The author of today's reading said they never felt like they belonged, a life long problem, but even in Alanon at first. But they learned about alcoholism being a family disease, even affecting the people who cared about the alcoholic. And this disease could be passed from generation to generation. The author realized that the folks in Alanon understood, and, the author could break the cycle by choosing recovery.
In today's reminder it says: In Alanon I find people who understand as few others can.
It is often apparent to me that people who are not aware about alcoholism, simply do not understand what my experience has been. But I recall not understanding about alcoholism either, even though I have been faced with multi-addicted people for many years. Out of desperation I decided to give Alanon a try, and through support, education, and ESH, I've come a long way. I cannot expect anyone else to do this. It is up to me to choose my path and follow it, whether I am understood or not, Lyne
Iamhere said
Nov 26, 2018
Good morning Lyne - thank you for your service, the daily and your ESH. My experience has been similar - folks who don't know about the disease just don't get it. They offer simple solutions and advice for a complicated disease. I did find others who understand best in recovery and they helped me through my denial relative to how this disease has affected me.
I am grateful for those who came before me and allowed me to listen, process, share, heal and deal as I was ready and able. I know today that my HP sent me to a healthy group where members were very patient, kind and loving and did not give advice, direction, etc. They just kept telling me to come back and allowed me to grow accordingly.
Like the author, I did not feel a part of for as long as I can remember. I no longer feel that way and believe it has everything to do with recovery in this program and trust in a HP greater than me. Happy Monday - make it a great day! I am continuing my hibernating as we had blizzards most of yesterday and I don't have to go any place - grateful!!!
PosiesandPuppies said
Nov 26, 2018
Thank you, Lyne for your service and the daily.
Al-Anon is the one place that "gets" me and my situation. I too am grateful for all of those who allow me to process in the only ways I know how, and are patient with me as I learn new tools.
Currently trying to navigate my FOO (who thinks I should walk away and never look back) and my actual life (which is trying to forgive my alcoholic). MY FOO just doesn't understand why I am still occasionally seeing my Ex's family (they invite me & Kid), and even have dinner occasionally with Ex. I try and tell them that my Ex was not a bad man... just a very sick man, and that I am trying to be a better "me." They just don't "get it" at all.
So I try to Let Go of their notions, and concentrate on me. I leave the discussions or the "work throughs" to my Al-Anon people... they understand.
-- Edited by PosiesandPuppies on Monday 26th of November 2018 10:09:29 AM
Pol said
Nov 26, 2018
I love al-anon. It's not easy but I feel like everyone knows what I'm talking about and understands. I don't know if I'm always doing the program right but I do try.
The author of today's reading said they never felt like they belonged, a life long problem, but even in Alanon at first. But they learned about alcoholism being a family disease, even affecting the people who cared about the alcoholic. And this disease could be passed from generation to generation. The author realized that the folks in Alanon understood, and, the author could break the cycle by choosing recovery.
In today's reminder it says: In Alanon I find people who understand as few others can.
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It is often apparent to me that people who are not aware about alcoholism, simply do not understand what my experience has been. But I recall not understanding about alcoholism either, even though I have been faced with multi-addicted people for many years. Out of desperation I decided to give Alanon a try, and through support, education, and ESH, I've come a long way. I cannot expect anyone else to do this. It is up to me to choose my path and follow it, whether I am understood or not, Lyne
I am grateful for those who came before me and allowed me to listen, process, share, heal and deal as I was ready and able. I know today that my HP sent me to a healthy group where members were very patient, kind and loving and did not give advice, direction, etc. They just kept telling me to come back and allowed me to grow accordingly.
Like the author, I did not feel a part of for as long as I can remember. I no longer feel that way and believe it has everything to do with recovery in this program and trust in a HP greater than me. Happy Monday - make it a great day! I am continuing my hibernating as we had blizzards most of yesterday and I don't have to go any place - grateful!!!
Thank you, Lyne for your service and the daily.
Al-Anon is the one place that "gets" me and my situation. I too am grateful for all of those who allow me to process in the only ways I know how, and are patient with me as I learn new tools.
Currently trying to navigate my FOO (who thinks I should walk away and never look back) and my actual life (which is trying to forgive my alcoholic). MY FOO just doesn't understand why I am still occasionally seeing my Ex's family (they invite me & Kid), and even have dinner occasionally with Ex. I try and tell them that my Ex was not a bad man... just a very sick man, and that I am trying to be a better "me." They just don't "get it" at all.
So I try to Let Go of their notions, and concentrate on me. I leave the discussions or the "work throughs" to my Al-Anon people... they understand.
-- Edited by PosiesandPuppies on Monday 26th of November 2018 10:09:29 AM