The writer realized that after living with alcoholism, a disease of attitudes, they had been left with a poor self-image and a negative outlook. But they realized that one can transform themself, by changing self-defeating attitudes. One can become a more beautiful human being by freely expressing their inner beauty, by putting love first, and practicing gratitude.
Quote: Sometimes it is necessary to reteach a thing its loveliness...until it flowers again from within...
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It's been a very long journey changing my negative self-attitudes into a self that I can love and respect. Years of therapy, and being successful in a career, could not overcome the messages I learned in my FOO (family of origin) and then two marriages to alcoholics. It's only by working with sponsors, attending F2F meetings, allowing MIP to be a part of my daily life, working the steps, using the slogans, etc., that I have changed from misery and hopelessness to peace and serenity much of the time. I could not have done this without our program, and with practicing all the tools available. I know I will always keep coming back. :)
DM2021 said
Mar 7, 2022
Thank you so much Lyne for your service and ESH.
I so agree about the long journey to changing negative attitudes towards myself and the drinker in my life.
Those same negative attitudes poured into other aspects of my life and just created a very unhappy outlook overall.
Learning that perspective/ego were my major problems and working the 12 Steps and coming here on MIP have,
over the past several years, helped me find a better way to think and live.
Youknowme said
Mar 8, 2022
Thanks Lyne and DM2021. Transforming my negative attitudes is one of the most enjoyable lessons/ tools I can apply (when I remember to!) In a simple way I applied this just before- my offspring got home from work and I was itching to tell her how annoyed I was that she had left dishes piled up before work and hadn't fed her pets etc but when I realised she was excited to tell me about her shift I decided to be grateful for her friendly communication and shelve the irritation for now. At the same time I felt annoyed with myself for always being ready to complain but I can remind myself that I am just one person and I do a lot for the young people that live with me so some irritation is pretty normal. This definitely works best when we apply compassion, forgiveness and a positive perspective to ourselves at the same time as applying it to others!
The writer realized that after living with alcoholism, a disease of attitudes, they had been left with a poor self-image and a negative outlook. But they realized that one can transform themself, by changing self-defeating attitudes. One can become a more beautiful human being by freely expressing their inner beauty, by putting love first, and practicing gratitude.
Quote: Sometimes it is necessary to reteach a thing its loveliness...until it flowers again from within...
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
It's been a very long journey changing my negative self-attitudes into a self that I can love and respect. Years of therapy, and being successful in a career, could not overcome the messages I learned in my FOO (family of origin) and then two marriages to alcoholics. It's only by working with sponsors, attending F2F meetings, allowing MIP to be a part of my daily life, working the steps, using the slogans, etc., that I have changed from misery and hopelessness to peace and serenity much of the time. I could not have done this without our program, and with practicing all the tools available. I know I will always keep coming back. :)
I so agree about the long journey to changing negative attitudes towards myself and the drinker in my life.
Those same negative attitudes poured into other aspects of my life and just created a very unhappy outlook overall.
Learning that perspective/ego were my major problems and working the 12 Steps and coming here on MIP have,
over the past several years, helped me find a better way to think and live.