and remember that it is not about perfection and expectations are future problems". Those are a few of the realities of the program. Acceptance is the solution to all of my problems and like all tools of recovery I must work them 24/7 along side my HP. ..and MIP. ((((hugs))))
DavidG said
May 20, 2019
((((((((((((((((((((( Jerry ))))))))))))))))))
Miharo, mate... ... I am pushing the edges of my recovery- at the moment- just in case there is more I can learn...
I always have trouble completing things... and suspect I am missing out- as a consequence. Could be a bit about
perfection- but this time I suspect not... ...
Bo said
May 20, 2019
All roads lead back to acceptance...that was a line I heard from a speaker at an alanon anniversary meeting.
In my experience, acceptance is the foundation of recovery. It always has been. It's step one for a reason! LOL.
If I have acceptance -- really have it, not just intellectually -- then my expectations will never be a problem or even an issue.
Thanks.
JerryF said
May 20, 2019
Thanks David for the thoughts and the possibility. My inventory is considering PTSD right now also which takes my mind off of the considerations of perfection and places it back on acceptance at times very often just to quiet the anxieties. I am continuing to abandon my self to God as I understand God.
Mahalo Bo for the "if" thoughts. The huge mental, emotional condition that keeps me working this program of acceptance. I have to remember that the relief I have felt after honestly experiencing acceptance in mind, body, spirit and emotions is a earned miracle. I am beginning to see my mind as a group of students kept after school in order to solve the problem.
I need to open the doors of the class room and let them all go and tell them and A grade is not probable.
(((Hugs)))
Iamhere said
May 20, 2019
(((Jerry))) - true that! That's my best response. What I seem to experience is 'life' happens, I question my sanity, sanity in others, etc. and then remember that I am not alone, I have a God of my understanding and all the tools we share and then I can 'breathe deep' and know even if it doesn't look or feel like it, all is well. You know I absolutely love what's written in recovery about acceptance: From page 417 of The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous: And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situationsome fact of my life unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in Gods world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on lifes terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes. Love and light brother, love and light!
El said
May 20, 2019
Expectations are future problems.
All roads lead back to acceptance.
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.
I am going to write these statements down and use them as a bookmark. Thank you so much.
JerryF said
May 20, 2019
I am blessed to have MIP and your experiences, strengths and hopes. When I feel the power that comes as a result of reading and considering the consequences of your shares I know that being affected means it is working.
Sister mahalo for going to the book and bringing out that message in its entirety. The entirety of it reminds me that all of our program works entirely not just fractions of it a piece at a time. At the moment I am feeling hopeful as my gut wants more. I will pray and meditate on the subject.
Mahalo MIP family. (((((hugs)))))
Iamhere said
May 21, 2019
I do believe, for me and my recovery, the answers are in the literature! I can find 'me' in so, so many places and can find suggestions/solutions as needed! So grateful for those who came before me/us and were willing to do what they did so we could be who we are!! (((Hugs)))
JerryF said
May 21, 2019
I agree also and also agree that any voice from inside our program is literature as I listen with the direction of those who have come before me. Being blessed. (((Hugs)))
and remember that it is not about perfection and expectations are future problems". Those are a few of the realities of the program. Acceptance is the solution to all of my problems and like all tools of recovery I must work them 24/7 along side my HP. ..and MIP. ((((hugs))))
((((((((((((((((((((( Jerry ))))))))))))))))))
Miharo, mate...
... I am pushing the edges of my recovery- at the moment- just in case there is more I can learn...
I always have trouble completing things... and suspect I am missing out- as a consequence. Could be a bit about
perfection- but this time I suspect not...
...
All roads lead back to acceptance...that was a line I heard from a speaker at an alanon anniversary meeting.
In my experience, acceptance is the foundation of recovery. It always has been. It's step one for a reason! LOL.
If I have acceptance -- really have it, not just intellectually -- then my expectations will never be a problem or even an issue.
Thanks.
Thanks David for the thoughts and the possibility. My inventory is considering PTSD right now also which takes my mind off of the considerations of perfection and places it back on acceptance at times very often just to quiet the anxieties. I am continuing to abandon my self to God as I understand God.
Mahalo Bo for the "if" thoughts. The huge mental, emotional condition that keeps me working this program of acceptance. I have to remember that the relief I have felt after honestly experiencing acceptance in mind, body, spirit and emotions is a earned miracle. I am beginning to see my mind as a group of students kept after school in order to solve the problem.
I need to open the doors of the class room and let them all go and tell them and A grade is not probable.
(((Hugs)))
(((Jerry))) - true that! That's my best response. What I seem to experience is 'life' happens, I question my sanity, sanity in others, etc. and then remember that I am not alone, I have a God of my understanding and all the tools we share and then I can 'breathe deep' and know even if it doesn't look or feel like it, all is well. You know I absolutely love what's written in recovery about acceptance: From page 417 of The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous: And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situationsome fact of my life unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in Gods world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on lifes terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes. Love and light brother, love and light!
Expectations are future problems.
All roads lead back to acceptance.
Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.
I am going to write these statements down and use them as a bookmark. Thank you so much.
I am blessed to have MIP and your experiences, strengths and hopes. When I feel the power that comes as a result of reading and considering the consequences of your shares I know that being affected means it is working.
Sister mahalo for going to the book and bringing out that message in its entirety. The entirety of it reminds me that all of our program works entirely not just fractions of it a piece at a time. At the moment I am feeling hopeful as my gut wants more. I will pray and meditate on the subject.
Mahalo MIP family. (((((hugs)))))
I do believe, for me and my recovery, the answers are in the literature! I can find 'me' in so, so many places and can find suggestions/solutions as needed! So grateful for those who came before me/us and were willing to do what they did so we could be who we are!! (((Hugs)))
I agree also and also agree that any voice from inside our program is literature as I listen with the direction of those who have come before me. Being blessed. (((Hugs)))