In today's reading, the author reflects on how seeking knowledge and understanding can prevent us from making progress. Of course, the author shares that some knowledge is helpful - like looking at past experiences to find information about ourselves and our relationships. Inventories, memories, and reasoning things out with others can help us gain perspective.
But sometimes seeking knowledge prevents us from making positive change. Trying to analyze alcoholism, or attempting to gain clarity on a higher power before praying and taking action. These pursuits of knowledge actually keep us from accepting the reality we live in and acting accordingly.
Today's Reminder: Information can be wonderfully enlightening, but it is not the answer to every problem. I will be honest about my motives today
Today's Quote: "If you understand, things are just as they are; if you do not understand, things are just as they are." Zen proverb
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I'm a trained researcher, and so I can get very caught up in trying to understand something. I approached my wife's alcoholism in this way for many years. Now, I just accept that I'm not going to understand, and act accordingly. I could have saved myself a lot of time, energy, and trouble if I had stopped trying to understand a long time ago.
Recently, I found myself excitedly grasping at newfound knowledge about my wife, and was itching to understand more, but I stopped myself. Would further understanding change anything about the situation? No. I might find clues about what I could do, but I can also set boundaries, trust my higher power, and do what seems best in each moment. I could feel my desire to control rising, and so I gave my friend control a smile and nod, and let it go. More knowledge isn't going to change anything, except maybe my understanding of myself and hopefully my trust in myself - which I can grow without additional understanding as well.
SunnyFrog said
Mar 2, 2023
Good evening
I think seeking knowledge was just a form of avoidance for me. Rather than accept that ex-ah was using substances and alcohol I was researching every other disease there is to try to make sense of things.
I already know I take seeking knowledge and understanding to the extreme. I'm grateful for this reading and the reminder to take a look at that elephant in the room in all situations instead of avoiding by trying to turn it into something that's logical to me.
Have a good night
Lyne said
Mar 4, 2023
Thanks Skorpi for your service and all above ESH. My takeaway from this reading is that I must keep the focus on myself. Let me figure out me to have the best possible life no matter what the alcoholic is doing. Easy but hard!
Hello MIP!
In today's reading, the author reflects on how seeking knowledge and understanding can prevent us from making progress. Of course, the author shares that some knowledge is helpful - like looking at past experiences to find information about ourselves and our relationships. Inventories, memories, and reasoning things out with others can help us gain perspective.
But sometimes seeking knowledge prevents us from making positive change. Trying to analyze alcoholism, or attempting to gain clarity on a higher power before praying and taking action. These pursuits of knowledge actually keep us from accepting the reality we live in and acting accordingly.
Today's Reminder: Information can be wonderfully enlightening, but it is not the answer to every problem. I will be honest about my motives today
Today's Quote: "If you understand, things are just as they are; if you do not understand, things are just as they are." Zen proverb
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I'm a trained researcher, and so I can get very caught up in trying to understand something. I approached my wife's alcoholism in this way for many years. Now, I just accept that I'm not going to understand, and act accordingly. I could have saved myself a lot of time, energy, and trouble if I had stopped trying to understand a long time ago.
Recently, I found myself excitedly grasping at newfound knowledge about my wife, and was itching to understand more, but I stopped myself. Would further understanding change anything about the situation? No. I might find clues about what I could do, but I can also set boundaries, trust my higher power, and do what seems best in each moment. I could feel my desire to control rising, and so I gave my friend control a smile and nod, and let it go. More knowledge isn't going to change anything, except maybe my understanding of myself and hopefully my trust in myself - which I can grow without additional understanding as well.
I think seeking knowledge was just a form of avoidance for me. Rather than accept that ex-ah was using substances and alcohol I was researching every other disease there is to try to make sense of things.
I already know I take seeking knowledge and understanding to the extreme. I'm grateful for this reading and the reminder to take a look at that elephant in the room in all situations instead of avoiding by trying to turn it into something that's logical to me.
Have a good night