C2C, Monday, January 2, No bread in the hardware store
Lyne said
Jan 1, 2023
This writer says that looking for affection and support from an alcoholic can be like going to a hardware store for bread. While we may not have our expectations met, it is our own expectations that have let us down. Alcoholics may not be able to express love in the way we want it, but we can try to recognize love however it is offered. Most of us can find encouragement, support, and an unfailing source of love through alanon.
Reminder: Today the alcoholic may or may not be able to give us what we desire. And no one person will ever offer all that we require. If we stop insisting that our needs be met according to our will, we may discover that all the love and support we need is already at our fingertips.
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I have to admit I still need this reminder from time to time. My A does try to show love and support to me, however often it is not what I am looking for. If I am looking for my A to get alcohol treatment, it is I who gets disappointed over and over. The people in my life do not revolve around my needs. I do understand that most of the time. Thy will, not my will. Progress not perfection. And yes, this program provides me with so much. Grateful member always.
SunnyFrog said
Jan 1, 2023
Good evening. Great topic.
The reality of looking for affection and support from an alcoholic being like trying to find bread in a hardware store is what ultimately helped me finally make the decision to leave my marriage. Maybe it was my own expectations that let me down but it was also my own expectations that pushed me to want more and better for myself.
That being said, I am grateful to be back here in order to work on myself.
Have a good night everyone.
DM2021 said
Jan 2, 2023
{{Lyne}} Thank you for your service, today's reading and to you and Daffodils for both your ESH.
Al-Anon has helped me so much in this area!! My expectations do get dashed once in a while but
Al-Anon always set me back on track to realize it is me who determines my happiness. Grateful
member as always!!!
Daffodils said
Jan 3, 2023
Thank you Lyne for your service. I appreciate all the thought provoking shares. My takeaway is to check my expectations and make decisions that are right for me.
This writer says that looking for affection and support from an alcoholic can be like going to a hardware store for bread. While we may not have our expectations met, it is our own expectations that have let us down. Alcoholics may not be able to express love in the way we want it, but we can try to recognize love however it is offered. Most of us can find encouragement, support, and an unfailing source of love through alanon.
Reminder: Today the alcoholic may or may not be able to give us what we desire. And no one person will ever offer all that we require. If we stop insisting that our needs be met according to our will, we may discover that all the love and support we need is already at our fingertips.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
I have to admit I still need this reminder from time to time. My A does try to show love and support to me, however often it is not what I am looking for. If I am looking for my A to get alcohol treatment, it is I who gets disappointed over and over. The people in my life do not revolve around my needs. I do understand that most of the time. Thy will, not my will. Progress not perfection. And yes, this program provides me with so much. Grateful member always.
The reality of looking for affection and support from an alcoholic being like trying to find bread in a hardware store is what ultimately helped me finally make the decision to leave my marriage. Maybe it was my own expectations that let me down but it was also my own expectations that pushed me to want more and better for myself.
That being said, I am grateful to be back here in order to work on myself.
Have a good night everyone.
Al-Anon has helped me so much in this area!! My expectations do get dashed once in a while but
Al-Anon always set me back on track to realize it is me who determines my happiness. Grateful
member as always!!!