Ways to help myself, my qualifier and maybe save someone else's life
lgnutah said
Jun 20, 2018
We all have to decide what is enabling, what is helping, what matters most to us and how to restore our serenity.
I put an Uber app with my credit card # on my qualifiers phone. I pay the bill, no questions asked.
I might be saving my qualifiers life, the life of some innocent person, but bottom line it gives me peace.
hotrod said
Jun 20, 2018
I have done similar things just because it brought me peace -I agree
Iamhere said
Jun 20, 2018
I also agree and am so grateful that recovery allows us to make boundaries and decisions based on our situation. I learned 'shades of gray' thinking in recovery and it sure makes life easier than my black/white & right/wrong ways of before.
(((Hugs)))
Conflicted said
Jul 1, 2018
If that gives you peace and serenity, then it sounds like the right choice for you. The main thing is making sure you don't question things like you said, don't argue over it and keep yourself aware so that resentment doesn't set in towards your spouse for your choice.
We all have to decide what is enabling, what is helping, what matters most to us and how to restore our serenity.
I put an Uber app with my credit card # on my qualifiers phone. I pay the bill, no questions asked.
I might be saving my qualifiers life, the life of some innocent person, but bottom line it gives me peace.
(((Hugs)))