I tend to dwell on the topics here- meditate on them. Absorb them.
There was a topic last week about comparisons. For three or four days I encountered
dissociation... [numbing, or brain fog.] I rode with is until it cleared. Did not feel compelled
to get back to Step one- and start the slow climb all over again. Just a brief interlude.
The shares on this forum- the "agony aunt" ones attract a lot of attention. And rightly so.
I am impressed and proud at the responses. There was a time when many people would
share here- and never come back to see the responses. This happens much less often now.
In my own home group, here in NZ, we used to to Step One sharing if a newcomer came
to a meeting. "Why we were there." To offer ESH. And to renew our own vows, as a group
member. To remember to keep the focus on ourselves, and not others.
And sometimes I just do this- for its own sake. ...
Debb said
Feb 15, 2021
DavidG you always make me think and smile!!
Had to look up what an "agony aunt" was, kind of a British version of Dear Abby in the States.
I guess it depends on the circumstances and who is posting, especially if it is a "newbie" then the
focus is entirely on them, like you said in a meeting when there is a newcomer, everyone wants to
make the newcomer welcome. The "agony aunt" posts are, for me, such a good way for us all
the discuss what is on our minds and learn from each other. Al-Anon is so cool. Thanks for the
share DavidG.
-- Edited by Debb on Monday 15th of February 2021 01:58:34 PM
Maresie888 said
Feb 22, 2021
David
I believe we are in a new wave of recovery for those of us dealimg with these #trauma# issues.
People are looking at issues to do an attachment disorder where over 75% of people who come from an abusive background have an attachment disorder. That is they are either disorganized and/or insecure attachment. That could be said to be #preoccupied# Preoccupied attachment have a hard time letting go of #hurts# They are #preoccupied,# in the relationship and generally caught up in the fight/flight mode. According to the stastistics they remain in the fight flight mode in relationship. They do not graduate from there
A certain percentage of survivors have a #distant#attachment mode. They are removed, afraid of relationship anf recalcitrant
A very small percentage of survivors have a#secure# form of attachment. They have #balance# in their lives. They neither hate nor are they enmeshed in the relationships.
Needless to say the issue of complex ptsd is a very difficult one.. Managing complex ptsd is a really difficult task. First some survivors have disassociative features that are particularly overwhelming. So of course are the plethora of #triggers' that seem to have lifelong implications ...
While both the attachment and complex ptsd issues are intimidating fior me having the vocabulary to describe what I am dealing with is invaluable.
There was a topic last week about comparisons. For three or four days I encountered
dissociation... [numbing, or brain fog.] I rode with is until it cleared. Did not feel compelled
to get back to Step one- and start the slow climb all over again. Just a brief interlude.
The shares on this forum- the "agony aunt" ones attract a lot of attention. And rightly so.
I am impressed and proud at the responses. There was a time when many people would
share here- and never come back to see the responses. This happens much less often now.
In my own home group, here in NZ, we used to to Step One sharing if a newcomer came
to a meeting. "Why we were there." To offer ESH. And to renew our own vows, as a group
member. To remember to keep the focus on ourselves, and not others.
And sometimes I just do this- for its own sake.
...
DavidG you always make me think and smile!!
are, for me, such a good way for us all
Had to look up what an "agony aunt" was, kind of a British version of Dear Abby in the States.
I guess it depends on the circumstances and who is posting, especially if it is a "newbie" then the
focus is entirely on them, like you said in a meeting when there is a newcomer, everyone wants to
make the newcomer welcome. The "agony aunt" posts
the discuss what is on our minds and learn from each other. Al-Anon is so cool. Thanks for the
share DavidG.
-- Edited by Debb on Monday 15th of February 2021 01:58:34 PM
David
I believe we are in a new wave of recovery for those of us dealimg with these #trauma# issues.
People are looking at issues to do an attachment disorder where over 75% of people who come from an abusive background have an attachment disorder. That is they are either disorganized and/or insecure attachment. That could be said to be #preoccupied# Preoccupied attachment have a hard time letting go of #hurts# They are #preoccupied,# in the relationship and generally caught up in the fight/flight mode. According to the stastistics they remain in the fight flight mode in relationship. They do not graduate from there
A certain percentage of survivors have a #distant#attachment mode. They are removed, afraid of relationship anf recalcitrant
A very small percentage of survivors have a#secure# form of attachment. They have #balance# in their lives. They neither hate nor are they enmeshed in the relationships.
Needless to say the issue of complex ptsd is a very difficult one.. Managing complex ptsd is a really difficult task. First some survivors have disassociative features that are particularly overwhelming. So of course are the plethora of #triggers' that seem to have lifelong implications ...
While both the attachment and complex ptsd issues are intimidating fior me having the vocabulary to describe what I am dealing with is invaluable.
Maresie
.