Currently my expenses are more than my income. I.have had an unexpected medical expense that is pretty big. Staging it out is really scary.
As a child most of my needs were not met. As an adult I.have been around people who are notoriously selfish. I learned to.ignore and squash my needs around them
This last run in I had around the former roommate brought that home. He is incredibly selfish, belligerent and demanding. To.think I have been trying to relate to him for years is reallynvery very sad
He has no concept any one else has needs. His needs are paramount. I am in the process of moving to another place. Thank goodness I am taking it in stages.
There are lots of bumps in the road.
It is so easy for people to say #move# drop this person. So very few of us can up and move in a heart beat. The same goes for letting go of people. There are certain relationshios you have to slip out of. The carnage is too much otherwise.
I am real real tired of the knock down drag out fights. Ultimatums. It is so far from the way I live now. So when it comes up I can really red flag it. When you are eating drinking avd sleeping it that is another matter
My manager is mad at me right now. So what it is not gonna kil me. I will wait it out. I am so incredibly bored by people who have to make every occasion a stand off. Mature adults do not behave that way. The qualifier had a crisis every day. He went from being people's best buddies to sworn enemies all the time
I work around people who make everyone around them miserable and other people dont know it. They are like poison in the water.
I am so grateful to be able to pick them out now and set huge boundaries.
Every day with someone like that is pure purgatory. Every day I stayed with the former roommate was a horror show. He was deliberately obnoxious, deliberately selfish and deliberately punitive. That saga is incredibly draining
Maresie
-- Edited by Maresie888 on Thursday 14th of January 2021 08:56:08 PM
Debb said
Jan 15, 2021
Sorry Mary that you are having to deal with such difficult issues.
I was just thinking this morning, that I feel like I live with a grumpy,
out of control, miserable human being (that reminds of a troll) and
without Al-Anon and this board I would be seriously unhappy. So
I am going to be grateful and take one-day-at-a-time! {{HUGS}}
SunnyFrogs said
Jan 15, 2021
Yeah, I'm sorry you have been going through such difficult issues too Mary.
There's many awful people in the world and it seems like I have always been a magnet for them. Hopefully with time that will change. I know I can't completely rid myself or my life with those types of people but only learn to manage how I deal with them.
My goal is to surround myself with a small circle of healthy, supportive and kind people. I am not sure how to do that right now with a pandemic but I am grateful to have this virtual circle.
Maresie888 said
Jan 15, 2021
Well I have to.deal with the former roommate very rarely
I work pretty hsrd to get clear. My focus day in day out on boundaries os essential
I am so happy to be making progress
I.knew when I got this nedical issue it would ge expensive
Now I just have to find ways to pay for it
My life is so much less comolicared than it was before
I am glad to be making progress. I have goals. Goals were elusive to me before
Maresie
SunnyFrogs said
Jan 15, 2021
I'm so glad you're making progress and your life is less complicated than it was before.
Thanks for sharing. Especially mentioning goals as now it has me pondering exactly what goals I need to set for myself.
Currently my expenses are more than my income. I.have had an unexpected medical expense that is pretty big. Staging it out is really scary.
As a child most of my needs were not met. As an adult I.have been around people who are notoriously selfish. I learned to.ignore and squash my needs around them
This last run in I had around the former roommate brought that home. He is incredibly selfish, belligerent and demanding. To.think I have been trying to relate to him for years is reallynvery very sad
He has no concept any one else has needs. His needs are paramount. I am in the process of moving to another place. Thank goodness I am taking it in stages.
There are lots of bumps in the road.
It is so easy for people to say #move# drop this person. So very few of us can up and move in a heart beat. The same goes for letting go of people. There are certain relationshios you have to slip out of. The carnage is too much otherwise.
I am real real tired of the knock down drag out fights. Ultimatums. It is so far from the way I live now. So when it comes up I can really red flag it. When you are eating drinking avd sleeping it that is another matter
My manager is mad at me right now. So what it is not gonna kil me. I will wait it out. I am so incredibly bored by people who have to make every occasion a stand off. Mature adults do not behave that way. The qualifier had a crisis every day. He went from being people's best buddies to sworn enemies all the time
I work around people who make everyone around them miserable and other people dont know it. They are like poison in the water.
I am so grateful to be able to pick them out now and set huge boundaries.
Every day with someone like that is pure purgatory. Every day I stayed with the former roommate was a horror show. He was deliberately obnoxious, deliberately selfish and deliberately punitive. That saga is incredibly draining
Maresie
-- Edited by Maresie888 on Thursday 14th of January 2021 08:56:08 PM
I was just thinking this morning, that I feel like I live with a grumpy,
out of control, miserable human being (that reminds of a troll) and
without Al-Anon and this board I would be seriously unhappy. So
I am going to be grateful and take one-day-at-a-time! {{HUGS}}
There's many awful people in the world and it seems like I have always been a magnet for them. Hopefully with time that will change. I know I can't completely rid myself or my life with those types of people but only learn to manage how I deal with them.
My goal is to surround myself with a small circle of healthy, supportive and kind people. I am not sure how to do that right now with a pandemic but I am grateful to have this virtual circle.
Well I have to.deal with the former roommate very rarely
I work pretty hsrd to get clear. My focus day in day out on boundaries os essential
I am so happy to be making progress
I.knew when I got this nedical issue it would ge expensive
Now I just have to find ways to pay for it
My life is so much less comolicared than it was before
I am glad to be making progress. I have goals. Goals were elusive to me before
Maresie
Thanks for sharing. Especially mentioning goals as now it has me pondering exactly what goals I need to set for myself.
Sunnyfrogs .
Some of my goals are really small
Staying calm being one of them lol!
Maresie