Got inspired to do a little more. These days I have contact with sibs and cousins via facebook really.
Facebook gets it's fait bit of flak- but it does keep people connected. So decided to reach out to a brother.
He had a small business- in an industrial area of the city. Bu this landlord found out that he was sleeping
over there-on the couch and he got evicted. So he is now homeless.
We had a brother in Texas who passed three years ago. He was an illegal immigrant and had no health or
retirement funding. When he died he was working as a courier for Amazon. If he had thought about it
he could have gotten a plane flight home and got some decent health care. But he stayed on. He died
on his doorstep with a catheter draining his thorax, and his gangrenous leg was wrapped in plastic.
This other brother- at least, is in NZ. What prompted my enquiry was the fact that he had made amends to me
over the last few years. I won't tell his story- but I suspect he was in a 12 Step group for a while.
He seemed to know the drill.
I am the oldest brother, and sib to the family.
So How do I respond. Our mum used to bring in all the lost animals- hens, kittens, puppies the lot. I
always felt that we should extend the same compassion to people as well.
I went to my F2F meeting last night. Grown from 3 to 4 people. And it made me realise How shaken I was-
at the news about my brother. I was triggered a fair bit.
Almost shaking, too...
..This too shall pass...
Debb said
Apr 15, 2021
{{David}}, so sorry to hear about your siblings and loss of your brother from Texas.
Researching resource assistance/aid for your brother who is homeless maybe helpful.
Keeping in touch with him and maybe relaying those resources.
Maresie888 said
Apr 15, 2021
David. Poor people do indeed get healthcare in the United States.
It is just not very good care. However county hospitals have t ol treat people
Sorry to hear of your brothers denise
DavidG said
Apr 15, 2021
Thanks Debbs and Marisie- it is so obvious that I still need support- to attain balance...
Beneath my benign appearance I still want to charge in there with the cavalry! So I
took a deep breath. A few actually. -Texted back and asked brother what contact he has
with brother mark III and our cousin... ...not being snoopy- but showing family interest.
SunnyFrogs said
Apr 15, 2021
That was a lot to read David, I'm sorry to hear all of that. It's understandable why you were triggered.
Sometimes I look up my siblings on Facebook but I don't contact them(they're not even on my friends lists). Sometimes I want to reach out to them or help them but instead I just love them from afar. I have one sibling that I Google his name every now and then because all of his mug shots pop up and at least I know he's still alive.
It's very hard for me and makes me sad but I know I have to keep my distance and focus on myself.
Ileana said
Apr 16, 2021
I hear you David. Sorry about your brother...
I relate with the longing and anxiety at the same time to have news about my foo ... We have contact but very distant and formal.
Facebook gets it's fait bit of flak- but it does keep people connected. So decided to reach out to a brother.
He had a small business- in an industrial area of the city. Bu this landlord found out that he was sleeping
over there-on the couch and he got evicted. So he is now homeless.
We had a brother in Texas who passed three years ago. He was an illegal immigrant and had no health or
retirement funding. When he died he was working as a courier for Amazon. If he had thought about it
he could have gotten a plane flight home and got some decent health care. But he stayed on. He died
on his doorstep with a catheter draining his thorax, and his gangrenous leg was wrapped in plastic.
This other brother- at least, is in NZ. What prompted my enquiry was the fact that he had made amends to me
over the last few years. I won't tell his story- but I suspect he was in a 12 Step group for a while.
He seemed to know the drill.
I am the oldest brother, and sib to the family.
So How do I respond. Our mum used to bring in all the lost animals- hens, kittens, puppies the lot. I
always felt that we should extend the same compassion to people as well.
I went to my F2F meeting last night. Grown from 3 to 4 people. And it made me realise How shaken I was-
at the news about my brother. I was triggered a fair bit.
Almost shaking, too...
..This too shall pass...
Researching resource assistance/aid for your brother who is homeless maybe helpful.
Keeping in touch with him and maybe relaying those resources.
It is just not very good care. However county hospitals have t ol treat people
Sorry to hear of your brothers denise
Beneath my benign appearance I still want to charge in there with the cavalry! So I
took a deep breath. A few actually. -Texted back and asked brother what contact he has
with brother mark III and our cousin... ...not being snoopy- but showing family interest.
Sometimes I look up my siblings on Facebook but I don't contact them(they're not even on my friends lists). Sometimes I want to reach out to them or help them but instead I just love them from afar. I have one sibling that I Google his name every now and then because all of his mug shots pop up and at least I know he's still alive.
It's very hard for me and makes me sad but I know I have to keep my distance and focus on myself.
I relate with the longing and anxiety at the same time to have news about my foo ... We have contact but very distant and formal.