Today's c2c is about humility, and the first step towards humility being the acceptance of powerlessness. In learning to accept powerlessness we discover what is, and isn't our responsibility and the reading further invites us to show kindness towards ourselves that we would normally do for another. I think it is suggesting that in doing this we make an act of faith that the needs of said other will be cared for whether we attempt to act for them or not.

I like this idea as compulsively acting for others even when I know it won't influence the outcome I want to influence seems to be irresistible sometimes. I know it's dull that I forever use my teenage co-inhabitants as an example but now that I don't live with an active alcoholic, it's really the area where I see daily examples of my need to relinquish codependent, controlling behaviours. Today they returned home from a few days interstate and brought mess and washing and general chaos to the home I have kept so neat for days now  I'm sure you all know the drill. Instead of ruining my own night by martyring myself to clean up, I retired to my room and tidied up my own space and then relaxed and enjoyed it. I see now that this relates well to this reading. Their mess will still be there tomorrow, and instead of dramatically tending to it and making sure they feel as bad as possible about not cleaning after themselves, I am going to push it to the side so it doesn't bother me, and again make a deliberate act of tending my own cleaning/washing/ making my personal space enjoyable. And trust that they will either be motivated to clear their own, or they will learn a lesson of their own when they need their clothes clean, etc. This will take considerable strength and resolve but really, when does grumpily doing someone else's chores for them actually influence them to do better? It doesn't. I am powerless to influence that. Wish me luck lol