The reading for Monday, 11/25, talks about the writers reluctance to get fully involved with alanon. The writer grew very slowly until a crisis hit, and then was able to take full advantage of all alanon has to offer. They saw there were strengths and skills to be had, and then alanon became a top priority.
Reminder: Sometimes the greatest growth comes through pain, but its not the pain that helps me grow, its my response to it. Will I suffer through the experience and continue as before or let the pain inspire changes that help me grow? The choice is mine.
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Well this reading describes me very well. For several years I came to the board several times a year. I had no clue about the opportunity that was before me, and I never planned to go to F2F meetings, nor get a sponsor. And then after years of suffering, I couldnt take it anymore. I got a sponsor, began F2F meetings, and over time my life became one that I could embrace and enjoy. Alanon is a daily priority for me, and will be for the foreseeable future. Lyne
PosiesandPuppies said
Nov 25, 2019
Thank you Lyne for today's daily.
I slowly dropped my participation in Al-Anon quite some time after my spouse had returned from rehab the first time(about a year). I had thought the crisis was over, and I didn't have to Fear anymore. I did not try and learn all there was to learn about addiction... and to be fair, there is much more scientific evidence etc, now. Leaving Al-Anon helped me to fall back into my "enabler" pattern - I have that word in quotes, b/c I certainly never wanted to be an enabler, nor did I have classic signs of enabling... but in the end, that it what it was.
Today I know that working this program benefits me in more ways than dealing with an addicted person! So I stay. I keep learning and growing!
Namaste!
-- Edited by PosiesandPuppies on Monday 25th of November 2019 10:11:34 AM
Iamhere said
Nov 25, 2019
Thanks Lyne for your service and the daily! Thanks to you and PnP for your ESH and shares. I went to one Al-Anon meeting and then stepped away as I didn't want to admit I was part of the problem and I certainly didn't want to change me...I was in denial big time about how the disease was affecting me, my attitudes, actions, emotions, etc.
As the reading suggests, the disease progressed and so did my pain, anxiety and insanity. I felt I had no place else to go, and opted to embrace it as best I could. I've not regretted that action, nor the willingness that came over me - as a result of extreme pain/despair.
We often talk about how growth comes from painful life events. It's not that anyone wants the pain, but for many of us, it takes a 'whack upside the head' figuratively to find courage and willingness to make change(s). Happy Monday all - had a lovely golf outing and then taco night with the gal pals! I love how much I love Mondays - esp. since they once were my least favorite day of the week ... the 'back to work' day after the weekend. Find and keep your joy MIP family - works when we work it!
The reading for Monday, 11/25, talks about the writers reluctance to get fully involved with alanon. The writer grew very slowly until a crisis hit, and then was able to take full advantage of all alanon has to offer. They saw there were strengths and skills to be had, and then alanon became a top priority.
Reminder: Sometimes the greatest growth comes through pain, but its not the pain that helps me grow, its my response to it. Will I suffer through the experience and continue as before or let the pain inspire changes that help me grow? The choice is mine.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Well this reading describes me very well. For several years I came to the board several times a year. I had no clue about the opportunity that was before me, and I never planned to go to F2F meetings, nor get a sponsor. And then after years of suffering, I couldnt take it anymore. I got a sponsor, began F2F meetings, and over time my life became one that I could embrace and enjoy. Alanon is a daily priority for me, and will be for the foreseeable future. Lyne
Thank you Lyne for today's daily.
I slowly dropped my participation in Al-Anon quite some time after my spouse had returned from rehab the first time(about a year). I had thought the crisis was over, and I didn't have to Fear anymore. I did not try and learn all there was to learn about addiction... and to be fair, there is much more scientific evidence etc, now. Leaving Al-Anon helped me to fall back into my "enabler" pattern - I have that word in quotes, b/c I certainly never wanted to be an enabler, nor did I have classic signs of enabling... but in the end, that it what it was.
Today I know that working this program benefits me in more ways than dealing with an addicted person! So I stay. I keep learning and growing!
Namaste!
-- Edited by PosiesandPuppies on Monday 25th of November 2019 10:11:34 AM
As the reading suggests, the disease progressed and so did my pain, anxiety and insanity. I felt I had no place else to go, and opted to embrace it as best I could. I've not regretted that action, nor the willingness that came over me - as a result of extreme pain/despair.
We often talk about how growth comes from painful life events. It's not that anyone wants the pain, but for many of us, it takes a 'whack upside the head' figuratively to find courage and willingness to make change(s). Happy Monday all - had a lovely golf outing and then taco night with the gal pals! I love how much I love Mondays - esp. since they once were my least favorite day of the week ... the 'back to work' day after the weekend. Find and keep your joy MIP family - works when we work it!