Being self-aware & remembering to take care of me. I am not selfless or totally selfish. I have to admit that my ah sometimes challenges me. I have to protect myself from becoming too involved in the disease & less in recovery. Recovery is paramount in dealing w difficult people. I have a new awareness of who I am &whose I am. So I struggle but I am no longer in bondage. I am free.
DavidG said
Apr 5, 2019
... K. ... reaching out with adult to adult conversations with others helped me heaps. Alanon was my first port of call- where I learned to trust and to speak my own truth... ... thanks for your share- it all does help ...
Iamhere said
Apr 5, 2019
(((Kathleen))) - great awareness and I can relate. I try to be mindful each day that I am a person in recovery trying to be the best version of me. My AH and A Sons also challenge me often and I consider myself a 'success' for the moment if I can just respond kindly instead of reacting in kind. I no longer have any concerns with being right, I just want to keep my peace of mind & serenity. (((Hugs))) - you got this!
Lyne said
Apr 6, 2019
HN-I could have written your post. I am also challenged by my A spouse, and through alanon I have found a way to feel free. I resigned from the doormat club! Lyne
El said
Apr 6, 2019
I loved your post, Hoot Nanny. The challenges are there, but the shackles are off. I feel the same. Congratulations on your recovery journey!
Ellen
-- Edited by El on Saturday 6th of April 2019 08:39:55 AM
JerryF said
Apr 6, 2019
I also remember saying that early on...."Free at last, Free at last, Thank God I'm Free at last" Keep coming back Kath. (((hugs)))
Bo said
Apr 7, 2019
The biggest problem I had with "bondage"...is that I didn't understand, realize, or even know, that I was in it. I didn't know I was a prisoner. I didn't know that I was being held hostage.
Even bigger than that...I didn't know that I volunteered to be all of the above.
My experience, my observations, what I've seen and learned...many, many people...do not realize or even know it either.
I loved your post, Hoot Nanny. The challenges are there, but the shackles are off. I feel the same. Congratulations on your recovery journey!
Ellen
-- Edited by El on Saturday 6th of April 2019 08:39:55 AM
I also remember saying that early on...."Free at last, Free at last, Thank God I'm Free at last" Keep coming back Kath. (((hugs)))
Even bigger than that...I didn't know that I volunteered to be all of the above.
My experience, my observations, what I've seen and learned...many, many people...do not realize or even know it either.