Has the author of today's page been spying on my life? Like me, they always felt they could not be their true self when around other people. Tried to be what others thought they should be, in fear that people would not accept them as they truly are. In Al-Anon they saw that many others shared the same problems. They realized they did not have to live a lie, but could live life for inner peace instead of outer appearances.
Reminder:Living with joys and problems affirms my membership in the human race. What sets me apart is the path on which I have been placed to walk. No one can walk it for me, nor can I change my path to suit anyone else.
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It brings so much freedom to not have to be what I think others think I should be.I still work on the people-pleasing a bit, but I have mostly broken free of it.By the same token, others do not have to change themselves to suit me.If I try to force them, they may start lying to me in order to please me.
El said
Aug 9, 2019
Thank you, Freetime.
Very slowly it seems, I become more and more authentic and true to myself. Very slowly it seems, Ive let others be who they are meant to be also.
Great reminder! Happy Friday!
Ellen
bud said
Aug 9, 2019
Thank you for your service Freetime.
This is a great reminder that it's ok to be true to myself and it is in my authenticity that I will enjoy my life best. This is a huge process of continual renewal. Right now, I'm deliberately slowing myself down and doing my best to stay present and take each moment as it comes.
PosiesandPuppies said
Aug 9, 2019
Thank you for your service, Freetime. I so deeply appreciate seeing the Daily as it has become my touchstone... I check here daily, even if I don't post or start a thread.
I am working on myself and my childhood. I knew I was a people-pleaser, but I am just beginning to see how long this has been a part of me! I am now looking at the "whys." It is a behavior that is great in the workforce ( I am every employer's dream employee! LOL!), but it seems to come at the price of my health or sanity. Balance. That is what is needed when you are a "people-pleaser." Unfortunately, I inadvertently raised my son the same way.
Since he refuses any type of therapy or Al-Anon help, I just try and encourage him to live authentically, reminding him he can't please everyone all the time, nor should he feel he has to!
TGIF y'all! I am so looking forward to a peaceful weekend! I may just go to the beach and hang out! Make your Friday a good one!
&
Lyne said
Aug 9, 2019
Thanks FT for your service. Today's reading is a breath of fresh air. I don't think I had a self at all in my younger years. I was afraid, anxious, and put myself down as a way of life. I was so concerned about being laughed at or rejected, that many times I was just fearful of speaking what I thought. I was quiet and shy and fearful and and miserable. NO MORE! I'm out of my shell and some don't like it, especially my A, but I love my true self. I strive to continue to grow and be forgiving and compassionate along the way. Lyne
Freetime said
Aug 9, 2019
PnP, I relate to your idea that people-pleasing can be a good trait in the workplace! I have often thought that employers should recruit at Al-Anon meetings. We (and by that I mean me) often do our own jobs to 110%, and not only that, we'll do other people's jobs too! What a deal!
In my Al-Anon service, I am learning not to volunteer for everything that comes along. It is enough to do my one service job, and leave the other jobs open so other people can have that opportunity for recovery.
Hoot Nanny said
Aug 9, 2019
I have memories of not liking myself & wondering if someone could actually like me. I am grateful for perseverance & gumption. I am not who I used to be & don't plan on going back there. Especially to the dark places I go. It wasn't that long when I was hiding out hoping no one would be the wiser. At least now I have hope & belief in my higher power to keep me sane. I just have to do the footwork as I was told many years ago. You would think that it would stick by now. I can say, however, the path I am on today is promising. I have a new set of eyes. When in doubt I look up!
So, yeah, I do have trouble being myself. I actually kind of like myself. I am a wonderful & grateful child of God.
Kathleen
Iamhere said
Aug 9, 2019
Thank you Freetime for your service and the daily! Love, love, love all the shares and ESH. I have often thought about a chameleon - changing appearance to suit their setting. I felt like that for many, many years - changing my outsides to suit the setting. When I arrived @ recovery, I truly had no idea who I was or what made me 'tick'. It's been a process, a long slow process that continues today!
I still have to practice being true to self, but it's more automatic than before. I still have to pause and remember to put myself first and pray about how I am of service. It's in service that I can leave my center, so I remain as aware as possible, always taking my HP with me. I do believe that who I am, human and growing, is exactly who I am supposed to be. Accepting my own limitations has helped me accept the same in others. It's freeing to be able to disagree with another conceptually yet still love them unconditionally.
Happy Friday all - golf this morning, a nap this afternoon and cooking a big dinner tonight. Make it a lovely evening and here's to a peaceful weekend for one and all!
Has the author of today's page been spying on my life? Like me, they always felt they could not be their true self when around other people. Tried to be what others thought they should be, in fear that people would not accept them as they truly are. In Al-Anon they saw that many others shared the same problems. They realized they did not have to live a lie, but could live life for inner peace instead of outer appearances.
Reminder: Living with joys and problems affirms my membership in the human race. What sets me apart is the path on which I have been placed to walk. No one can walk it for me, nor can I change my path to suit anyone else.
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It brings so much freedom to not have to be what I think others think I should be. I still work on the people-pleasing a bit, but I have mostly broken free of it. By the same token, others do not have to change themselves to suit me. If I try to force them, they may start lying to me in order to please me.
Thank you, Freetime.
Very slowly it seems, I become more and more authentic and true to myself. Very slowly it seems, Ive let others be who they are meant to be also.
Great reminder! Happy Friday!
Ellen
This is a great reminder that it's ok to be true to myself and it is in my authenticity that I will enjoy my life best. This is a huge process of continual renewal. Right now, I'm deliberately slowing myself down and doing my best to stay present and take each moment as it comes.
Thank you for your service, Freetime. I so deeply appreciate seeing the Daily as it has become my touchstone... I check here daily, even if I don't post or start a thread.
I am working on myself and my childhood. I knew I was a people-pleaser, but I am just beginning to see how long this has been a part of me! I am now looking at the "whys."
It is a behavior that is great in the workforce ( I am every employer's dream employee! LOL!), but it seems to come at the price of my health or sanity. Balance. That is what is needed when you are a "people-pleaser."
Unfortunately, I inadvertently raised my son the same way.
Since he refuses any type of therapy or Al-Anon help, I just try and encourage him to live authentically, reminding him he can't please everyone all the time, nor should he feel he has to!
TGIF y'all! I am so looking forward to a peaceful weekend! I may just go to the beach and hang out! Make your Friday a good one!
In my Al-Anon service, I am learning not to volunteer for everything that comes along. It is enough to do my one service job, and leave the other jobs open so other people can have that opportunity for recovery.
I have memories of not liking myself & wondering if someone could actually like me. I am grateful for perseverance & gumption. I am not who I used to be & don't plan on going back there. Especially to the dark places I go. It wasn't that long when I was hiding out hoping no one would be the wiser. At least now I have hope & belief in my higher power to keep me sane. I just have to do the footwork as I was told many years ago. You would think that it would stick by now. I can say, however, the path I am on today is promising. I have a new set of eyes. When in doubt I look up!
So, yeah, I do have trouble being myself. I actually kind of like myself. I am a wonderful & grateful child of God.
Kathleen
I still have to practice being true to self, but it's more automatic than before. I still have to pause and remember to put myself first and pray about how I am of service. It's in service that I can leave my center, so I remain as aware as possible, always taking my HP with me. I do believe that who I am, human and growing, is exactly who I am supposed to be. Accepting my own limitations has helped me accept the same in others. It's freeing to be able to disagree with another conceptually yet still love them unconditionally.
Happy Friday all - golf this morning, a nap this afternoon and cooking a big dinner tonight. Make it a lovely evening and here's to a peaceful weekend for one and all!