Our desperation brought us to Alanon, a place of recovery and hope where we draw comfort from a fellowship. We show our gratitude by accepting responsibilities by:

* Studying and using Alanon principles, for our own benefit and for that of the group

* Showing concern for the difficulties of others by sharing spiritual solutions

* Not taking up time in relating problems, but trying to "make everything I say reflect an Alanon teaching which will have meaning for those who hear me."

Reminder - Prepare for meetings by reading Alanon literature and ensuring I have something of value to share...net gain for me is a better life.

"We cannot drop out of human involvement without endangering our spiritual health." Unattributed
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Trying to control alcohol in another left me desolated, wanting others to know how wronged I was, how hard I had tried, the craziness I was living with and under.

I immediately noticed that those in Alanon meetings who had serenity rarely mentioned the alcoholic, or their specific faults; it was all about their experience, the strength they found in specific passages or slogans of the program, and the hope that gave them.

I wanted what they had, I did not want to be the ones in the group obsessed with complaining, retelling, and labeling unhealthy behavior, I learned I had enough of my own.

Using this as a guide helps me keep the focus on me, the only thing I can change'''change my attitude, outlook and actions, I can change my world.

Grateful for the wisdom and guidance of Alanon

I put a lot of work into having boundaries. I also put a lot of work into having relationships with people who reciprocate 

I no longer have relationships that are one way 

Sometimes I have to go to great lengths to get there.

In one instance it meant moving from one department to another 

Thst meant I had to go off and work somewhere else for a while 

Certainly it is hard to listen to people complain about being with an alcoholic 

I was with one for 8 years.  Most of that was awful .

Leaving was also awful stopping feeling responsible for him was truly tremendously difficult 

My meditation teacher has some very apt phrases for going into areas that are not our responsibility 

As someone who had no boundaries no was not a possibility 

Now no is an everyday part of my life 

Certainly I no longer have the level of resentment that was once there. Haleujsh fof that 

Hallelujah for not being obsessed about when someone else is going to destroy themselves 

I am so very grateful to be free of that absolute compulsion 

Maresie 

I am here 

Creating new change involves creating ne numero pathways 

A major part of that is changing expectations. I no longer expect w everything to go my way 

I expect to have difficulty. I am working on transferring to a job 1.5 miles from my home.   That would make a difference to the current 50 plus miles in another city.

I am no longer engaging in the thought the process will go seamlessly. In fact I expect to have many diversions 

Thst is far more realistic 

My yearning for the environment I did not have as a child is very understandable but it does not help me as an adult 

As an adult I have to contend with single parents who.are sleep deprived and extremely prickly because of the long houesvwe all put in. As we encounter police officers and other emergency services workers who have worked through the pandemic we are all shredded 

In this city everyone who works in emergency services has to get vaccinated.  That is a rule that may mean that certain staff will leave. I cant see how the system can run on a smaller staff 

However everyone has the right to refuse vaccination. If younrefude you just will not have a job 

Being in the #real# world on the frontline is eye opening 

However I prefer to work with my feet on the ground rather than with unreasonable expectations 

My expectations were a reason for my resentments. When Inam fill of resentment therein lies black and white thinking. 

Maresie