C2C, Monday, 10/3, How do you get compassion for an A?
Lyne said
Oct 2, 2022
First, the writer says what doesn't work: seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, screaming, and/or throwing things. The writer says it's important to recognize you are dealing with a sick person who may show symptoms of a disease (verbal abuse for instance). Then, you don't have to take it personally. We don't have a right to punish someone who is sick. We are human and don't deserve abuse, but nor should we give it. We could learn to be the kind of person we want as a friend.
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It took me awhile but eventually I came to accept the concepts above. OK, I agree. Being honest (I try), the part that I have trouble accepting, is that there is a ton of help available to alcoholics. My A chooses no help, and still is in denial of being an alcoholic. I am powerless over others and no longer try to force solutions. So, God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference, Amen.
Daffodils said
Oct 3, 2022
Good Morning. Thank you for your service. I appreciate all the shares-they highlight areas I need to focus on for continuing growth. My husband and I are recovering from a nasty flu and dealing with news of my mother in-law's rapidly declining health. She's been quite ill for a number of years ( we almost lost her in 2019). Instead of dwelling on fear and sadness, I changed my usual tactics and applied Al-Anon tools. I focused on my health and was given enough strength to lend support to my husband. I am trying to accept HP's timing and hopeful we can spend time with my mother in-law once we're better. I've been given an opportunity to use Al-Anon tools daily (sometimes hourly) and realize spiritual principles aid in recovery in all illnesses. Grateful for for MIP.
DM2021 said
Oct 3, 2022
Thank you Lyne for your service, today's reading and to you. TT and
Daffodils for all your poignant/heartfelt ESH.
I was just reading in the ODAT this morning concerning exactly this topic and
so appreciate, Lyne, TT and Daffodils all your reminders that forcing/fighting/
responding to the A in my life is so counter productive. ODAT reminds me, this
morning, that when I don't THINK before I respond, to someone who has a disease
I am not only hurting my self, I am creating an atmosphere that encourages further
drinking.
Daffodils, am so sorry to hear you and your husband are not feeling well and wish
you both a speedy recovery and prayers for your Mother-in-law and family at this
difficult time.
{{HUGS}} to the MIP Family!!
-- Edited by DM2021 on Monday 3rd of October 2022 09:23:17 AM
-- Edited by DM2021 on Monday 3rd of October 2022 06:27:29 PM
First, the writer says what doesn't work: seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, screaming, and/or throwing things. The writer says it's important to recognize you are dealing with a sick person who may show symptoms of a disease (verbal abuse for instance). Then, you don't have to take it personally. We don't have a right to punish someone who is sick. We are human and don't deserve abuse, but nor should we give it. We could learn to be the kind of person we want as a friend.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
It took me awhile but eventually I came to accept the concepts above. OK, I agree. Being honest (I try), the part that I have trouble accepting, is that there is a ton of help available to alcoholics. My A chooses no help, and still is in denial of being an alcoholic. I am powerless over others and no longer try to force solutions. So, God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference, Amen.
Thank you Lyne for your service, today's reading and to you. TT and
Daffodils for all your poignant/heartfelt ESH.
I was just reading in the ODAT this morning concerning exactly this topic and
so appreciate, Lyne, TT and Daffodils all your reminders that forcing/fighting/
responding to the A in my life is so counter productive. ODAT reminds me, this
morning, that when I don't THINK before I respond, to someone who has a disease
I am not only hurting my self, I am creating an atmosphere that encourages further
drinking.
Daffodils, am so sorry to hear you and your husband are not feeling well and wish
you both a speedy recovery and prayers for your Mother-in-law and family at this
difficult time.
{{HUGS}} to the MIP Family!!
-- Edited by DM2021 on Monday 3rd of October 2022 09:23:17 AM
-- Edited by DM2021 on Monday 3rd of October 2022 06:27:29 PM