In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance of being nicer to ourselves. The author has learned to ignore the voices in their head that tell them that they are not good enough. These voices are a symptom of damaged self-esteem that results from living with the effects of alcoholism. Thanks to Al-Anon, the author realizes that they do not need to listen to those voices.
Al-Anon offers gentler, more loving thoughts. Thoughts that remind the author that they are lovable and can learn to love themselves.
Today's Reminder: Treating myself with kindness and respect helps me to challenge my own self-criticism. Today I will pay particular attention to any voice that speaks lovingly.
Today's Quote: "We need to learn to live, to focus on something good or useful to our lives and let the rest of the world go about its business." How Can I Help My Children?
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One thing that I recognize in myself is a damages self-esteem. Living with the effects of alcoholism for so long had me doubting that I could ever do anything right, even when I had evidence to the contrary. I had myself believing that mechanical repairs were too much for e, that I couldn't handle them, even when I had successfully done the EXACT SAME REPAIR prior to living with an active alcoholic. One day I realized, if I doubt my ability to do something I KNOW I have successfully done in the past, how else am I harming myself by doubting myself in other areas?
In Al-Anon, I learned to question those voices that tell me I cannot do things or I am not good enough. Someday, I hope that I will stop listening to them altogether.
DM2021 said
Mar 29, 2023
Thank you from me as well Skorpi for your service, todays reading and to you and TT for both
your lovely ESH, I appreciate and value both your sharing and support over these years on MIP.
I spent the day in the gardens, always makes me feel like I accomplished so much and love to
sit back and look at what I have done, good for the self esteem indeed!! I have learned that
when I do get into the nitty gritty of the yard work that I will not get any praise or support and
do not expect that I ever will, hence I am proud of myself instead, when I look at my work
and it looks good! We lost a number of trees three years ago during a very bad storm and
had to put up more stockade fence. There were about a 100 day lily plants that were now
exposed and I moved them all to a garden I made along that 18 sections of fence. When
Thanks Skorpi for your service, for all above ESH, and the lovely gardening picture. A topic close to my heart, and quite a long journey, has been learning to love myself. An abusive older brother crushed any self-esteem I ever had in childhood, followed by two marriages to alcoholics. That was crazy-making for sure. My first beloved sponsor really taught me to treat myself with kindness, and see my assets. During my time in this program I have gone from self-hate to self-love. It's been a lot of practice, sometimes I slip, but Progress not Perfection. :)
Hello MIP!
In today's reading, the author reflects on the importance of being nicer to ourselves. The author has learned to ignore the voices in their head that tell them that they are not good enough. These voices are a symptom of damaged self-esteem that results from living with the effects of alcoholism. Thanks to Al-Anon, the author realizes that they do not need to listen to those voices.
Al-Anon offers gentler, more loving thoughts. Thoughts that remind the author that they are lovable and can learn to love themselves.
Today's Reminder: Treating myself with kindness and respect helps me to challenge my own self-criticism. Today I will pay particular attention to any voice that speaks lovingly.
Today's Quote: "We need to learn to live, to focus on something good or useful to our lives and let the rest of the world go about its business." How Can I Help My Children?
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One thing that I recognize in myself is a damages self-esteem. Living with the effects of alcoholism for so long had me doubting that I could ever do anything right, even when I had evidence to the contrary. I had myself believing that mechanical repairs were too much for e, that I couldn't handle them, even when I had successfully done the EXACT SAME REPAIR prior to living with an active alcoholic. One day I realized, if I doubt my ability to do something I KNOW I have successfully done in the past, how else am I harming myself by doubting myself in other areas?
In Al-Anon, I learned to question those voices that tell me I cannot do things or I am not good enough. Someday, I hope that I will stop listening to them altogether.
Thank you from me as well Skorpi for your service, todays reading and to you and TT for both
your lovely ESH, I appreciate and value both your sharing and support over these years on MIP.
I spent the day in the gardens, always makes me feel like I accomplished so much and love to
sit back and look at what I have done, good for the self esteem indeed!! I have learned that
when I do get into the nitty gritty of the yard work that I will not get any praise or support and
do not expect that I ever will, hence I am proud of myself instead, when I look at my work
and it looks good! We lost a number of trees three years ago during a very bad storm and
had to put up more stockade fence. There were about a 100 day lily plants that were now
exposed and I moved them all to a garden I made along that 18 sections of fence. When
they bloom, the neighbors come to take photos!!!