This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and lost faith in a Higher Power. The writer's sponsor was instrumental in restoring faith that you can depend on certain people, and that one's Higher Power is always there.
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The inconsistency for me came from my spouse, but almost all the above circumstances applied. I never knew what to expect, moods could change on a dime, and I withdrew from friends and family. It seemed like the marriage I had disappeared and a new, not good one emerged. My early contact with alanon came from MIP and shortly thereafter, a wonderful sponsor. She restored my faith in people, helped me establish a new and improved relationship with myself, and encouraged me to lean often on my HP. There certainly is hope and help here. :)
DM2021 said
Apr 23, 2023
Thank you Lyne for your Monday service and ESH.
Yeah Al-Anon did the same for me as well Lyne, helping me to understand and deal with the daily
inconsistencies of life living with an alcoholic. Those lessons helped in other areas of my life as
well and did restore my faith in HP. MIP was definitely pivotal and was my first point of contact
concerning the Al-Anon program. Prior to MIP I had no idea that Al-Anon even existed and did
not know that what I was living with was even alcoholism and all those subsequent pains and
abuses were not my fault. Simply amazing stuff!!! {{HUGS}}
SunnyFrog said
Apr 24, 2023
Good morning
Growing up in an alcoholic home I definitely experienced the lack of consistency.I hated it but learned to adapt in very unhealthy ways.But I did rely on my HP to help me through it all,even as a child. I am not sure where I would be in life right now if I hadn't. Then of course I followed suit and married an A and experienced the same,it was all I ever knew in life and still always relied on my HP.
Now though,with the help of Alanon,instead of just relying on my HP there's a relationship going on and that makes a difference.
This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and lost faith in a Higher Power. The writer's sponsor was instrumental in restoring faith that you can depend on certain people, and that one's Higher Power is always there.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The inconsistency for me came from my spouse, but almost all the above circumstances applied. I never knew what to expect, moods could change on a dime, and I withdrew from friends and family. It seemed like the marriage I had disappeared and a new, not good one emerged. My early contact with alanon came from MIP and shortly thereafter, a wonderful sponsor. She restored my faith in people, helped me establish a new and improved relationship with myself, and encouraged me to lean often on my HP. There certainly is hope and help here. :)
Yeah Al-Anon did the same for me as well Lyne, helping me to understand and deal with the daily
inconsistencies of life living with an alcoholic. Those lessons helped in other areas of my life as
well and did restore my faith in HP. MIP was definitely pivotal and was my first point of contact
concerning the Al-Anon program. Prior to MIP I had no idea that Al-Anon even existed and did
not know that what I was living with was even alcoholism and all those subsequent pains and
abuses were not my fault. Simply amazing stuff!!! {{HUGS}}
Growing up in an alcoholic home I definitely experienced the lack of consistency.I hated it but learned to adapt in very unhealthy ways.But I did rely on my HP to help me through it all,even as a child. I am not sure where I would be in life right now if I hadn't. Then of course I followed suit and married an A and experienced the same,it was all I ever knew in life and still always relied on my HP.
Now though,with the help of Alanon,instead of just relying on my HP there's a relationship going on and that makes a difference.
Have a good day