Im new here but have been dealing with an alcoholic husband to long. As is often the case I find myself having to support our family with one income instead of the two we used to have. I cant afford our house and need to sell desperately. However my husband pretty much spends all his time laying on the couch or bed. Impossible to list a house and show it. Anyone had to deal with something similar? also does anyone have experience with the process of sectioning?
Thank you for any info you can provide
Freetime said
Oct 20, 2019
Hi Chocolatelover (and I really relate to your name!!), I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I don't have experience with selling a house under these conditions, but I do understand what it's like to feel trapped with an alcoholic in the home.
I hope someone here may respond with their experience, and I would also encourage you to seek out face-to-face Al-Anon meetings if you possibly can. When I started going to meetings, I met people who had figured out solutions that I had never thought of, that were relevant to my situation. At the very least, you may hear suggestions on how to maintain some level of serenity day by day until a more long-term solution is revealed.
You are not alone.
Chocolatelover said
Oct 20, 2019
Thank you for your reply. Perusing This website actually encouraged me to go to meetings. I went to one meeting years ago and found it very depressing but I see from peoples comments on here how it helps them whether or not they are staying with their A.
Does anyone know whether children can come along? Im talking about a 4 year old and I have no daycare options.
JerryF said
Oct 20, 2019
Chocolate lover find a meeting or several and ask them before hand how they would accept a 4 year old in the room...take books and color crayons and coloring pages and see if they have a separate table your child can work at. One of the guys that use to attend a previous meeting had two children who came with him and he was told as long as he kept the children from disturbing the fellowship he and they were welcomed. He did and they did what was necessary and not both or all of them have had very positive consequences as a result. You won't know if you don't try. Your child is too young for Alateen and you don't say that your meeting has child care. Go ask and see what comes up. Good luck. Hope you find satisfaction. ((((Hugs))))
Iamhere said
Oct 21, 2019
Welcome to MIP chocolatelover. I have no experience to share with trying to sell a home during active alcoholism, but do agree that meetings are certainly helpful, for me. Love what Jerry shared above, and matches my experience in my town/area. We did have a couple of meetings that offered childcare too so you never know until you ask!
Please keep coming back - you are not alone and there is hope and help in recovery!
Chocolatelover said
Oct 22, 2019
Thank you. I did find one meeting in my town. However there is no contact info so I might just have to go and see what the situation is. Thank you all for the kind words.
Hello,
Im new here but have been dealing with an alcoholic husband to long. As is often the case I find myself having to support our family with one income instead of the two we used to have. I cant afford our house and need to sell desperately. However my husband pretty much spends all his time laying on the couch or bed. Impossible to list a house and show it. Anyone had to deal with something similar?
also does anyone have experience with the process of sectioning?
Thank you for any info you can provide
I hope someone here may respond with their experience, and I would also encourage you to seek out face-to-face Al-Anon meetings if you possibly can. When I started going to meetings, I met people who had figured out solutions that I had never thought of, that were relevant to my situation. At the very least, you may hear suggestions on how to maintain some level of serenity day by day until a more long-term solution is revealed.
You are not alone.
Chocolate lover find a meeting or several and ask them before hand how they would accept a 4 year old in the room...take books and color crayons and coloring pages and see if they have a separate table your child can work at. One of the guys that use to attend a previous meeting had two children who came with him and he was told as long as he kept the children from disturbing the fellowship he and they were welcomed. He did and they did what was necessary and not both or all of them have had very positive consequences as a result. You won't know if you don't try. Your child is too young for Alateen and you don't say that your meeting has child care. Go ask and see what comes up. Good luck. Hope you find satisfaction. ((((Hugs))))
Please keep coming back - you are not alone and there is hope and help in recovery!