I read a earlier post from someone regarding triggers and I have to say I have had a major trigger this week. My older brother is passing away and it will probably this week. He has been sick for awhile so it was not a surprise. I haven't been able to do anything for a few days, haven't read my alanon literature or prayed. I did go to a meeting a few days ago. But this is a major trigger for me. We grew up in an alcoholic home. Very traumatizing childhood and all. I have been focusing on the good memories with him however. He was my 'big brother'. I always admired him, tried to get his attention, my girlfriends had a crush on him. He was a good guy. So I guess I am grateful that I have focused on the good memories. This is a gift.
Iamhere said
Sep 17, 2018
(((Ginny))) - I am sorry about your brother's soon to happen passing. I love that you are working to focus on what was good/working instead of what was broken/not good. I do agree - that is a gift! Please know I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers for you, your brother and family as you walk this part of your journey.
JerryF said
Sep 17, 2018
Right on Ginny...that is a gift. I pray you re-enjoy it all over again and give your HP major hugs for allowing you to have it. Sending happy memories and blessings. (((hugs)))
tiredtonite said
Sep 17, 2018
I'm sorry you've faced with sad news about your brother. There are no shortcuts when grieving. Awareness is the beginning. Waiting is so hard. And letting go of someone we love is toughest of all. I'm a big believer in positive energy. When one of my closest family members was in the dying process, I could do nothing but think of them. Like you, my memories were good ones. Because of powers beyond my control, I was unable to be at their bedside at the end of their life. My feeling of love for them and loving thoughts of them reached an intensity I had never known. I thought of them constantly. I wanted to believe that beyond any pain, they were loving me and others in their final moments. I wanted it so desperately that the intensity of emotion made it real for me. It's a phenomenon that's hard to explain but I know it occurred. That mysterious energy gave me comfort. I hope you find comfort and healing one day at a time. It hurts to lose someone we love but the love we get to keep. (((ginny)))) TT
I read a earlier post from someone regarding triggers and I have to say I have had a major trigger this week. My older brother is passing away and it will probably this week. He has been sick for awhile so it was not a surprise. I haven't been able to do anything for a few days, haven't read my alanon literature or prayed. I did go to a meeting a few days ago. But this is a major trigger for me. We grew up in an alcoholic home. Very traumatizing childhood and all. I have been focusing on the good memories with him however. He was my 'big brother'. I always admired him, tried to get his attention, my girlfriends had a crush on him. He was a good guy. So I guess I am grateful that I have focused on the good memories. This is a gift.
Right on Ginny...that is a gift. I pray you re-enjoy it all over again and give your HP major hugs for allowing you to have it. Sending happy memories and blessings. (((hugs)))
I'm sorry you've faced with sad news about your brother. There are no shortcuts when grieving. Awareness is the beginning. Waiting is so hard. And letting go of someone we love is toughest of all. I'm a big believer in positive energy. When one of my closest family members was in the dying process, I could do nothing but think of them. Like you, my memories were good ones. Because of powers beyond my control, I was unable to be at their bedside at the end of their life. My feeling of love for them and loving thoughts of them reached an intensity I had never known. I thought of them constantly. I wanted to believe that beyond any pain, they were loving me and others in their final moments. I wanted it so desperately that the intensity of emotion made it real for me. It's a phenomenon that's hard to explain but I know it occurred. That mysterious energy gave me comfort. I hope you find comfort and healing one day at a time. It hurts to lose someone we love but the love we get to keep. (((ginny)))) TT