Good morning everyone:

Todays reading is about resentments that may be a result of growing up/living in an alcoholic home and how we might address them in order to live a more positive and serene life.  The writer describes anger toward his/her parents that was difficult to express; instead it was tamped down and stewed into a resentment. Over time, and through program work, the writer understood that there were things which could actively be done  on his/her part rather than have expectations of others.  In the writers case, he/she stopped getting mired in the business of other people (writers parents) and started paying more attention to his/her own personal inventory.

This reading got me thinking about how many of us who have lived in alcoholic homes develop a need to control (situations and other people), and one of the freedoms that result from working a program in Alanon is realizing that control can come from dealing with our own selves.  What can I control/change?  What cant I? Whats the difference? This idea in terms of making amends to others is also addressed in the quotation from Al-Anon is for Adult Children of Alcoholics (p.16): Let me remember that the reason for making amends is to free my own mind of uneasiness

I hope everyone enjoys a peaceful Sunday:)

Mary