the ODAT reading for Tuesday 8-13 speaks about dwelling on the past. It suggests that by so doing, we are thereby reopening old wounds.
The reading challenges us to slowly examine all that is troubling us today to determine if they have any true validity and suggests using alanon tools to help us let go of past hurts and to guard our mind from dredging up old hurts to dwell on. great reminder
SunnyFrogs said
Aug 13, 2019
Yep,definitely a great reminder for sure.
Lyne said
Aug 13, 2019
Thanks Betty for your service. In the past i could ruminate for hours, days, weeks, or months, about past events that I felt i or others ruined. I was always a victim, had unending pity parties, and could make myself truly miserable. Thats all I knew and/or felt I deserved. NO MORE! Im on a new path of enlightenment thanks to our program. I can make the best of each day even when awful things are happening. Its a lot of work to change life-long misery into serenity, but with patience and practice I am getting there, Lyne
PosiesandPuppies said
Aug 13, 2019
This was perfect for me today (funny how that happens)!
Tomorrow will be the 1 year anniversary of my divorce. Each time I look towards the past, I am reminded of how sad this all was. How much I lost. The expectations I had and lost. It is exactly "reopening old wounds." I will be utilizing my toolbox this week as I move past this date... I am truly happier, so I shouldn't allow these old wounds to get me down! ODAT!
Iamhere said
Aug 13, 2019
(((PnP))) - prayers for a positive, fun day for tomorrow! Anniversaries of life events can really be difficult - same as each day, put you first! My experience has been that as I've worked my recovery to heal/change me, many of those negative, sad memories have been replaced with positive ones. My mind today goes back to pleasant events vs. unpleasant more often than not, and that's a huge gift of working this program as best I can.
Betty - thank you for the daily and your service. I too could get and stay stuck in past events and boy --- what a miserable way to live/be. Today, I am willing to do whatever it takes to lean into my recovery vs. 'that' simply because I prefer joy over the opposite. I believe that sadness is a healthy emotion, when it's real/relevant. Sadness over the past is no longer worthy of space in my brain, simply because there is nothing I can do to change the past.
Thank you all for your shares and ESH! My best days are when I can stay lined up with my HP, my recovery and stay present in the here/now! I've already golfed and we're having another heat wave....glad to be out of the heat/Sun! Enjoy your Tuesday all - (((Hugs))).
bud said
Aug 13, 2019
Thank you for your service Betty!
I had just posted regarding this great topic... I'm in the process of "unsticking" myself from words from a sick person's viewpoint. I'm turning the focus back on myself and handing things to my HP several times during the day. I remind myself that I can only control me and what's on my side of the street.
In the past, I'd grieve losses that I didn't know I'd be able to overcome. Today, those losses were also blessings.
My current loss may be a blessing too. I am learning and grateful for growing pains as I feel that I'm heading in a better direction even though I don't have a handle on what this direction will be.
the ODAT reading for Tuesday 8-13 speaks about dwelling on the past. It suggests that by so doing, we are thereby reopening old wounds.
The reading challenges us to slowly examine all that is troubling us today to determine if they have any true validity and suggests using alanon tools to help us let go of past hurts and to guard our mind from dredging up old hurts to dwell on. great reminder
Tomorrow will be the 1 year anniversary of my divorce. Each time I look towards the past, I am reminded of how sad this all was. How much I lost. The expectations I had and lost. It is exactly "reopening old wounds." I will be utilizing my toolbox this week as I move past this date... I am truly happier, so I shouldn't allow these old wounds to get me down! ODAT!
Betty - thank you for the daily and your service. I too could get and stay stuck in past events and boy --- what a miserable way to live/be. Today, I am willing to do whatever it takes to lean into my recovery vs. 'that' simply because I prefer joy over the opposite. I believe that sadness is a healthy emotion, when it's real/relevant. Sadness over the past is no longer worthy of space in my brain, simply because there is nothing I can do to change the past.
Thank you all for your shares and ESH! My best days are when I can stay lined up with my HP, my recovery and stay present in the here/now! I've already golfed and we're having another heat wave....glad to be out of the heat/Sun! Enjoy your Tuesday all - (((Hugs))).
I had just posted regarding this great topic... I'm in the process of "unsticking" myself from words from a sick person's viewpoint. I'm turning the focus back on myself and handing things to my HP several times during the day. I remind myself that I can only control me and what's on my side of the street.
In the past, I'd grieve losses that I didn't know I'd be able to overcome. Today, those losses were also blessings.
My current loss may be a blessing too. I am learning and grateful for growing pains as I feel that I'm heading in a better direction even though I don't have a handle on what this direction will be.