Husband couldn't hide his enthusiasm for putting the new bed up, so we did it tonight. He is sober tonight. I think this is his way of showing me how relieved he is to be rid of his nagging wife! Painful. I feel so rejected, which makes no sense because I want out of this relationship too!
PosiesandPuppies said
Aug 9, 2018
(((((A nother)))))
It sucks to have these feelings. I understand. Been there.
He may be happy, b/c he now sees it as freedom to drink without any consequences. Because you are doing the separation slowly, he has all the benefits right now... you have all the pain. These feelings you have are hard to reconcile. Keep posting, keep reading, reaching out, going to meetings. Find that sponsor. Work on yourself and how you will live with the living together but separated thing... b/c it will be hard... I couldn't do it. I found I still had some sort of expectations of my husband...or just of a decent person period.
Wishing you Peace today!
A nother said
Aug 9, 2018
Thank you
Bo said
Aug 9, 2018
A nother wrote:
Husband couldn't hide his enthusiasm for putting the new bed up, so we did it tonight. He is sober tonight. I think this is his way of showing me how relieved he is to be rid of his nagging wife! Painful. I feel so rejected, which makes no sense because I want out of this relationship too!
I hear you...I get it. Don't allow his "posturing" and denial, and whatever else he is going to do, say, etc., to change you. Don't allow it to drag you down to his level, to his abyss, etc. His behavior speaks volumes about him...NOT YOU. Focus on you, lean into your program, and look at the wonderful life in front of you. Keep your head where your feet are.
Husband couldn't hide his enthusiasm for putting the new bed up, so we did it tonight. He is sober tonight. I think this is his way of showing me how relieved he is to be rid of his nagging wife! Painful. I feel so rejected, which makes no sense because I want out of this relationship too!
It sucks to have these feelings. I understand. Been there.
He may be happy, b/c he now sees it as freedom to drink without any consequences. Because you are doing the separation slowly, he has all the benefits right now... you have all the pain. These feelings you have are hard to reconcile. Keep posting, keep reading, reaching out, going to meetings. Find that sponsor. Work on yourself and how you will live with the living together but separated thing... b/c it will be hard... I couldn't do it. I found I still had some sort of expectations of my husband...or just of a decent person period.
Wishing you Peace today!
I hear you...I get it. Don't allow his "posturing" and denial, and whatever else he is going to do, say, etc., to change you. Don't allow it to drag you down to his level, to his abyss, etc. His behavior speaks volumes about him...NOT YOU. Focus on you, lean into your program, and look at the wonderful life in front of you. Keep your head where your feet are.