To the newcomers and beginners...a very important message...
Bo said
Mar 22, 2019
Whatever it is you are facing, feeling, hearing, seeing...whatever drama, chaos, havoc, and turmoil you are dealing with and going through...whatever horrific circumstances you are facing...please, please, please...be assured, be certain...that people here...have seen, heard, dealt with, and have faced...the very same things! We have!
And, most important...we have gotten through it. We have gone through it...and we have "come out the other side" and we have not just survived, but we have thrived...we have gotten better, gotten healthy, and we have found peace, serenity, and happiness...all through the miracle of the alanon program.
In addition...many people walk into their first meeting, or come here for the first time...in pain, hopeless, helpless, afraid, completely consumed and paralyzed by fear...I did...but it is important for you to know something else...and that is...
Do not be afraid to share...to open up...to ask for help...because we have all been there...don't feel uncomfortable because we are strangers and you don't know us...why? Because...you see...We are not strangers...we are just friends you haven't met yet.
All the best.
SunnyFrogs said
Apr 13, 2019
This was the first post I have read.Thank you for posting this.I feel hopeful.
hotrod said
Apr 13, 2019
Welcome Sunny the original messsage is so true living with he disease of alcohoismi is indeed a difficult experience so that entering alanon and searching for support from loke minded fellows is the best action one can experience. please do keep coming back as you are not alone
JerryF said
Apr 14, 2019
Sunny Frogs It was and has continued to be the solution for me as mentioned by Betty and the others. Until I gave up resisting and fighting new ideas I remained in the insanity and it got worse; not saying that is what you are doing. I surrendered completely and with a knot in my chest attempted to do what they were doing and of course when I did that life changed. I would not give up my present life to anyone for anything today. Whatever I have now that might work with others can be had for free. (((Hugs)))
Riley3 said
Apr 16, 2019
Kinowing that there is someone out there that understands makes me feel less alone. I dont have to be afraid by myself.
I hear the hope in your writings and that makes me smile. I can have hope that I will be okay. Just knowing that hope is there to reach out and grab I can breathe..
Bo said
Apr 19, 2019
Meeting makers make it.
Bo said
Apr 19, 2019
Riley3 wrote:
Kinowing that there is someone out there that understands makes me feel less alone. I dont have to be afraid by myself. I hear the hope in your writings and that makes me smile. I can have hope that I will be okay. Just knowing that hope is there to reach out and grab I can breathe..
That's a start...every journey...especially one of recovery...begins with one step...one step...make the above your first step...
Blueeyes421 said
Apr 22, 2019
I recently joined and I am at my lowest point . My childs father has been a drug addict for the past 10 years and Ive reached a new level of depression from it. The things that he has put my son & I through are absolutely heartbreaking. He has this hold over me where he makes me feel guilty for him when he is dope sick , where I see myself giving him money for his quick fix instead of paying my own bills. I cannot take this feeling anymore but on the other hand i feel like if I dont keep in contact with him he will die from the drugs & its killing me. Please say a pray for me . Thank you
hotrod said
Apr 22, 2019
Hello blueeyes welcome. there is hope. Plese search out face to face meetings. Prayers on the way
Bo said
Apr 22, 2019
I echo Betty's suggestion...go to face to face meetings! ASAP. As many as you can. Prayers, best wishes, and warmest thoughts sent to you.
ginnyc said
Apr 23, 2019
Feeling hopeful is the most important thing. There is a way out of the madness with the understanding and love of the program.
Blueeyes421 said
Apr 23, 2019
Thanks for the encouragement . Reading through all the posts people write gives me hope. I need to be a strong & know things will get better Eventually
1911A1 said
Apr 24, 2019
To me, hearing the phrase in the suggested welcome, "Whatever your problems, there are those among us who have had them too," was extraordinarily comforting when I was in those early F2F meetings. I realized that I didn't have to stumble around in the dark when there were fellow travelers in the rooms willing to shine a light on the path.
Whatever it is you are facing, feeling, hearing, seeing...whatever drama, chaos, havoc, and turmoil you are dealing with and going through...whatever horrific circumstances you are facing...please, please, please...be assured, be certain...that people here...have seen, heard, dealt with, and have faced...the very same things! We have!
And, most important...we have gotten through it. We have gone through it...and we have "come out the other side" and we have not just survived, but we have thrived...we have gotten better, gotten healthy, and we have found peace, serenity, and happiness...all through the miracle of the alanon program.
In addition...many people walk into their first meeting, or come here for the first time...in pain, hopeless, helpless, afraid, completely consumed and paralyzed by fear...I did...but it is important for you to know something else...and that is...
Do not be afraid to share...to open up...to ask for help...because we have all been there...don't feel uncomfortable because we are strangers and you don't know us...why? Because...you see...We are not strangers...we are just friends you haven't met yet.
All the best.
Sunny Frogs It was and has continued to be the solution for me as mentioned by Betty and the others. Until I gave up resisting and fighting new ideas I remained in the insanity and it got worse; not saying that is what you are doing. I surrendered completely and with a knot in my chest attempted to do what they were doing and of course when I did that life changed. I would not give up my present life to anyone for anything today. Whatever I have now that might work with others can be had for free. (((Hugs)))
That's a start...every journey...especially one of recovery...begins with one step...one step...make the above your first step...