Today the folks in the next department had a b'day party for one of their coworkers. I've only been at the company a very short time but this gal has gotten pretty friendly with me. She was friendly with the gal who filled my job before me and tried to help her with my nutty supervisor. If you've been following my posts, you know there's been an ongoing hr investigation going on because of a situation between my boss and me. The folks in the next dept. were all brought in and questioned about what they heard and saw.

Well today I was invited to the b'day party for this gal I've gotten to know by her coworkers in the same dept, the dept that was brought into hr to answer questions. They didn't invite my boss, just me. I only stayed a short time but it really took the edge off for me. I don't know what anyone said to hr aside from the b'day gal who told me everything she told hr from a long history of witnessing her behavior and a few personal experiences with her as well. I didn't stay long because my boss would have been wondering where I went and when they offered to give me cake on a b'day plate I refused it. I know it would have only caused my boss to act out in jealousy because it's something she does and also result in her working extra hard in the days ahead to get positive attention from the people in this dept. But when I went back to my dept. I decided I should have something!  I went back down the hall and knocked on the party room door and told them I decided I could do a cookie with no paper b'day plate. They all lol. 

So considering my boss never introduced me to anyone, has never sent out a welcome about me to anyone whom I contact daily, I'm still making friends. Others have welcomed me by email on their own. When I feel inclined and feel I know who most of my contacts are, I will send out an email introducing myself. I remember a former coworker did that at my last workplace when she was new. It was a great way to let others get to know her. Some of it was information and some just fun facts about her. I don't need my boss to introduce me. I can ask my hp's help who knows me best and put something together when I'm ready. 

Thanks for letting me share with you and for the wisdom, encouragement and support as I find my way in this new work situation. ((hugs)) TT

That is for sure (((lyne)) We're darn lucky to have a recovery program even if painful experience is what got us here. It can be such a help in so many situations. Thanks for sharing. TT

Thanks (((everyone))) for the lovely things you've said and continued support. I am really trying to make the best of what feels like a very unstable situation. I'm taking it ODAAT and trying to find those gratitude moments. I learned this week that quite a few people were hired before me for this position and quit the job. The person before me constantly reported my boss. My boss has somehow survived all of those complaints. I'm leaning on my hp and just trying to keep my head above water. Every day I build on my Plan B (exit plan) a little more, applying to other positions, asking questions of a new friend/coworker about company operations and opportunities. It's nervewracking but I find ways to get away from my boss when I can so I can be left in peace. She is doing everything possible to isolate me from my extended network of coworkers, push me down with her remarks and actions. It must take a lot of energy to be that miserable. I'm beginning to feel pity for her. I'm looking forward to time off this week and am looking into fun things to do then. It's hard though guys, I keep having to take a breath and regroup after the weekend. Thanks for the encouragement and wisdom. ((hugs)) TT 

  Nice topic, TT...

                            I always found that work situations were a bit easier to understand than family. But I was working in a father-son situation- and that bought family back into the arena... liked your share, my friend- it gives me hope...  ...

Thanks (((PnP))) I appreciate what you said about falling back into old thoughts. I really do have to keep reminding myself I don't need to be fearful of the power this supervisor has over my future employment and then react to her behavior rather than respond to it. I can see since Alanon that I have always been taken care of by my higher power. It was something I was incapable of seeing before working this program. My life was lived in reaction to other not through thoughtful actions with a basis in what I wanted, what I felt, what I needed. I don't have to fear that "not responding" to her behavior exhibits to her that I feel in a one down position. I really don't know what she thinks or doesn't. My hp knows what she thinks and doesn't and is taking care of me. To just keep going forward with the next right action in a way that exhibits maturity, respect and professionalism is all I can do. More will be revealed. TT

Thanks (((Iamhere))) for sharing such valuable Alanon tools and for your continuing support. All positive thougthts and prayers much appreciated! TT