... At our local supermarket there is a young woman of 22. My nephew's kid. 10 years ago our mother died- her grandmother... on the same night her dad died as well.
They lived in the neighbourhood. After mum died I heard the news about D. and went around there. I stood with this kid- as she was then- and put my arm around her shoulders as they bought her dad out of the house.
I have another nephew, in the city- who is in similar straits. His partner is just as bad.
Went to a hearing yesterday- where their two little boys are going into care.
I sat beside his mother- and was able to see clearly the family dynamic. Exactly the same dynamic I had come through.
On reading in C2C talks about- awareness, acceptance, action.
My nephew came in late- and his partner was there... she was in a bad way. She is going to rehab for 4 months- just as soon as she gets a place. Not a bad move.
But G. was clean. He was clear and direct. He graciously thanked those who has cared for the boys so far. I sensed in the room that daggers were pointed towards him. By the officials, his mother, and his partner's mother too.
He showed a great heap of courage in the face of great adversity.
Sitting beside his mother- I could see the great streak of abandonment culture that ran through our family. I saw the whites of it's eyes! ...
Hmmm... so the younger couple get to have another day. Another chance.
I had fostered the boy, one time, as he was growing up.
I could see how the way the officials operated had changed over time. The focus was different.
60 years ago kids were shoved into great child processing factories. Chances were not good...
...I am so glad that I am doing the family programme here.
It does become much simpler to understand, and easy to follow, as time goes on.
I focus on our common family member who came out of the navy, at the age of 19, after four years of service. A complete train wreck.
And about how the impact has resonated down through each generation.
There is no blame or shame here- just what is.
And all we can do- is to do what we can now.
One day at a time... ...
Thanks for the share.
Lyne said
Jul 24, 2020
Hey David, recovery is not for sissies! Love the 3 A's, and the 3 C's. Keep on keeping on.
They lived in the neighbourhood. After mum died I heard the news about D. and went around there. I stood with this kid- as she was then- and put my arm around her shoulders as they bought her dad out of the house.
I have another nephew, in the city- who is in similar straits. His partner is just as bad.
Went to a hearing yesterday- where their two little boys are going into care.
I sat beside his mother- and was able to see clearly the family dynamic. Exactly the same dynamic I had come through.
On reading in C2C talks about- awareness, acceptance, action.
My nephew came in late- and his partner was there... she was in a bad way. She is going to rehab for 4 months- just as soon as she gets a place. Not a bad move.
But G. was clean. He was clear and direct. He graciously thanked those who has cared for the boys so far. I sensed in the room that daggers were pointed towards him. By the officials, his mother, and his partner's mother too.
He showed a great heap of courage in the face of great adversity.
Sitting beside his mother- I could see the great streak of abandonment culture that ran through our family. I saw the whites of it's eyes!
...
Hmmm... so the younger couple get to have another day. Another chance.
I had fostered the boy, one time, as he was growing up.
I could see how the way the officials operated had changed over time. The focus was different.
60 years ago kids were shoved into great child processing factories. Chances were not good...
...I am so glad that I am doing the family programme here.
It does become much simpler to understand, and easy to follow, as time goes on.
I focus on our common family member who came out of the navy, at the age of 19, after four years of service. A complete train wreck.
And about how the impact has resonated down through each generation.
There is no blame or shame here- just what is.
And all we can do- is to do what we can now.
One day at a time...
...
Thanks for the share.