Removing barriers and creating healthy boundaries.
I am seeing the impact on my SO and two young 8 year olds. So blessed. ...
It is a sunny autumn morning here. Our grandson and a friend are biking around- using the caravan as a base.
I used to find resting and relaxation difficult- because I always took me with me.
Not so difficult now- thank goodness! ...
I expect to be in the local town by 10. It is Sunday morning...
I find our 12 Step groups to be a primary source of strength and inspiration.
My first stop. Yes... but I also have to remain connected with the outside world. ...
Thanks for this opportunity to share... Hola, Kia ora; please find peace. ...
Debb said
Mar 6, 2021
I hear you David, great share about belonging and connecting. I think that feeling
like one belongs is an integral part of nature, I like to think that I am well thought of
in a group/work setting and that there is mutual respect. I believe that MIP is the
epitome of that type of group, that it's membership has definite respectful
connections. When I compare MIP to my family, we are now talking about the
need for a great amount of tolerance and get togethers are anything but
relaxing. Not saying that Al-Anon tools are not needed when we interact on
MIP, but there are definitely circumstances outside of this group where I just
wonder why bother getting together! I would never verbalize my boundaries to
my family, it is not in their realm to accept, so I let my actions speak for me
and try to stay quiet and avoid the chaos. My parents are close to 90 years old
now and can see that there is no reaching them and I would not even try. Al-Anon
has helped me so much with how to deal with those situations, because prior to
Al-Anon I just felt alienated with my family.
I feel really fortunate that there is an Al-Anon program.
It is definitely March (Kite Flying) weather here in New England, cold and very windy.
Used to love to fly kites, especially on the beach.
Wishing you and your family a lovely Sunday!
Lyne said
Mar 7, 2021
Hi David and Debb. Thanks for these interesting shares. I belonged to my family but it was dysfunctional. Even though I felt love from my parents, the pain from an older brother shaded everything else.
I too tried to force solutions from teen years on. I believe it was a desperate attempt to make better outcomes, but it never worked. And that was especially true with my current A. The harder I tried to force alcohol treatment, the deeper the hole I fell into. Of course it didnt resolve a thing.
Alanon, MIP, and my home group now on zoom, are wonderful places to belong. I am treated with respect even if folks do not agree with me or like me. It doesnt matter because I think there is commonalities with all of us wanting healing and peace. We can all relate to each other. I respect anyone/everyone trying to better themselves. Its hard work and takes commitment. Thats something to be proud of and appreciate in others. Grateful member.
I tried to force solutions- because i was so desperate. So wanting to escape deep my sense of abandonment.
This group has a business board where we can discuss group based issues. It is used from time to time.
I practise a certain amount of religion- but my higher power is unconditional love- both given and received.
I play with words- to get more mean. I see a group conscience, a group culture and a group soul.
I see this where a deeper trust abides. Quite a bit deeper than the outside world seems to provide.
My mantra came from Alanon Concept 4. Participation is the key to harmony.
I made this my step 11 meditation for months. Over that time I saw that personal internal harmony added a lot to harmony surrounding me.
I had had years of crisis making surrounding me. It took time to move away from the mode of thinking this taught me.
Detachment from within- since nothing could change the circumstances.
Serenity. Emotional sobriety. Emotional maturity. Emotional intimacy.
Removing barriers and creating healthy boundaries.
I am seeing the impact on my SO and two young 8 year olds. So blessed.
...
It is a sunny autumn morning here. Our grandson and a friend are biking around- using the caravan as a base.
I used to find resting and relaxation difficult- because I always took me with me.
Not so difficult now- thank goodness!
...
I expect to be in the local town by 10. It is Sunday morning...
I find our 12 Step groups to be a primary source of strength and inspiration.
My first stop. Yes... but I also have to remain connected with the outside world.
...
Thanks for this opportunity to share... Hola, Kia ora; please find peace.
...
like one belongs is an integral part of nature, I like to think that I am well thought of
in a group/work setting and that there is mutual respect. I believe that MIP is the
epitome of that type of group, that it's membership has definite respectful
connections. When I compare MIP to my family, we are now talking about the
need for a great amount of tolerance and get togethers are anything but
relaxing. Not saying that Al-Anon tools are not needed when we interact on
MIP, but there are definitely circumstances outside of this group where I just
wonder why bother getting together! I would never verbalize my boundaries to
my family, it is not in their realm to accept, so I let my actions speak for me
and try to stay quiet and avoid the chaos. My parents are close to 90 years old
now and can see that there is no reaching them and I would not even try. Al-Anon
has helped me so much with how to deal with those situations, because prior to
Al-Anon I just felt alienated with my family.
I feel really fortunate that there is an Al-Anon program.
It is definitely March (Kite Flying) weather here in New England, cold and very windy.
Used to love to fly kites, especially on the beach.
Wishing you and your family a lovely Sunday!
I too tried to force solutions from teen years on. I believe it was a desperate attempt to make better outcomes, but it never worked. And that was especially true with my current A. The harder I tried to force alcohol treatment, the deeper the hole I fell into. Of course it didnt resolve a thing.
Alanon, MIP, and my home group now on zoom, are wonderful places to belong. I am treated with respect even if folks do not agree with me or like me. It doesnt matter because I think there is commonalities with all of us wanting healing and peace. We can all relate to each other. I respect anyone/everyone trying to better themselves. Its hard work and takes commitment. Thats something to be proud of and appreciate in others. Grateful member.