In addition to working on the steps and our own re overt, having a loved one with an alcoholic issue is never easy. In my own recovery and self-care, Ive been working on daily affirmations. At first they seemed cheesy, but for me they really work. In my own recovery, part of it is the loss of self-esteem and wanting to make myself better. We get so hung up on our alcoholic child, spouse, etc. that you start to lose a part of yourself. Its easy. Along with my early morning study and step work, I will use my daily affirmation and meditate on it (just repeating it over and over like a mantr). Then I go about my day. Ill recall it later if things get rough. It has helped me in just a few short weeks. Below are some resources to help you if youre interested. Happy self-care and recovery to you!
Peace!
Gabigail
Http://themavencircle.com
Http://shinetext.com
hotrod said
May 8, 2018
Hi Gabigail It has been quite some time since you posted- I do believe that self affirmations are important and that is why one of alanon's suggested tools is daily gratitude lists. These lists are intended to bring our attention to the good in our lives and our own important, often ignored powerful assets. We then share these listss with fellow alanon members thus reinforcing them within.
Unfortunately the links that you posted are not Alanon Conference approved so i suggest that newer members proceed with that knowledge
DavidG said
May 8, 2018
Affirmations were always a start for me. And yes, yes, at my first Alanon meeting I felt that the slogans and expressions were really "corny".
But I saw past that, and saw past the fact that i was the only pal in the group- gals and pals.
I suffered from extreme stress and pain- headache, ear ache, sinus- you name it i had it! I had real trouble doing Step 11- I was either hyper-alert, or would fall asleep from exhaustion. A year or more ago i got help with my breathing- I had really shallow breathing!
Same time I stretch out twice a day and push gentle into the areas of pain and trauma. It does seem to take forever. I had to get over the anger and shame that i was a failure, as a person, and I was never going to make it!
Okay... living in the present, here, and sharing a posting with you... is a part of the programme too! Really rewarding and healing...!!!
Thanks Gabigail... ...
hotrod said
May 8, 2018
David Alanon Slogans and expressions being corny was something my over confident "know it all self" felt when i entered program. When I actually started to use the slogans ,I discovered how powerful theses simple principles could be . I am so glad that by attending meetings, listening with an open mind I became teachable.
DavidG said
May 8, 2018
My mum was born here in NZ, but my nana came from the Welsh borders... both had a huge fund of pithy sayings.
One my mum used- to try and raise my feelings- was "chin up, chicken". I keep to the Alanon stable of slogans- most of the time,
though they are not as sacred as cal- conference approved literature. if a new slogan cropped up- it would likely to take years to pass
through conference, for approval.
I refer back to tradition 4- but more importantly, i try hard not to step over the line- that would annoy or upset other members...
when i began Alanon I was very anti-American; but anti-British as well.... Learning the steps, traditions, and all of the 12 step
philosophy appealed to my sense of adventure... and helped heal my survivor traits.
Visiting Stepping Stones, and [maybe more so] attending your inner city group, will always be a highlight for me- "my eyes have seen the glory..." ...
(((((((((((((( Betty ))))))))))))))
hotrod said
May 8, 2018
David it certainly was a pleasure connecting with you and attending an Alanon meeting together in NYC. . As for Tradition 4 which refers to groups being autonomous except in manners affecting another group or AA or alanon,as a whole. I do hope we respect that tradition here as well.
It is a pleasure sharing the journey.
gabigail said
May 8, 2018
Thanks David and Hotrod!
Sorry, I forgot about they arent approved Al-Anon sites. I use the Alanon slogans all the time, and use the affirmations as a supplement. Both in combination help me with my own recovery. Ive seen a big difference!
Iamhere said
May 9, 2018
Hey gabigail - good to see you.....Good for you that you've found creative ways to enhance your spirit and recovery. Keep coming back - you are missed!!
canadianguy said
May 9, 2018
Great reminder Gabigail...
When I first entered the rooms of Al-Anon, I was so confused and dazed by what was happening around me at home, I had lost all sense of my own identity. Daily affirmations were one of the many tools that helped me crawl out of that dark place, and they have a real knack for getting our perspectives in order, and get the day off to a positive start!
Hi everyone-
In addition to working on the steps and our own re overt, having a loved one with an alcoholic issue is never easy. In my own recovery and self-care, Ive been working on daily affirmations. At first they seemed cheesy, but for me they really work. In my own recovery, part of it is the loss of self-esteem and wanting to make myself better. We get so hung up on our alcoholic child, spouse, etc. that you start to lose a part of yourself. Its easy. Along with my early morning study and step work, I will use my daily affirmation and meditate on it (just repeating it over and over like a mantr). Then I go about my day. Ill recall it later if things get rough. It has helped me in just a few short weeks. Below are some resources to help you if youre interested. Happy self-care and recovery to you!
Peace!
Gabigail
Http://themavencircle.com
Http://shinetext.com
Hi Gabigail It has been quite some time since you posted- I do believe that self affirmations are important and that is why one of alanon's suggested tools is daily gratitude lists. These lists are intended to bring our attention to the good in our lives and our own important, often ignored powerful assets. We then share these listss with fellow alanon members thus reinforcing them within.
Unfortunately the links that you posted are not Alanon Conference approved so i suggest that newer members proceed with that knowledge
Affirmations were always a start for me. And yes, yes, at my first Alanon meeting I felt that the slogans and expressions were really "corny".
But I saw past that, and saw past the fact that i was the only pal in the group- gals and pals.
I suffered from extreme stress and pain- headache, ear ache, sinus- you name it i had it! I had real trouble doing Step 11- I was either hyper-alert, or would fall asleep from exhaustion. A year or more ago i got help with my breathing- I had really shallow breathing!
Same time I stretch out twice a day and push gentle into the areas of pain and trauma. It does seem to take forever. I had to get over the anger and shame that i was a failure, as a person, and I was never going to make it!
Okay... living in the present, here, and sharing a posting with you... is a part of the programme too! Really rewarding and healing...!!!
My mum was born here in NZ, but my nana came from the Welsh borders... both had a huge fund of pithy sayings.
One my mum used- to try and raise my feelings- was "chin up, chicken". I keep to the Alanon stable of slogans- most of the time,
though they are not as sacred as cal- conference approved literature. if a new slogan cropped up- it would likely to take years to pass
through conference, for approval.
I refer back to tradition 4- but more importantly, i try hard not to step over the line- that would annoy or upset other members...
when i began Alanon I was very anti-American; but anti-British as well.... Learning the steps, traditions, and all of the 12 step
philosophy appealed to my sense of adventure... and helped heal my survivor traits.
Visiting Stepping Stones, and [maybe more so] attending your inner city group, will always be a highlight for me- "my eyes have seen the glory..."
...
(((((((((((((( Betty ))))))))))))))
David it certainly was a pleasure connecting with you and attending an Alanon meeting together in NYC. . As for Tradition 4 which refers to groups being autonomous except in manners affecting another group or AA or alanon,as a whole. I do hope we respect that tradition here as well.
It is a pleasure sharing the journey.
Sorry, I forgot about they arent approved Al-Anon sites. I use the Alanon slogans all the time, and use the affirmations as a supplement. Both in combination help me with my own recovery. Ive seen a big difference!
Great reminder Gabigail...
When I first entered the rooms of Al-Anon, I was so confused and dazed by what was happening around me at home, I had lost all sense of my own identity. Daily affirmations were one of the many tools that helped me crawl out of that dark place, and they have a real knack for getting our perspectives in order, and get the day off to a positive start!
Tom