I learned on Friday that a childhood friend died from breast cancer. I had little contact with her in my adult life, but did send a yearly birthday and holiday card.
About two years ago we talked about making amends in my F2F meeting, and I realized with all the amends I had made, I owed her one. I didn't want to do it, I guess due to feeling ashamed, but about a year ago, I finally did. She was so gracious and said we both made some mistakes in teen years. She said I did not owe her an apology. We spoke of all the fun we had back then.
Were it not for Alanon I would feel so guilty that I had let that amends slide . I feel horribly sad about losing this person, for what she suffered, and no one had let me know she was near the end. So I am owning my sorrow and grief, but I have no regrets about the past. Grateful member, Lyne
PosiesandPuppies said
Oct 7, 2018
Sending you support, love and for light to dwell in your heart, Lyne.
serenity47 said
Oct 7, 2018
I am sorry about your friends. Learning and being willing to make amends is one of the biggest blessings of the program . I am so glad that you were able to do this for both of you.
hotrod said
Oct 7, 2018
I am so sorry to read of your loss and am pleased that you found the courage to make the amends Good program work Lyne
Iamhere said
Oct 8, 2018
(((Lyne))) - so very sorry for your loss! I truly am inspired that you were able to make amends and have no regrets. This to me is such a lovely reality that wasn't possible for me before recovery. I admire your courage and wisdom and thank you for this share.
Skorpi said
Oct 8, 2018
SO sorry for your loss, Lyne. I'm glad that you and your friend were able to reconnect and that you don't have regrets. (((hugs)))
Jozie said
Oct 8, 2018
(((Lyne)))
So Very Sorry for your Loss of your Childhood Friend...
What an Honorable thing you did last year, I'm Sure even tho she said it was Not Necessary, she was Grateful you reached out to her... What a Blessed Moment to Share...
Lifting you in Loving Prayers & Thoughts
Jozie
JerryF said
Oct 8, 2018
Beautiful Lyne...making an honest amend has also been one of the most powerful humbling affects of working the program for me also....Mahalo for bring that home. ((((hugs))))
I learned on Friday that a childhood friend died from breast cancer. I had little contact with her in my adult life, but did send a yearly birthday and holiday card.
About two years ago we talked about making amends in my F2F meeting, and I realized with all the amends I had made, I owed her one. I didn't want to do it, I guess due to feeling ashamed, but about a year ago, I finally did. She was so gracious and said we both made some mistakes in teen years. She said I did not owe her an apology. We spoke of all the fun we had back then.
Were it not for Alanon I would feel so guilty that I had let that amends slide . I feel horribly sad about losing this person, for what she suffered, and no one had let me know she was near the end. So I am owning my sorrow and grief, but I have no regrets about the past. Grateful member, Lyne
So Very Sorry for your Loss of your Childhood Friend...
What an Honorable thing you did last year, I'm Sure even tho she said it was Not Necessary, she was Grateful you reached out to her... What a Blessed Moment to Share...
Lifting you in Loving Prayers & Thoughts
Jozie
Beautiful Lyne...making an honest amend has also been one of the most powerful humbling affects of working the program for me also....Mahalo for bring that home. ((((hugs))))