he Courage to Change reading for today, 1-21 addresses the necessity of taking care of ourselves even if we are busy caring for others, it points out that we cannot abandon our needs and must focus on our feelings and life
The reading suggests that we take time to listen to our body,mind and soul as we move through the day, remembering that HP is within and is available to us when we pay attention to. our needs we have a better chance of helping others
we must remember that we no longer have to sacrifice our health or needs when we are nurushinh others we can practice being aware of at our inner voice as it is attempting to communicate we can listen and learn
for me this is a difficult c concept to embrace, as my old caretaking tools are automatic and seem to pop up often. I tell myself progress not perfection when I find myself reacting with my former tools
i took this from Debbs post as it seems to reinforce the reading
This is from debbs recent post
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Debb said
Jan 21, 2020
Betty, thank you so much for your service and C2C reading today.
I have reached that point in my life (retirement) where I can actually and really spend time on myself.
If we do not take care of ourselves then we cannot be available in the NOW and I found that if I was not well because I did not take care of myself, that ill state actually prevented me from HP's guidance.
Blessings Betty!
Lyne said
Jan 21, 2020
Thanks Betty for your service. Ignoring my needs was the only way I knew. And I realize in doing so its a complete lack of self-respect and harm to oneself. With program by my side, I have learned to listen to what I need, and even though my A resents it, my self-esteem has improved greatly. Ive resigned from the doormat club, and take care of both my mental and physical health, the best I can. Grateful member, Lyne
Iamhere said
Jan 21, 2020
Good morning MIP family! Thanks to all for your ESH and shares and thank you Betty for your service and the daily! So many concepts in recovery truly are logical and sensible - yet here I am! I too put everyone and everything else in front of me for years - not even aware of how neglectful I was towards me. I am grateful to practice self-care, one day at a time, one step at a time, bit by bit each day!
I started feeling 'a cold' coming on yesterday. With all the germs floating around, it's no wonder. I don't feel super bad (yet), but I don't feel good either. I know today that I can take a break in my day, take a nap in my day, cancel plans or whatever to take care of me. I have some important things to do today, and if I feel up to it - I will. If I don't, I'll ask for help (another suggestion in recovery that I struggled with for years).
I am grateful today to know in my head and heart that I matter, I am important and I deserve care, respect and love. Who better to serve me than me? I know deep down that the God of my understanding wants me happy, joyous and free - and gives me the tools and people to make that happen. I am truly never alone nor lonely, as I have full trust in my HP!
Happy Tuesday folks - more weather heading our way this week - winter is certainly here now!! (((Hugs)))
PosiesandPuppies said
Jan 21, 2020
Thank you Betty, for your service and the daily!
Lyne, you said something powerful to me... "And I realize in doing so it's a complete lack of self-respect and harm to oneself." How true a statement!! I never realized that all my "fixing" and "managing" behaviors were a "Diss" to me!!
I was so concerned about the welfare of others, and also how to keep the family out of hot water, that I didn't even think about myself!
Today I definitely try and lead a more balanced life! Keeping to my side of the street, helps keep me centered.
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DavidG said
Jan 21, 2020
Thanks Betty. we had chores that we all took turns at- dishes, collecting the coal, and chopping the kindling.
Beyond that I picked up pruning. gathered the windfall apples, and collected and cut firewood for the family. I don't recall anyone mentioning this, let alone thanking me for my efforts.
Maybe i tried harder- in the home i might get a pat on the head- one day? So this is how my character and personality was formed. When I was 12 I got some paid weekend work- which taught me stamina and pride. And I could start to buy things for myself- an ease on the family finances.
I know I tried far too hard to gain acceptance- burned out. Crashed and burned, even. I know now that my higher power was with me all the way. That I was acknowledged with unconditional love. That I was doing the right thing, at the time. For those times...
I can ease up and rest now. I will be 69 years old, on Friday. I still need regular exercise and activity, including writing. I can live now, and not have to bust my boiler!
he Courage to Change reading for today, 1-21 addresses the necessity of taking care of ourselves even if we are busy caring for others, it points out that we cannot abandon our needs and must focus on our feelings and life
The reading suggests that we take time to listen to our body,mind and soul as we move through the day, remembering that HP is within and is available to us when we pay attention to. our needs we have a better chance of helping others
we must remember that we no longer have to sacrifice our health or needs when we are nurushinh others we can practice being aware of at our inner voice as it is attempting to communicate we can listen and learn
for me this is a difficult c concept to embrace, as my old caretaking tools are automatic and seem to pop up often. I tell myself progress not perfection when I find myself reacting with my former tools
i took this from Debbs post as it seems to reinforce the reading
This is from debbs recent post
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I have reached that point in my life (retirement) where I can actually and really spend time on myself.
If we do not take care of ourselves then we cannot be available in the NOW and I found that if I was not well because I did not take care of myself, that ill state actually prevented me from HP's guidance.
Blessings Betty!
I started feeling 'a cold' coming on yesterday. With all the germs floating around, it's no wonder. I don't feel super bad (yet), but I don't feel good either. I know today that I can take a break in my day, take a nap in my day, cancel plans or whatever to take care of me. I have some important things to do today, and if I feel up to it - I will. If I don't, I'll ask for help (another suggestion in recovery that I struggled with for years).
I am grateful today to know in my head and heart that I matter, I am important and I deserve care, respect and love. Who better to serve me than me? I know deep down that the God of my understanding wants me happy, joyous and free - and gives me the tools and people to make that happen. I am truly never alone nor lonely, as I have full trust in my HP!
Happy Tuesday folks - more weather heading our way this week - winter is certainly here now!! (((Hugs)))
Thank you Betty, for your service and the daily!
Lyne, you said something powerful to me... "And I realize in doing so it's a complete lack of self-respect and harm to oneself." How true a statement!! I never realized that all my "fixing" and "managing" behaviors were a "Diss" to me!!
I was so concerned about the welfare of others, and also how to keep the family out of hot water, that I didn't even think about myself!
Today I definitely try and lead a more balanced life! Keeping to my side of the street, helps keep me centered.
Thanks Betty. we had chores that we all took turns at- dishes, collecting the coal, and chopping the kindling.
Beyond that I picked up pruning. gathered the windfall apples, and collected and cut firewood for the family. I don't recall anyone mentioning this, let alone thanking me for my efforts.
Maybe i tried harder- in the home i might get a pat on the head- one day? So this is how my character and personality was formed. When I was 12 I got some paid weekend work- which taught me stamina and pride. And I could start to buy things for myself- an ease on the family finances.
I know I tried far too hard to gain acceptance- burned out. Crashed and burned, even. I know now that my higher power was with me all the way. That I was acknowledged with unconditional love. That I was doing the right thing, at the time. For those times...
I can ease up and rest now. I will be 69 years old, on Friday. I still need regular exercise and activity, including writing. I can live now, and not have to bust my boiler!