Todays reading is a focus on a few of our slogans, with particular emphasis on the concept of minding our own business! The writer states that live and let live is a reminder that we have lives separate from others and we are all meant to govern our own. The writer describes having offered advice to his/her children whether it was asked for or not. What the writer began to notice was that the instinct to jump in with comments and thoughts was alienating the people in his/her life. As the writer worked on staying out of the business of other people, he/she began to notice the adult children would share more and more, with a deeper level of intimacy and trust.
The Thought for the Day is something I have said word for word to my students: Its not important for me to comment on everything I hear.
Todays reading is another reminder to me about how freeing detachment can be for everyone involved. When I first came to Al-anon I thought detachment had such a negative connotation. The culture in which I grew up was very much about everyone minding everyone elses business! I have come to learn that not only is it respectful of others to stay out of their business, but its healthier for me as well. I have plenty to work on in my own life without adding in the situations and decisions of others!
The quotation from Courage to Change (p.234): Al-Anon helped me to let live by teaching me about detachment and helping me to see that many of my problems stemmed from minding everyones business but my own.
I hope everyone enjoys a peaceful Sunday:)
Mary
DM2021 said
May 21, 2023
Thank you so much Mary for your service every Sunday, this day's reading and ESH.
It is kind of a contradiction that when I learned to mind my own business the alcoholic in my life
did not like it!! Maybe because I removed most issues raised, when I did not mind my own
business, and then there was nothing for him to argue about!!! Just love the peace, thank
you Al-Anon and happy Sunday MIP Family!!
yanksfan51 said
May 21, 2023
Yes I can relate to the same- minding my own business was an unfamiliar behavior for me and my qualifier. Guess we all had to get used to it! Haha
life is much freer when Im keeping my nose in my own business!
Good morning everyone-
Todays reading is a focus on a few of our slogans, with particular emphasis on the concept of minding our own business! The writer states that live and let live is a reminder that we have lives separate from others and we are all meant to govern our own. The writer describes having offered advice to his/her children whether it was asked for or not. What the writer began to notice was that the instinct to jump in with comments and thoughts was alienating the people in his/her life. As the writer worked on staying out of the business of other people, he/she began to notice the adult children would share more and more, with a deeper level of intimacy and trust.
The Thought for the Day is something I have said word for word to my students: Its not important for me to comment on everything I hear.
Todays reading is another reminder to me about how freeing detachment can be for everyone involved. When I first came to Al-anon I thought detachment had such a negative connotation. The culture in which I grew up was very much about everyone minding everyone elses business! I have come to learn that not only is it respectful of others to stay out of their business, but its healthier for me as well. I have plenty to work on in my own life without adding in the situations and decisions of others!
The quotation from Courage to Change (p.234): Al-Anon helped me to let live by teaching me about detachment and helping me to see that many of my problems stemmed from minding everyones business but my own.
I hope everyone enjoys a peaceful Sunday:)
Mary
It is kind of a contradiction that when I learned to mind my own business the alcoholic in my life
did not like it!! Maybe because I removed most issues raised, when I did not mind my own
business, and then there was nothing for him to argue about!!!
you Al-Anon and happy Sunday MIP Family!!
Yes I can relate to the same- minding my own business was an unfamiliar behavior for me and my qualifier. Guess we all had to get used to it! Haha
life is much freer when Im keeping my nose in my own business!
mary