I feel a little bit of grief but not a lot. I guess his being in AA is not as effective as maybe another death might be more painful. I know that this person was trying to stay as healthy as possible. He was taking walks daily for quite awhile & just had a heart attack while he was walking. He died a week ago. IF I had known that I wasn't going to see him, I would've been more vocal on Thursday. But no one knows when it is going to happen. His best friend made his wife a widow twice over then in the in the past 10 years. I feel especially sorry for his widow. I have yet to talk to her. The service is a week from tomorrow(Saturday) I will pay my respects then. It is actually the same church as my friend's funeral--his friend. Anyhow, I will check my emotions at the door & remember the program affects us all no matter which one it is.

Good day for the rest of you! No complacency here. I got over the jitters. I guess that sometimes goes w/ turning it over.

   Kathleen... taking timeout to remember, is healthy... to mark the passing. I grew up in a no-cry, no-tears culture. And no kids too. So we did not see or hear grieving. We honour the person who has left us; we sometimes close ranks, and spread the load of grief. This is real life. This is love, in the broad sense. And this is healthy!  ...