C2C April 28th- Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Youknowme said
Apr 28, 2022
Today's C2C speaks about the wonderful discovery that many of our perceived defects turn out to be our greatest strengths, or, our best opportunities for growth. It suggests that rather than simply wishing away our defects, we can instead examine them for growth opportunities or hidden strengths.
This has been one of my most profound al-anon discoveries; along the way I have come to realise that many of the traits I hated about myself and wished would disappear were actually assets I was mis-using. Excessive worrying was destructive but beneath that, for example, was a really good ability to prepare for likely difficulties. Being resilient and giving to difficult people made me think I was a doormat when applied to an abusive relationship with an alcoholic, but it turned out to be an asset when applied to parenting a teenager lol! Anyway, I really enjoy the approach of re-framing my defects to see what strengths are hidden within them instead of tossing the baby out with the bathwater. It's a really rewarding exercise that can completely change my frame of mind from negative and self depracating to positive and capable.
Does anyone else see examples of their own defects which turned out to be hidden strengths or growth opportunities?
DM2021 said
Apr 28, 2022
Thank you so much YKM for your service, today's reading and your ESH.
Yes, I can see that sometimes I can be quite a perfectionist, but saw how that was so demanding on the alcoholic in my life
and that minding my own business was necessary, but that perfectionist attitude is what helped me to prepare and make
comfortable my life in the sense that I am less anxious and afraid of the future.
Lyne said
Apr 28, 2022
Thanks YKM for your service and above ESH. I tend towards the OCD spectrum (!) and sometimes I can drive myself a little nuts. But there are other times that my attention to detail and being prepared came in very handy, especially during the early days of the pandemic. One thing that repeatedly is a good lesson is for me, is not to be so hard on myself. If I have behaviors that I feel are negative, I can strive to change them.
SunnyFrog said
Apr 28, 2022
Good afternoon.
Yeah, I can see how some of my negative traits are actually good ones in the right situations. The trick I think though is figuring out when they actually would be beneficial and helpful.
Sharing my deepest thought and feelings are perfect for my creative writing. Not so much though in the middle of the night when shared with a sleeping alcoholic (lol)
Have a good day everyone
bud said
Apr 29, 2022
Thank you for your service YKM and thanks to all for the shares!
My quest for perfectionism and details to understand and fix have been positively channeled in my career, where it behooves me (and I'm paid to) to identify and address issues.
Today's C2C speaks about the wonderful discovery that many of our perceived defects turn out to be our greatest strengths, or, our best opportunities for growth. It suggests that rather than simply wishing away our defects, we can instead examine them for growth opportunities or hidden strengths.
This has been one of my most profound al-anon discoveries; along the way I have come to realise that many of the traits I hated about myself and wished would disappear were actually assets I was mis-using. Excessive worrying was destructive but beneath that, for example, was a really good ability to prepare for likely difficulties. Being resilient and giving to difficult people made me think I was a doormat when applied to an abusive relationship with an alcoholic, but it turned out to be an asset when applied to parenting a teenager lol! Anyway, I really enjoy the approach of re-framing my defects to see what strengths are hidden within them instead of tossing the baby out with the bathwater. It's a really rewarding exercise that can completely change my frame of mind from negative and self depracating to positive and capable.
Does anyone else see examples of their own defects which turned out to be hidden strengths or growth opportunities?
Yes, I can see that sometimes I can be quite a perfectionist, but saw how that was so demanding on the alcoholic in my life
and that minding my own business was necessary, but that perfectionist attitude is what helped me to prepare and make
comfortable my life in the sense that I am less anxious and afraid of the future.
Yeah, I can see how some of my negative traits are actually good ones in the right situations. The trick I think though is figuring out when they actually would be beneficial and helpful.
Sharing my deepest thought and feelings are perfect for my creative writing. Not so much though in the middle of the night when shared with a sleeping alcoholic (lol)
Have a good day everyone
My quest for perfectionism and details to understand and fix have been positively channeled in my career, where it behooves me (and I'm paid to) to identify and address issues.