A lot of people are wary of facebook- but, in the right hands it can maintain connections.

Late last year i reported a young family member to the welfare, here in NZ. There were other family members lobbying them too.

Two boys age 4 and 6 were living in a home where meth was being used. The authorities uplifted them before Christmas.

This week it was decided that they could visit one grandmaw for most of  the day on Tuesdays and Fridays. First visit that had two grandmas, their mum, older sister and grandpa all together- opening the Christmas pressies.

A good outcome so far... and pleased I made that call. Phew!

     It helps having some support- in the loop- and sometimes it makes all the difference!

  I have found that expressing gratitude is healing. I rang up the welfare authorities to thank them...

  ...and to their case worker, in particular... who was on leave. There was just so much crap going down in that family... for generations, Awful horrible stuff... it was a relief to know that some good stuff had been done. That kids were not ripped out of the arms of their mothers- for nothing... but that solutions were available, too.

Also finding a source of help for myself too... along the way, with my peers...  thanks so much...  ...

      Thanks P. I was so very resistant to narcing... I was the oldest of five kids and second oldest of 11 cousins... and we dealt with stuff ourselves. Never referred back to parents. That is the two oldest cousins. The younger kids were chronic narcs!

As I was expressing my thanks to welfare I had tears pouring out of my eyes... tears of gratitude. I was on the phone- but I am sure they could tell!