The reading for Monday, 2/25, speaks about how alcoholism teaches self-neglect. The author relates that even with a high fever, they went about their day as usual. In program they have learned that it is OK to give themself extra attention when sick, rest when tired, how to eat a balanced diet, and even take a day off!
Todays Reminder: I am not a robot. Sometimes I get sick, or tired, or preoccupied. I will make an effort to learn what I can do to help myself feel better.
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OMG, this is my story. I cant tell you how many times I went to school or work sick. I did not learn how to take care of myself. In my FOO I saw people neglecting themselves when going to the hospital was called for. How could I have possibly learned what to do in emergencies? Well, I didnt. I can only say that I also have now learned how to treat myself differently and I no longer feel compelled to ignore illness, exhaustion, hunger, and health screenings. Its been hard learning to be a grown up, but I am getting there, Lyne
Iamhere said
Feb 24, 2019
Thanks Lyne for posting early - tomorrow is going to be a full day! I too went to work/school/other when I had no business - that's what I was taught to do! I have gotten way better at listening to my mind/body/spirit in recovery - progress! I too find it difficult to 'adult' at times, but am slowly getting better...
My AH has the flu and he's really miserable. He's got heart disease and has been having trouble breathing yet doesn't want to seek medical attention. I am working to stay on my side of the street and allow him the space he needs - it's still hard for me at times to let go!
Happy Monday to one and all - make it a great day!
hotrod said
Feb 24, 2019
Hi Lyne I can readily identify with going to work wih a fever and never calling in sick simply because it was not acceptable for me to be sick Thanks to program and learning how to keep he focus on myself I can now rest , and take a nap when I am tired go to the Doctor o meds. and admit I am human
Thanksa for your service
DavidG said
Feb 25, 2019
Thanks Lyne, it's the 25th here now anyways...
Once I was staying with my nana and I got the measles. I just rolled my sleeves down and carried on. Didn't want any fuss and bother. ...
PosiesandPuppies said
Feb 25, 2019
This is a funny one for me. "Funny" meaning odd. It did not fit my situation.
My qualifier was ALWAYS sick with something. Before I knew it was alcohol abuse, we spent thousands of dollars on getting him diagnosed with something. I just wanted him to feel better! I must say, it took me a long time to work through the resentments on that - all that money... and all along he knew why he had all those symptoms! On the flip side, he was the biggest baby when sick - I used to jokingly tell myself that he was my "second" child!
Meanwhile, I could NEVER be sick. There was no one to pick up the slack for me... some may tell me that I was enabling that behavior b/c I wouldn't "go down" sick and help myself, and allow him to "step up." You might be correct -bah! But I did try. With the worst of days, I would just stay in bed, hoping for some rest, but everything would just fall apart - kid not fed, animals not fed, boxes not cleaned - everything was put on hold for me to get out of bed. So I did get conditioned to feel, "Why take care of me? It will just be harder the next day."
As a result, I "learned" to just keep plodding along... work through the illness, or whatever was bothering me. Illnesses would last weeks instead of just days.
Today, because I am free from the chaos of addiction, I can take the time needed to take care of me. Not only that, I have learned to establish healthy boundaries, and the courage to enforce them. The funny thing is, now I don't seem to get sick... and my little, ongoing/nagging things have all cleared up! Ongoing stress is truly a killer! I do thank my HP each day I wake up!
El said
Feb 25, 2019
Thank you for today's reading, Lyne. I was my own worst enemy when I was sick "back in the day." I wouldn't trust anyone to do as good of a job as me....lol....so I would push myself to do and do and do and then be resentful of others! Made no sense at all. No one would even offer to help because they already knew that I would re-do whatever they attempted. Ugh. How arrogant I was about my importance.
Now, anytime I am sick I take full advantage. The is no reason good enough to not get the rest or recovery time I need. Now my only importance is that I am as important as others when it comes to being sick!
I have even been known to do nothing for a day if that is what I am feeling I need. The laundry, housework, errands, return calls/texts, doing for others can wait. I am important too,,,,,just not in an ego-inflated way.
High winds here last night and today. All school districts closed today after being off for President's week last week!
The reading for Monday, 2/25, speaks about how alcoholism teaches self-neglect. The author relates that even with a high fever, they went about their day as usual. In program they have learned that it is OK to give themself extra attention when sick, rest when tired, how to eat a balanced diet, and even take a day off!
Todays Reminder: I am not a robot. Sometimes I get sick, or tired, or preoccupied. I will make an effort to learn what I can do to help myself feel better.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
OMG, this is my story. I cant tell you how many times I went to school or work sick. I did not learn how to take care of myself. In my FOO I saw people neglecting themselves when going to the hospital was called for. How could I have possibly learned what to do in emergencies? Well, I didnt. I can only say that I also have now learned how to treat myself differently and I no longer feel compelled to ignore illness, exhaustion, hunger, and health screenings. Its been hard learning to be a grown up, but I am getting there, Lyne
My AH has the flu and he's really miserable. He's got heart disease and has been having trouble breathing yet doesn't want to seek medical attention. I am working to stay on my side of the street and allow him the space he needs - it's still hard for me at times to let go!
Happy Monday to one and all - make it a great day!
Thanksa for your service
Thanks Lyne, it's the 25th here now anyways...
Once I was staying with my nana and I got the measles. I just rolled my sleeves down and carried on. Didn't want any fuss and bother.
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My qualifier was ALWAYS sick with something. Before I knew it was alcohol abuse, we spent thousands of dollars on getting him diagnosed with something. I just wanted him to feel better! I must say, it took me a long time to work through the resentments on that - all that money... and all along he knew why he had all those symptoms! On the flip side, he was the biggest baby when sick - I used to jokingly tell myself that he was my "second" child!
Meanwhile, I could NEVER be sick. There was no one to pick up the slack for me... some may tell me that I was enabling that behavior b/c I wouldn't "go down" sick and help myself, and allow him to "step up." You might be correct -bah! But I did try. With the worst of days, I would just stay in bed, hoping for some rest, but everything would just fall apart - kid not fed, animals not fed, boxes not cleaned - everything was put on hold for me to get out of bed. So I did get conditioned to feel, "Why take care of me? It will just be harder the next day."
As a result, I "learned" to just keep plodding along... work through the illness, or whatever was bothering me. Illnesses would last weeks instead of just days.
Today, because I am free from the chaos of addiction, I can take the time needed to take care of me. Not only that, I have learned to establish healthy boundaries, and the courage to enforce them. The funny thing is, now I don't seem to get sick... and my little, ongoing/nagging things have all cleared up! Ongoing stress is truly a killer! I do thank my HP each day I wake up!
Thank you for today's reading, Lyne. I was my own worst enemy when I was sick "back in the day." I wouldn't trust anyone to do as good of a job as me....lol....so I would push myself to do and do and do and then be resentful of others! Made no sense at all. No one would even offer to help because they already knew that I would re-do whatever they attempted. Ugh. How arrogant I was about my importance.
Now, anytime I am sick I take full advantage. The is no reason good enough to not get the rest or recovery time I need. Now my only importance is that I am as important as others when it comes to being sick!
I have even been known to do nothing for a day if that is what I am feeling I need. The laundry, housework, errands, return calls/texts, doing for others can wait. I am important too,,,,,just not in an ego-inflated way.
High winds here last night and today. All school districts closed today after being off for President's week last week!
Ellen