I started to be nervous about me going away and leaving my husband home alone.
trying to realize I cannot control what he does while I'm away. I want to enjoy my weekend without worrying about what hes going to be doing. I had to realize this is the start of surrendering.
JerryF said
Oct 18, 2018
Carla I learned to envision my alcoholic/addict wife in my open hand and lifting her up to my Higher Power and then bringing my hands back down empty. I was free at last.
Keep coming back (((((hugs)))))
Iamhere said
Oct 19, 2018
Carla - When I get nervous or anxious about any upcoming event, I am one who leans into the Serenity Prayer big time. There is just something about that simple prayer that helps me separate myself and my 'life' from others. I too lean into the Slogan of Let Go, Let God and make sure to take my HP with me. You are not alone and I hope you have a great time @ your reunion.
tiredtonite said
Oct 19, 2018
I hope you enjoy every minute of your reunion. It's a special event and can be a lot of fun! Your post really put a smile on my face because it's so affriming of the progress that can happen for so many in Alanon when we work the program. We may feel fear concerning our loved ones but we come to understand our responsibility and right to keep living our own life and be fully present in joyous moments. I think of the 3 Cs in this situation. I didn't cause it can't control it and can't cure it. The fact that you are going to the reunion is such an inspiration to newcomers reading your post who are trying to summon the courage to do things like this. I remember going to a party at the conclusion of one of my classes. My ex was in a rehab at the time. I hardly recognized myself all dressed up. It had been such a long time since I'd done anything enjoyable. I was in a constant state of worrying. Surprisingly, when I got there I was so distracted and so relieved for a reprieve from the insanity I just convinced myself that there really was nothing I could do concerning him and his disease and I soon found myself having a good time. It was long overdue!
I hope you make some great connections with old friends and new good memories. A little prayer to higher power admitting my fears and asking for care of my loved ones is a daily ritual for me. It helps me let go and worry a little less. Hope you have a great time. ((hugs)) TT
Bo said
Oct 19, 2018
Carla61 wrote:
I started to be nervous about me going away and leaving my husband home alone. trying to realize I cannot control what he does while I'm away. I want to enjoy my weekend without worrying about what hes going to be doing. I had to realize this is the start of surrendering.
And...you cannot control what he does WHEN YOU ARE HOME. This is really about ACCEPTANCE. Not just acceptance when you are away, but when you are home, at work, etc. -- acceptance is 24/7.
Focus on YOU. Focus on the weekend. One minute at a time if need be.
Feeling this way, having awareness of this...is a good thing. It gives you awareness that you have something to work on. It lets you know that you have work to do.
Carla I learned to envision my alcoholic/addict wife in my open hand and lifting her up to my Higher Power and then bringing my hands back down empty. I was free at last.
Keep coming back (((((hugs)))))
I hope you enjoy every minute of your reunion. It's a special event and can be a lot of fun! Your post really put a smile on my face because it's so affriming of the progress that can happen for so many in Alanon when we work the program. We may feel fear concerning our loved ones but we come to understand our responsibility and right to keep living our own life and be fully present in joyous moments. I think of the 3 Cs in this situation. I didn't cause it can't control it and can't cure it. The fact that you are going to the reunion is such an inspiration to newcomers reading your post who are trying to summon the courage to do things like this. I remember going to a party at the conclusion of one of my classes. My ex was in a rehab at the time. I hardly recognized myself all dressed up. It had been such a long time since I'd done anything enjoyable. I was in a constant state of worrying. Surprisingly, when I got there I was so distracted and so relieved for a reprieve from the insanity I just convinced myself that there really was nothing I could do concerning him and his disease and I soon found myself having a good time. It was long overdue!
I hope you make some great connections with old friends and new good memories. A little prayer to higher power admitting my fears and asking for care of my loved ones is a daily ritual for me. It helps me let go and worry a little less. Hope you have a great time. ((hugs)) TT
And...you cannot control what he does WHEN YOU ARE HOME. This is really about ACCEPTANCE. Not just acceptance when you are away, but when you are home, at work, etc. -- acceptance is 24/7.
Focus on YOU. Focus on the weekend. One minute at a time if need be.
Feeling this way, having awareness of this...is a good thing. It gives you awareness that you have something to work on. It lets you know that you have work to do.
Have a great weekend!!!