In today's reading, the author shares about how working with a sponsor helped them to learn how to take responsibility for their emotions, and express themselves in a more straightforward way. This started by being careful with words chosen for self-talk and communicating intentionally. Instead of thinking about someone "making me feel" a certain way, the author now understands that they have the power over their own emotions, and that they can instead talk about how they experienced something and what they want. This helped the author stop being a victim.
Today's Reminder: What do my words communicate? Do they express what I am trying to say? Today I will listen more closely to what my words have to say.
Today's Quote: "We learn in time that it is not subjects which are controversial, but the manner in which we communicate about them and the elements of personal blame we add to them in anger." The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage
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What a timely reading for me today! My wife and I were having a discussion about communication recently, and I was able, thanks to this reading, of better understanding our differences.
What stood out to me in this reading was especially the focus on choosing our words carefully to ensure that they are really communicating our meaning. I appreciated as well the focus on how the author experienced something and what they want. It reminds me of some other Al-Anon readings about expressing needs, and letting go of what others do. Giving others the ability to say yes or no, and having both answers be acceptable is important to me.
Lyne said
Jun 23, 2022
Thank you Skorpi for your service and ESH. This is a power packed reading reminding me that I am responsible for my emotions, actions, and words. I try to practice all of these, and of course, progress not perfection!
DM2021 said
Jun 23, 2022
Thank you Skorpi for your service, reading and to you and Lyne for both your ESH.
It is a timely reading and post Skorpi!! I have been stuck on April 1 & 2 of ODAT because I am having
difficulty with dealing with the sadness caused by the lack of constructive, compassionate and courteous
dialogue with AH. I do so want to be able to accept and move on from the disappointment and stop
allowing the nasty retorts from AH to affect me. I end up just avoiding all discussions with AH that are
not related to the household because anything I say to him is not appreciated or approved (sic). So
I am working on my thoughts of dislike because I know that it is not healthy to harbor resentment,
which entails Letting Go and Letting God and accepting AH for who he is. Mediation is so helpful as well,
Hello MIP!
In today's reading, the author shares about how working with a sponsor helped them to learn how to take responsibility for their emotions, and express themselves in a more straightforward way. This started by being careful with words chosen for self-talk and communicating intentionally. Instead of thinking about someone "making me feel" a certain way, the author now understands that they have the power over their own emotions, and that they can instead talk about how they experienced something and what they want. This helped the author stop being a victim.
Today's Reminder: What do my words communicate? Do they express what I am trying to say? Today I will listen more closely to what my words have to say.
Today's Quote: "We learn in time that it is not subjects which are controversial, but the manner in which we communicate about them and the elements of personal blame we add to them in anger." The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage
___________
What a timely reading for me today! My wife and I were having a discussion about communication recently, and I was able, thanks to this reading, of better understanding our differences.
What stood out to me in this reading was especially the focus on choosing our words carefully to ensure that they are really communicating our meaning. I appreciated as well the focus on how the author experienced something and what they want. It reminds me of some other Al-Anon readings about expressing needs, and letting go of what others do. Giving others the ability to say yes or no, and having both answers be acceptable is important to me.
It is a timely reading and post Skorpi!! I have been stuck on April 1 & 2 of ODAT because I am having
difficulty with dealing with the sadness caused by the lack of constructive, compassionate and courteous
dialogue with AH. I do so want to be able to accept and move on from the disappointment and stop
allowing the nasty retorts from AH to affect me. I end up just avoiding all discussions with AH that are
not related to the household because anything I say to him is not appreciated or approved (sic). So
I am working on my thoughts of dislike because I know that it is not healthy to harbor resentment,
which entails Letting Go and Letting God and accepting AH for who he is. Mediation is so helpful as well,
makes a huge difference!!