hands off and keep my focus where it belongs, on me." ...In All Our Affairs
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I find it helpful to recall my beliefs before Alanon as I map my spiritual course, and wonder at the immensity of my initial misperception. So focused upon triangulating on the straws on them, missed the beam I was swinging.
When I take 100% responsibility for me alone, I find serenity. When I am unhappy, the first thing I try to consider is what person, thing or situation I am wanting to be different. If I don't adjust my belief of the source, I will remain unhappy...
Grateful for the wisdom and reminders
Thank you Paul for your service and share. After 11 yrs of alanon, and learning to stop trying to force solutions, my spouse has gone to AA for 4 consecutive days. I will remain detached with love, have no expectations, and pray.