Son is in rehab, 3-6 month program. He can't call us, we have a restraining order, but he did call another family member. Family member let me know that he is safe, likes it there (!), and (finally) agrees that home is not the best place for him. I toyed with the idea of going down to the courthouse and lifting the "no contact" part of the RO, but then decided against it. I don't want to resurrect old patterns of communication. We haven't been in contact in a few weeks and after careful reflection, I think it's a GOOD thing. There was just ONE thing that tugged at the old heart strings....He said he wished he had SOMEONE to come see him when he earns his visitations in about 6 weeks, just someone to go have dinner with or go for a walk. This 20 yo autistic kid doesn't have a single friend in the world and his family has an RO against him...He said that makes him feel lonely, but he understands. Breaks my heart a bit actually......
hotrod said
Apr 24, 2018
((Moonandstars)) positive thoughts and prayers continue.
Iamhere said
Apr 24, 2018
(((themoonandthestars))) - I too am sending you positive thoughts and prayers. This disease is brutal on family relationships and we are struggling with the residual affects in my home currently. I am focusing hard and heavy right now on what's good around me and there have been some moments where it's as simple as they are alive and they are safe - just for today.
Be gentle with you and trust the program and process. Keep coming back!
Lyne said
Apr 24, 2018
In your situation, my heart would be aching, and my head would be wondering what the next right step is. I can only say that the tools of Alanon have helped me, and continue to. Program is probably a good place to hear how others handle things like this, to hear their experience, strength , and hope. keep coming back, Lyne
Son is in rehab, 3-6 month program. He can't call us, we have a restraining order, but he did call another family member. Family member let me know that he is safe, likes it there (!), and (finally) agrees that home is not the best place for him. I toyed with the idea of going down to the courthouse and lifting the "no contact" part of the RO, but then decided against it. I don't want to resurrect old patterns of communication. We haven't been in contact in a few weeks and after careful reflection, I think it's a GOOD thing. There was just ONE thing that tugged at the old heart strings....He said he wished he had SOMEONE to come see him when he earns his visitations in about 6 weeks, just someone to go have dinner with or go for a walk. This 20 yo autistic kid doesn't have a single friend in the world and his family has an RO against him...He said that makes him feel lonely, but he understands. Breaks my heart a bit actually......
Be gentle with you and trust the program and process. Keep coming back!