Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father.
Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger become the focus, and to be grateful for this amidst the pain and challenges.
Reminder - Attitude is extremely important when determining the family dynamic.
"And above all, I never use the children as pawns in any conflicts. They respond so well to respect." --------------- This page was impactful to me even though I do not have children. The lessons are powerful and applicable to all areas of my life where I have the opportunity to allow better outcomes by showing respect rather than anger.
Anger historically has come more easily to me but never improves outcomes, only postpones resolution and leaves scars that can be slow to heal.
No matter the situation, my attitude is still the key to how I choose to perceive things, and how I react. Remaining respectful will always leave an easier path to resolution, and infinitely more serenity.
Grateful for the needed reminders
Lyne said
Jun 27, 2023
Thanks Paul for your service and great share. I've learned that my attitude affects all of my behavior. So if I'm carrying around a poor attitude, my day and interactions with others will suffer. Alanon has taught me with practice and focus I can change my attitude. I've also learned that I'm allowed to feel my anger, but then let go and let God. Bless them and change me. I try to treat others the way I want to be treated.
DM2021 said
Jun 27, 2023
Thank you Paul for your service and to you and Lyne for your ESH.
Respecting the alcoholic's privacy is a lesson that I greatly appreciate having learned in Al-Anon.
Using my regret and anger by discussing/complaining about my treatment has taught me that
it only opens many doors to more anxiety for everyone involved. I have learned how alcoholism
played such a key role in how I am treated and because of that understanding I am able to take
a step back and look at my reasoning(s) for reacting with determination to prove I am right and
mistreated. Al-Anon has showed me that spinning my wheels trying to be right was half the
reason for my anxiety and fear. Letting go and letting God = losing that ego = my serenity. The
alcoholic's daily anger issues are their own and not mine, grateful in Al-Anon indeed!!
SunnyFrog said
Jun 28, 2023
Good morning
All good shares here. I can't think of what to say right now besides that,
Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father.
Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger become the focus, and to be grateful for this amidst the pain and challenges.
Reminder - Attitude is extremely important when determining the family dynamic.
"And above all, I never use the children as pawns in any conflicts. They respond so well to respect."
---------------
This page was impactful to me even though I do not have children. The lessons are powerful and applicable to all areas of my life where I have the opportunity to allow better outcomes by showing respect rather than anger.
Anger historically has come more easily to me but never improves outcomes, only postpones resolution and leaves scars that can be slow to heal.
No matter the situation, my attitude is still the key to how I choose to perceive things, and how I react. Remaining respectful will always leave an easier path to resolution, and infinitely more serenity.
Grateful for the needed reminders
Respecting the alcoholic's privacy is a lesson that I greatly appreciate having learned in Al-Anon.
Using my regret and anger by discussing/complaining about my treatment has taught me that
it only opens many doors to more anxiety for everyone involved. I have learned how alcoholism
played such a key role in how I am treated and because of that understanding I am able to take
a step back and look at my reasoning(s) for reacting with determination to prove I am right and
mistreated. Al-Anon has showed me that spinning my wheels trying to be right was half the
reason for my anxiety and fear. Letting go and letting God = losing that ego = my serenity. The
alcoholic's daily anger issues are their own and not mine, grateful in Al-Anon indeed!!
All good shares here. I can't think of what to say right now besides that,
Have a good day.