As I'm taking baby steps toward moving into an apt,I still haven't made it official,I do know what I got to do.
1st things 1st right?
ok I gave my bro several time frames in which to move out,not complying or cooperating,
he has been very hard to live with still love him to pieces despite all this,
he has places to move to,just that their bounderies are stronger than mine,
i never could get a bounderyies with him to stay,making everything much harder on me
It has been a roller coaster ride for sure ,brother is manic depressive,not taking his medo.self medicating.
yesterday I finally got brave enough to pack most his things up setting them nicely outside mhouse,
he came got them,wanted rest I done my best getting everything to him,his belongings,
now today I feel lots better,as I'm no longer an enabler ,yay me.
and I know bro will be fine now ,that's great news for me to.
i really like being alone,enjoying it actually ,I'm stunned,and numbed............thank you all for hearing me out,
hope ive said something here that might benefit another in some way..............hugs lu
lookingup said
Aug 11, 2018
One more thing,
I did take a whole diff. Approach to this personal eviction I'll call it,
There was no screaming,yelling,fighting,calling police,etc.
Everything went smooth and peaceful,I been able to keep my sanity through it all,
It did not have to turn into a crises sit,like in times past,I'm grateful for that,
Giving alanon and a great sponser ,and hp,that's everything's been ok,amazes me still at how working my program with my every sit.has never failed me ....
A nother said
Aug 11, 2018
Well done! You sound like you have peace. You also sound like you have guts!
lookingup said
Aug 11, 2018
Thank you Another,
I do feel like I'm a miracle in progress.
hotrod said
Aug 11, 2018
Good work LU You are a caring loving sister and I know this was difficult.. We do need to learn to take care o ourselves first and trust HP with outcomes.
Prayers continue. You are indeed a "miracle in progress"
Lyne said
Aug 11, 2018
LU, courage and bravery, that's what you have! It's so hard dealing with family I love that have addictions. It's a challenge everyday. I live half time away from my A now, and I cherish my time alone. Bravo to you! Lyne
Freetime said
Aug 11, 2018
LU, thank you for sharing about your progress! I'd call that "courage to change." One good thing about the hard times we go through... I believe it made me really appreciate peace and quiet when I finally got it. Best wishes for continued serenity!
Iamhere said
Aug 11, 2018
(((LU))) - love that you did the eviction with loving detachment - I so agree - Courage to Change fits well here! Keep doing you and working it - it looks great on you!
Aline said
Aug 11, 2018
You did so well, LU, and I agree, you are a miracle in progress, showed real courage. (((LU)))
mamalioness said
Aug 11, 2018
lookingup wrote:
Thank you Another, I do feel like I'm a miracle in progress.
Yes you are. You did a wonderful job in a difficult situation with the sibling that I know you love. Its hard, Ive had to do it myself. And it is not easy because the natural tendency is to look after our family but when it becomes a detriment to my mental health and my growth and recovery, I have to draw the line and if they cant respect my boundaries, then we have to separate. You did a great job. Maybe he will get the help that he needs. One can hope
lookingup said
Aug 11, 2018
Such great esh given here,
I'm not there yet,I am striving rather than merely surviving today going forward,
I don't post much,seems I've had extra adrenaline going today which pushed me to post and reply.
I do read your posts all of them,I love each n everyone of them.like a box of chocolates ,never know what I'll get to keep
As I'm taking baby steps toward moving into an apt,I still haven't made it official,I do know what I got to do.
1st things 1st right?
ok I gave my bro several time frames in which to move out,not complying or cooperating,
he has been very hard to live with still love him to pieces despite all this,
he has places to move to,just that their bounderies are stronger than mine,
i never could get a bounderyies with him to stay
,making everything much harder on me
It has been a roller coaster ride for sure ,brother is manic depressive,not taking his medo.self medicating.
yesterday I finally got brave enough to pack most his things up setting them nicely outside mhouse,
he came got them,wanted rest I done my best getting everything to him,his belongings,
now today I feel lots better,as I'm no longer an enabler ,yay me.
and I know bro will be fine now ,that's great news for me to.
i really like being alone,enjoying it actually ,I'm stunned,and numbed............thank you all for hearing me out,
hope ive said something here that might benefit another in some way..............hugs lu
I did take a whole diff. Approach to this personal eviction I'll call it,
There was no screaming,yelling,fighting,calling police,etc.
Everything went smooth and peaceful,I been able to keep my sanity through it all,
It did not have to turn into a crises sit,like in times past,I'm grateful for that,
Giving alanon and a great sponser ,and hp,that's everything's been ok,amazes me still at how working my program with my every sit.has never failed me ....
I do feel like I'm a miracle in progress.
Good work LU You are a caring loving sister and I know this was difficult.. We do need to learn to take care o ourselves first and trust HP with outcomes.
Prayers continue. You are indeed a "miracle in progress"
Yes you are. You did a wonderful job in a difficult situation with the sibling that I know you love. Its hard, Ive had to do it myself. And it is not easy because the natural tendency is to look after our family but when it becomes a detriment to my mental health and my growth and recovery, I have to draw the line and if they cant respect my boundaries, then we have to separate. You did a great job. Maybe he will get the help that he needs. One can hope
I'm not there yet,I am striving rather than merely surviving today going forward,
I don't post much,seems I've had extra adrenaline going today which pushed me to post and reply.
I do read your posts all of them,I love each n everyone of them.like a box of chocolates ,never know what I'll get to keep