It was the ladies of Al-Anon that gave my Mom the son she always wanted. Though my life with my Mom wasn't the best I could hope for and because of that I grew resentments larger than life, finding and getting into Al-Anon by the love of my Higher Power and the energies of the addicted women I use to try to change and the alcoholic/addict I married while practicing a higher form of people pleasing and power and control. For 9 years I was re-grown and re-taught by these awesome creatures who at times offered me the exit door to our rooms and as I reached for the door knob said, "And Keep Coming Back!!"
I Truly love you all for saving my peace of mind and sanity and allowing me to rebuild my spirit into daily recovery. Please keep coming back and allowing me to haunt your recovery. LOL ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))
-- Edited by JerryF on Sunday 10th of May 2020 12:14:19 PM
Freetime said
May 10, 2020
Thank you, Jerry, and a happy day to you too!
a4l said
May 10, 2020
I was lovingly mothered in these rooms too Jerry F. (((((Alanon mothers)))).
Lyne said
May 10, 2020
Thanks all for these posts. I sadly miss Betty, the best mom-person I ever had. But more grateful than sad. What she gave me will stay with me for the rest of my life. My own mom tried, but didnt have the skills or tools. God bless Betty. Lyne
JerryF said
May 10, 2020
For certain Lyne...Betty knew how to mentor the family and I think of her every day. (((hugs)))
mamalioness said
May 11, 2020
Lyne wrote:
Thanks all for these posts. I sadly miss Betty, the best mom-person I ever had. But more grateful than sad. What she gave me will stay with me for the rest of my life. My own mom tried, but didnt have the skills or tools. God bless Betty. Lyne
OMG...I feel the same way...Betty "Mom'd" me as well...I miss her terribly....and I will never forget her and will love her till I die......I am so grateful for her
and Jerry, thank YOU for being part of my journey.....My mother was an alcoholic, she "ran" from the freak with 80 proof and got hooked...I can forgive her now and I do remember, after my breakdown, her taking care of me and loving me and the last 2 years of her life were the best I ever had with her......I finally had my mom, if only for a short time, I had a MOM.....Happy mother's day, MOM...
and happy mom's day to all the mom's here on this board....
tiredtonite said
May 11, 2020
Very nice share ((Jerry))) Glad you're here with us. TT
PosiesandPuppies said
May 11, 2020
Thank you Jerry! Wonderful share.
JerryF said
May 11, 2020
It is so often the female, the spouse and wife who are named the enabler and the co-dependent and such and I didn't understand the term or the behavior when I first arrived. It was after long while as I listened and watched and then experienced in my own recovery that often those terms were interchangeable with being supported and loved unconditionally. That was what was being used to being brought along in the program I didn't know or understand and often didn't hardly care. My first sponsor was female in spite of the guideline, "Men on men, Women on women" and thankfully she fired me because I was behaving to my attitudes. What was I looking for? I have no idea; just a fixit that I didn't earn with spotlight and loud organ music. She fired me because she knew in spite of me that it was the very best that my HP wanted for HIS Jerry F.
I remember one night after a meeting talking to her from a payphone complaining that I was depressed and seeking suicide and that a bus was coming and all I had to do was step out in front of it and "it" would all be over. "Well I guess if I don't see you at our next meeting the bus solution worked", she replied. DONE!! It worked and I went home to bed. That was 40 odd (yeppers) years ago. Thank you HP for the wahines, the women of my program and give me the determination and grace to return the blessings. (((((MIP)))))
It was the ladies of Al-Anon that gave my Mom the son she always wanted. Though my life with my Mom wasn't the best I could hope for and because of that I grew resentments larger than life, finding and getting into Al-Anon by the love of my Higher Power and the energies of the addicted women I use to try to change and the alcoholic/addict I married while practicing a higher form of people pleasing and power and control. For 9 years I was re-grown and re-taught by these awesome creatures who at times offered me the exit door to our rooms and as I reached for the door knob said, "And Keep Coming Back!!"
I Truly love you all for saving my peace of mind and sanity and allowing me to rebuild my spirit into daily recovery. Please keep coming back and allowing me to haunt your recovery. LOL ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))
-- Edited by JerryF on Sunday 10th of May 2020 12:14:19 PM
Thank you, Jerry, and a happy day to you too!
For certain Lyne...Betty knew how to mentor the family and I think of her every day. (((hugs)))
OMG...I feel the same way...Betty "Mom'd" me as well...I miss her terribly....and I will never forget her and will love her till I die......I am so grateful for her
and Jerry, thank YOU for being part of my journey.....My mother was an alcoholic, she "ran" from the freak with 80 proof and got hooked...I can forgive her now and I do remember, after my breakdown, her taking care of me and loving me and the last 2 years of her life were the best I ever had with her......I finally had my mom, if only for a short time, I had a MOM.....Happy mother's day, MOM...
and happy mom's day to all the mom's here on this board....
It is so often the female, the spouse and wife who are named the enabler and the co-dependent and such and I didn't understand the term or the behavior when I first arrived. It was after long while as I listened and watched and then experienced in my own recovery that often those terms were interchangeable with being supported and loved unconditionally. That was what was being used to being brought along in the program I didn't know or understand and often didn't hardly care. My first sponsor was female in spite of the guideline, "Men on men, Women on women" and thankfully she fired me because I was behaving to my attitudes. What was I looking for? I have no idea; just a fixit that I didn't earn with spotlight and loud organ music. She fired me because she knew in spite of me that it was the very best that my HP wanted for HIS Jerry F.
I remember one night after a meeting talking to her from a payphone complaining that I was depressed and seeking suicide and that a bus was coming and all I had to do was step out in front of it and "it" would all be over. "Well I guess if I don't see you at our next meeting the bus solution worked", she replied. DONE!! It worked and I went home to bed. That was 40 odd (yeppers) years ago. Thank you HP for the wahines, the women of my program and give me the determination and grace to return the blessings. (((((MIP)))))
