6/6/23 C2C – Searching and Fearless or Dismissing and Justifying
Enigmatic said
Jun 6, 2023
This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4.
Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewarded.
Reminder: Accepting that I am human means that I can look closely at my homeruns and my strikeouts. Today I will find something to appreciate and something to improve.
"You never find yourself until you face the truth." - Pearl Bailey ----------- Oh boy, callout time! I have absolutely been making excuses for my poor behavior with a non-active alcoholic.
Officially saying I wasn't, but I realize that unofficially, inside the vault of my private thoughts, I was discounting the severity of my actions because of what I perceived as injustice in theirs. Classic 6yr-old Paul in action!
Searching and fearless moral inventory of my own actions quickly, without a second glance, reveals that I am being the problem.
I don't get to point out why their action inspired me negatively if I want to make spiritual progress, and certainly if I want to find Serenity. Take care of me, the rest will work itself out...
Grateful for the reminder
Lyne said
Jun 6, 2023
Thanks Paul for your service and share. I have to be willing to take an honest look at myself, on a regular basis. I will never be entirely fixed! It's a life long process, to be open to the truth, and of course see my home runs. But I not only need to see my strike outs, but be willing to have the desire to practice to improve. :)
DM2021 said
Jun 7, 2023
Lovely reading today Paul, thank you for your service and to you and Lyne for both your ESH.
I took a look at my Step Four work and what my main focus was on is that when I felt threatened,
mostly when the abusive statements and threatens are/were flung at me, how I dealt with the
fear and rejection needed to be reined in. I am in a place where there is very little that can be
said or done to me, by the active drinker in my life, that hurts me anymore. Thank you Al-Anon/MIP
This timely page warns against justifying OUR unacceptable behavior by placing blame on others or excusing it as just a common reaction as we review Step 4.
Instead, this is the time to fearlessly search through our good/bad after building our spiritual base in Steps 1-3...our courage will be rewarded.
Reminder: Accepting that I am human means that I can look closely at my homeruns and my strikeouts. Today I will find something to appreciate and something to improve.
"You never find yourself until you face the truth." - Pearl Bailey
-----------
Oh boy, callout time! I have absolutely been making excuses for my poor behavior with a non-active alcoholic.
Officially saying I wasn't, but I realize that unofficially, inside the vault of my private thoughts, I was discounting the severity of my actions because of what I perceived as injustice in theirs. Classic 6yr-old Paul in action!
Searching and fearless moral inventory of my own actions quickly, without a second glance, reveals that I am being the problem.
I don't get to point out why their action inspired me negatively if I want to make spiritual progress, and certainly if I want to find Serenity. Take care of me, the rest will work itself out...
Grateful for the reminder
I took a look at my Step Four work and what my main focus was on is that when I felt threatened,
mostly when the abusive statements and threatens are/were flung at me, how I dealt with the
fear and rejection needed to be reined in. I am in a place where there is very little that can be
said or done to me, by the active drinker in my life, that hurts me anymore. Thank you Al-Anon/MIP
and my HP!! Grateful indeed!!