(S) you got it

sending prayers for all involved

Prayers for your friend

I will add your friend and her kid to my list.

It is my personal opinion that it is the hardest to detach and "Let Go" when the affected is the child. As parent's we spend a good portion of our lives nurturing and caring for our offspring, both hoping for, and dreading the day that they flex their wings and fly forth into the world. It is a challenge in the best of circumstances to adjust our thinking and behaviors to allow our kids the gift of being their own person. Throw in addiction and a active program is definitely needed - I am happy to hear that she attends Al-Anon.

Quick update .. intervention failed which doesn't surprise me .. friends idea not AC.

It's really bad because AC is showing signs of prolonged meth use and I'm hoping that my friend heads to a meeting.

This is just such a sad and awful situation, I pray her AC gets the help she needs.

Hugs and thank you,

S :(

PNP .. I totally agree it's always different when it's your kid .. it's hard watching the heart outside your body treat themselves with so little care and not have the ability to take the pain away. I only know my limited experience of what I went through with my oldest and it was enough to know it's not a repeat performance I would wish on anyone. My friends health has deteriorated because they are so worried about AC they are neglecting themselves and it's awful to witness. It was a health scare that has really jarred them and the letting go has been a 4 year process. My heart just aches because it really is just so different. My X I could divorce and just leave him to deal with his own consequences .. my kid/s not that simple and cut dry.

The AC in this situation is hallucinating and all kinds of crazy, they have deemed themselves royalty who can do whatever they want in their kingdom. It's really bad. I have read some stories about this kind of poisoning, however to know someone who is going through it .. totally heart breaking.

Hugs ..

IAM, .. I wish she would go to an alanon meeting we text today and she's in so much pain :( This has been a lesson for me as well .. how to keep my big mouth shut. I'm really having a difficult time at the moment just trying not to add my 2 cents and she so doesn't need that from me let alone anyone else. Got me to thinking about the kids and their dad .. ugh .. I'm going to have to change the things I can and trust my kid/s know when enough is enough.

Hugs S :)

You're a good friend S and not advising, judging, distancing, etc. will be very helpful to her as she processes. I can tell you that I literally tried everything/anything humanly possible before I admitted complete defeat and surrendered....it was a process, a journey and no suggestions from others really helped because I just kept thinking I could change things/them/disease....it's very hard to describe the lengths a parent goes through in their heart and mind when a child is addicted, in my experience, it was so much harder to accept than my AH or other's I love.

My best suggestions for you are to just keep showing up and 'act as if' she's already in recovery (early). Remind her one day at a time, just breathe, self-care, etc. I remember the first time I called the police and jail was the result. I felt like a horrible mother, horrible person, the root of all evil, etc. Several years later, I found myself extremely grateful and @ peace with the jail stays as I knew where they were and that they were safe. If possible, do remind her that an active user will NOT see 'his mother' if rage arrives. One of mine came at me and I could literally see the crazy in the eyes. I was so very grateful to have had experience as a drug user and exposure to the disease when that happened - one who did not would try to reason with the child and the outcome is a huge unknown.

As far as the Intervention goes, even when one declines help, I try not to see it as a failure. The seeds are planted and often boundaries are formally shared. Prayers will continue here for all.....if she's not willing/able to accept an Al-Anon meeting, perhaps there are other support groups for parents of addicts that might be a better fit. I have a cousin who could not relate to Al-Anon but did find help/support in another group here. Just offering that as another option/idea. (((Hugs)))

I can say a prayer for your friend.

SRU-Sending a prayer for you, Lyne Hugs also, and the reminder that we are powerless over others.

Saying a prayer for your friend! It's so hard to watch those around us struggle with their loved ones and the affects of the disease.